Graeme Orr

Relationship counsellor Graeme Orr talks about pornography in the context of infidelity

What is workplace bullying? And how can you put a stop to harassment in the workplace?

Returning to work after a mental health problem can seem daunting. Counsellor Graeme shares some advice.

Counsellor Graeme explores ways to support colleagues' mental health and how Employee Assistance Programmes can help.

Is communication a problem in your relationship? Counsellor Graeme Orr shares five tips to help break the silence.

Counsellor and author, Graeme Orr, discusses how counselling can help save relationships.

Telephone and online therapy have been with us for a number of years. Pressure on the availability of face-to-face counselling has been increasing th…

When you meet, you hope that your relationship will make you happy. You have found the person that will love you, make you their priority, and offer…

Good mental health is as important as good physical health. Good mental health helps us to perform well in our jobs and maintain a positive sense abo…

If you have a partner who suffers from anxiety, it can feel difficult to know how to support them. You may find that your partner’s illness is affect…

If you suffer from depression, you will know that it can affect every aspect of your life. It can make daily and family life a struggle. Depression i…

When there are unspoken, unresolved issues in our relationship, we can start to feel resentment. It’s destructive and it starts cracks that then driv…

Stress in the workplace is not necessarily a bad thing. Stress is part of what motivates us and what helps us to achieve. Stress in the workplace bec…

Most couples cite a lack of communication as the main cause of the breakdown in their relationship. When couples first meet they talk about everythin…

They say that knowing your enemy is the key to defeating it. What can we say about anxiety, and how do we use that to our advantage to win through?…

Social anxiety can be crippling, and you may find yourself struggling in a variety of social situations. You have a fear that people can see through…

While we all suffer from anxiety at moments in our lives, when it becomes excessive it can have a severe impact on our home and work life. Often we w…

It has been said that, “we understand death for the first time when he puts his hand upon one whom we love.” It is one of the greatest challenges we…

It is an overwhelming moment: natural anger, confusion, rage, disbelief and hurt when you realise that your partner has cheated. There may be conflic…

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our relationships end. We may have chosen to end the relationship ourselves or the relationship may have been en…

Many people know and live with the disruption that anxiety brings to their lives. The triggers are many and varied, because there are many types of a…

Have you ever noticed your judgement of yourself? The little voice in your head: “you are too fat”, “you look stupid in that jacket”, “no one likes y…

Many people have anxiety in or because of their working environment. Overcoming this can feel like an overwhelming task, especially when you need the…

Without a strong connection to our partner, our relationships can feel distant and empty. Striving to build that strong relationship takes both time…

We would all like relationships to be strong and to stand the test of time, yet there are many reasons that relationships founder with the pressures…

Often as counsellors, we do not see couples until the relationship is heading for intensive care. While relationships have their difficulties, their…

Anxiety is one of the most common conditions in the UK today. It can be very debilitating preventing us enjoying our lives to the full. It can get in…

We read that communication is the key to a good relationship. Yet, good communication does not come without making time for each other and practice.…

Sad, angry, frustrated, upset, tearful and relieved are all emotions expressed at the end of a relationship. Much has been written on saving a relati…

If you have low self-esteem, the world can seem a very hostile place. It makes us feel dislike and even hate ourselves or things about us. It is easy…

The anxiety free existence of small children never ceases to amaze me. When you watch young children play with paint they are totally engrossed. Not…

So who needs anxiety? The answer might surprise you. We all do. Anxiety is the way that we keep ourselves safe, a mechanism that signals danger. Yet…

“People keep telling me that life goes on, but for me, that’s the saddest part.” These moving words written about grief and loss go to the heart of h…

Much has been written on the topic of self-esteem and self-worth. High self-esteem is a prize that we all seem to aspire to. How do you have that inn…

Relationships change and it can be hard to deal with the changes that happen in those relationships. We may feel that, when we found our partner, we…

Although anxiety can seem inconvenient and uncomfortable, the body function keeps us safe. It is a very simple system: a small part of our brain (the…

Death: one of the hardest realities that we come to face in our life. Whether they were a lifelong partner, a sister, brother or friend, coping with…

Self-esteem by the rich and famous: “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than in our own…

Today thousands of employees will get up and head for the building site, or an office, the lorry cab or even an aeroplane cockpit, yet they all have…

In Britain each year 300,000 couples take the decision to marry. They buy a ring and a dress; they stand in front of friends and family; they vow tha…

Common, but rarely discussed, you want more or less sex with your partner. It’s a problem that exists in bedrooms up and down the UK, indeed some hav…

Many of us dream of winning big on the Lottery and retiring to a life of luxury. For all but a lucky few though we have to go to work for a living. F…

Anxiety; it can produce a stream of constant racing negative thoughts without an off switch. What if I embarrass myself? What if people think badly o…

The first Christmas without a loved one, can for many, be a difficult time. It can re-enforce the feelings of loss as we notice the empty space in ou…

Anger is of course a normal, healthy emotion that anyone experiences when they are going through a distressing or threatening experience. But this fe…

In a recent survey, most adults said that they would rather be very happy rather than very wealthy. Yet, most of us put our time and effort into weal…

We have expectations of our relationships. Perhaps they are formed in our childhood watching Disney princesses; perhaps it is watching movies where d…

Living with anxiety is like having a voice that follows you. It knows you and your insecurities intimately and uses them against you. It gets to the…

Perhaps it’s the universal thing that all relationships have – conflict. While there are different styles to resolve the conflicts, the relationships…

We all know the feeling of anxiety, the ‘nerves’ before an exam or the apprehension of walking down a dark street at night. For some anxiety becomes…

How many of our relationships are spoiled by anger? How often is that true of our home life and our nearest and dearest. Anger is a powerful, common,…

Can relationship counselling help us? A question posed by many couples every week. The answer is not a simple one and it relies on many factors for…

Adults can be bullied too. This can come as a revelation to many people. Often we just think that we are weak, or that we should stand up for ourselv…

Kate and John have been married for 15 years and never thought they would be sitting across from a relationship therapist. What had started as a beau…

Grief, bereavement and loss; simultaneously a universal yet a unique experience we will all feel. Everyone has or will suffer loss, yet how they meet…

Much has been written on the subject of depression, it is one of the most common mental illnesses in the UK today. It can be a debilitating condition…

Anxiety is a normal healthy reaction, it can keep us safe. Yet, when people have an anxiety disorder they have to deal with excessive anxiety. Their…

Infidelity, many would suggest it heralds the end of the relationship yet it need not necessarily be so. Infidelity is a huge emotional crisis and un…

Good communication is at the heart of a healthy relationship. It’s the two way street that forms the backbone of the relationship. Yet maintaining go…

“The oxygen masks drop down from the panel above and you should secure your own before helping anyone else.” This familiar message heard on planes a…

Grief, that intense pain associated with loss, most of us have experienced it and many of us fear it. Grief it has been said is the reaction to wanti…

Bullying is a school playground problem – or so many of us thought. Yet for a growing number of adults bullying in the workplace is a difficult and d…

It is the most common mental disorder in the UK today - anxiety - with one quarter of us suffering in our lifetimes. Anxiety disorders take normal wo…

Bullying at work is a common and serious problem. If you are the victim it can leave you isolated, anxious, stressed and can leave you with no real i…

Depression is an illness that more and more of us are experiencing first hand. We can have direct experience through suffering ourselves or know of s…

Often in our society people recoil from grief. Perhaps being unsure what to say or fearing saying the wrong thing. Yet being a companion to someone w…

Betrayal destroys trust and a lack of trust destroys relationships. If your partner betrays you in your relationship is it possible for the relations…

When your partner suggests marriage guidance or relationship counselling you are unlikely to be over the moon about it. Yet the reality is that it ma…

We all have a family. Often though that is where the similarity ends. There would seem infinite variety in families. We are shaped by the family in w…

Anxiety comes in many different forms; phobias, panic attacks, social and general anxiety. Indeed it is normal to feel some level of anxiety in new a…

If you have spent any time reading about relationships you may be of the opinion that the quality of the communication in the relationship, in some r…

Anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems in the UK today. Yet there are things we can do to take control of it. While we all get anxi…

Intimacy in relationships Sometimes we feel our relationships have lost their intimacy. That moment when we no longer have the sense of closeness we…

Are you looking across the room at your partner and wondering, “Where did the zing in our relationship go?". "When did our relationship lose is spark…

“I felt useless, worthless, as though I had nothing of value to offer. I felt as if I existed rather than lived, as though my identity had been strip…

Deciding to go to relationship therapy can seem like a huge step. Often one of the partners will be very reluctant to attend. Perhaps they fear talki…

Affairs, bickering, infidelity, abuse and fighting, there are many reasons that a relationship may come to an end. Yet one which is being seen freque…

Relationship therapy can make a real difference to a couple. It can help them reconnect, replenish and re-ignite their relationship. Yet what do you…

We all have days when the negative thoughts seem to pour in at our door. Our only defence is our self-belief and self-confidence. Yet often when we f…

Those who have seen anxiety up close agree it’s a disabling, powerful and wearing condition that can attack both the sufferer and their relationships…

Many of us will recognise the uncomfortable anxious feeling meeting new people for the first time, or being asked to “say a few words” or to give a p…

Clients entering relationship counselling, often talk about having a changed relationship, they talk about the spark having gone from their relations…

Conflict in relationships can be hard to handle - that moment when you can’t understand why your partner would do that, would think that or would exp…

Knowing anxiety What do Abraham Lincoln, Vincent Van Gogh and Adele have in common? They have all suffered, like around 4.5% of the UK population, f…

The workplace is one area of our lives where it seems we are unable to avoid conflict. There is conflict at many levels. There is the competing roles…

“I hate conflict”, the words spoken by many afraid of communicating their own opinion. Almost inevitably we come away from conversations and discussi…

Hostility in relationships “For most of the time we are a perfectly reasonable couple, then we will disagree and it’s no holds barred. We seem deter…

The household seems on the edge of chaos. Nothing seems to be happening. Parents are worrying about the children. The children are staying away from…

The journey to therapy can be hard. This can be doubly true for those seeking couples counselling. For there can be obstacles in the way of going to…

Everyone feels anxiety at some point in their life. For some it’s the dentist’s chair, for some the exam hall. Stressful situations, tight deadlines…

There has been much written about relationship issues. Perhaps it reflects the wide variety of things that can go wrong with our relationships, perha…

How well do you and your partner communicate with each another. Poor communication is at the heart of many of the relationship problems that end in t…

All it takes is a fake smile to hide an injured soul and no one will never notice how broken you really are. So often we wear that mask when the feel…

Anxiety, we all suffer from it sometimes. Perhaps it’s an exam, or the dentist, social situations, talking to strangers or your boss; we all seem to…

Anxiety. If you were to pick up a dictionary you would find it defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease - typically about an imminent ev…

Resentment can be a devastating barrier to good, healthy relationships. Resentment lets us hold onto feelings and events in our past that anger us, b…

Resentment is a difficult thing to tackle because it shows itself in many guises. There is a sense of being controlled by your partner by their actio…

One of the hardest workplace issues to face can be bullying and harassment. Bullying or harassment in the workplace is persistent, unpleasant behavio…

Almost every relationship will have ups and downs, indeed it might be seen as healthy in a relationship that the partners can disagree and can challe…

Anxiety, a simple word, seven letters, is such a pervasive condition. Anxiety is in all of our lives and in threatening situations is useful. Yet the…

When there are major problems in a relationship you may be asking yourself should I stay or should I go. There can be dramatic reasons for the end of…

Resentment in relationships is like a cancer in the body, it starts small and grows and spreads until it risks the whole entity. Many of us let thing…

We all want to have the best relationship that we can. We want our partner to love us, to prize us so that our relationship flourishes.  However, we…

Relationship counselling can seem like a big step for any couple. Many couples will go through their fair share of disagreements and fights in their…

It was my third anxiety attack that week. I made it from the supermarket to the safety of my car. I try to breathe, trying to control the wave of cru…

One of the biggest causes of relationship breakdown is resentment in relationships. That bitter indignation that your partner is treating you unfairl…

Much has been said and written on the subject of depression. In recent weeks we have been reminded of the very human cost of depression with the deat…

“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticise me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forg…

“Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all our other thoughts are drained.” – Arch…

Often the problem is that people confuse sadness and depression. They see you are sad because things are going badly in your life and (in the vernacu…

You fight with the most important people in your life because those relationships are worth fighting for; this anonymous quote is perhaps the reason…

Escaping depression is rather like taking on an octopus - it is a combination of attacks from all sides. Those who have suffered from depression will…

A surprising number of people in relationships today resent their partners. They find that they irritate, grate and make them angry and soon find the…

Before you criticise me walk a mile in my shoes, a famous anonymous quote, one which has a lot to say about how we are in relationships. One of the f…

We have all heard phrases like he wears his heart on his sleeve but the reality is that we spend a great deal of time suppressing our feelings. In ma…

It perhaps seems depressing to think that in a survey, over 75% of couples had considered counselling for their relationship. Is this really the stat…

A strong relationship can be one of the most fulfilling things in our lives. By contrast a failing relationship can be one of the most draining. The…

Brigham Young tells us, “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than in our own?” Or perh…

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on”. These words by Maxwell Maltz, underline how important good self-esteem is to…

We all know that relationships need work to keep them strong. Yet somehow over time our relationship can drift. Perhaps it’s the natural life cycle…

Anyone with anxiety will know that setbacks and attacks can come from seemingly nothing. A thought will enter your head and you can become fixated on…

“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.” These words might have…

Counsellor Graeme Orr shares 5 ways to start valuing yourself

Anyone who has been in a relationship, romantic or otherwise will know that it is not a static entity. Relationships ebb and flow, sometimes you will…

Depression defined in a dictionary is a mood disorder, that gives the sufferer persistent feelings of hopelessness, dejection, a lack of energy and a…

We all have a sense of value about ourselves, a personal value. This reflects our overall sense of ourselves and is often referred to as our self-est…

We hoped that we had left the bully behind in the school playground. That most despised part of childhood where another child and their gang hurt you…

“I don’t know them any more they are not the person I fell in love with!” For many this dawning reality is at the heart of their relationship problem…

When we think about popular programs like the Antiques Roadshow and similar, we may find ourselves well used to values being placed on the intangible…

“Some expression in your eyes,Overtook me by surpriseWhere was I?How was I to know?” The opening lines of Roxy Music’s anthem on lost love, perhaps…

The end of a relationship can be a devastating time. Like a death, the ending can be traumatic and can leave emotional scars that take time to heal.…

Anxiety makes you on edge, worried and unable to relax and be at ease. You feel a constant need for re-assurance that things are, will be or have bee…

We are all born originals – why is it so many of us die copies? We all have a picture of the sort of person that we are, and this image is at the ve…

“Anxiety, it just stops your life.” A simple statement from Amanda Seyfried. You might think that the American Actress that has played lead roles in…

One definition of anxiety might be an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, unpleasant feelings over something unlikely to happen. Anxiety strikes us al…

There is a myth that suicidal thoughts are more common at Christmas; yet, perhaps because we are more likely to be surrounded by family, Christmas is…

The loss of someone close can be devastating. Even when the death was expected, the impact, the reality can still be huge. One of the key things to r…

“Our job is unconditional love, the job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.”, this quote from Byron Katie, the American writer, show…

Mental Health issues (depression, bipolar, anxiety etc.) are the cause of as many as 50% of the absences from UK workplaces. Part of getting well and…

Despite the best efforts of couples and counsellors up and down the country, sometimes couples decide that it would be best for them to split up. It…

Sleep is something that we all have in common. The reasons that we sleep, the purpose and mechanisms are only now becoming clearer and many throughou…

We have all been anxious at some time in our lives. That anxiety before a big exam, worry before a presentation at work, butterflies in the tummy whe…

Modern relationships are hard work and perhaps that is why so many of us have relationship problems. Many articles will talk about the importance of…

With as many as one in four being affected by mental health problems, it can hardly come as a surprise that mental health can have an impact on the h…

Anxiety can strike us all. We may be anxious before public speaking, or before getting test results from our doctor or before the beginning of an exa…

With the stress of modern life it comes as no surprise that most couples have relationship issues from time to time. Each partner in the relationship…

Every relationship has its trials, yet most relationships have a certain toughness about them that can withstand most storms thrown at them - so long…

Part of the human condition is to feel anxious at times in our lives. Indeed, at times that survival mechanism that puts our senses on high alert can…

With a rise in the number of people being diagnosed with anxiety and depression, you will almost certainly know someone who has, has had or will have…

When a relationship comes to an end it is normal to be filled with many emotions. Many of these may be negative; often we are looking to assign blame…

“Depression has taken everything from me. It’s taken everything enjoyable. Everything I have aspired to be, everything I long to be, it has faded me…

A black cloud that hangs over your head, depression can drown out all other things in your life. It seems to dominate your thinking, often keeping pe…

Unsurprisingly, couples counselling is perhaps most about helping couples to fix their relationships. Most relationships, where both partners are wil…

Without exception, one emotion that we all find difficult to deal with and manage is anger. It is an unpleasant feeling for both the ‘giver’ and the…

A high percentage of relationships in the UK, unfortunately, fail. For some, it’s when the heady feelings of first love wear off and the reality of y…

Many of us will have faced a relationship that has broken up; indeed, a large part of the music industry’s output relies on this aspect of the human…

If communication is the lifeblood of relationships, then surely trust must be the beating heart. We know that trust is key to any relationship, and t…

Okay - so you have a good job, 2.2 kids in a good school, food on the table, money in the bank...did you forget anything? What about the health of yo…

With so many relationships in trouble many are looking for ways to address the problems. Perhaps wanting to get back the partner that they got togeth…

Most of us say that we want to be happier; yet ask how that might be achieved and we start to reach for our thinking caps. A few brave souls might sa…

Relationships when Conflicts Arise Conflict and disagreement in a relationship are not only normal but can, perhaps surprisingly, be a good thing; i…

How would you describe good emotional health? Most people would find that their definitions included things like control of thoughts and feelings; ma…

Do you find yourself with the 100mph head? There are thoughts of every sort and type zooming round your head. “What if they do this?” “What will they…

One of the most sought-after subjects on any counselling and relationship site is that of relationship counselling. While we all aspire to a great re…

In the last 10 years anxiety and depression have grown by 13%, about 1 in 10 of us are affected by anxiety that affects our daily lives. If you are a…

With the growing recognition of how common depression and anxiety are in today’s society, there has perhaps never been such a demand for ways to trea…

It has been said that love is a feeling, marriage is a contract, and relationships are work. Many have found a great deal of wisdom in this truism. T…

Counsellor Graeme Orr explains anger as an emotion, including when it becomes an issue and how to control it.

Depression and anxiety can be overpowering affecting all areas of life. Sufferers often feel alone or isolation. Perhaps believe that that others wil…

In a relationship conflict happens, it can be about small things or important things. It might be a specific event like an affair or it might be a lo…

Many people coming to counselling are conflicted by different seemingly incompatible feelings. People talk of knowing cognitively what to do but that…

We read that good relationships can improve life expectancy; they certainly improve the quality of our lives. Many people talk in therapy of the posi…

Relationship issues come in many forms. Counsellors throughout the UK will tell you that some of the key reasons taking people to relationship counse…

Perhaps the main thing that relationship counselling offers is the opportunity to make sure that you are in the best position to enjoy your relations…

It’s the cancer in relationships; it’s at the top of the chart of reasons to break up. It is, of course, resentment. It builds a wall between you bri…

It is the neglect of timely repair that makes rebuilding necessary. These words by Rev. Richard Whately, the Archbishop of Dublin in 18th century ha…

When a relationship comes to an end it can be difficult to deal with the maelstrom of feelings that overtake you. Perhaps the person has known the en…

“I can’t change the direction of the wind but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” These words were spoken by Jimmy Dean, country…

Depression is something that can affect us all. It is a serious problem and it needs concerted action if it is to be defeated. For those suffering fr…

This simple statement of self-belief can seem out of reach for many people. They have spent years telling themselves that they are not worth it or th…

One definition of confidence might be: A feeling or a belief that you can rely on yourself, someone or something. Confidence is so important to our…

Perhaps one of the biggest dilemmas faced when taking on counselling is that of cost. Especially in these days of austerity; can we afford the luxury…

At this time of the year so many of our thoughts turn to our New Year resolutions. Often we have great ideas and indeed intentions of putting things…

mbrace new traditions, volunteer, or reflect on cherished memories. Turn solitude into meaningful celebration.

Couples counsellors will tell you that couples come to see them for many reasons. Some of the most common examples are money worries, infidelity, chi…

Relationships have problems and breakdown for a number of reasons, typically finance, sexual problems or infidelity and arguments and family problems…

Do you worry about how often you worry about things that might happen, however unlikely. While into every life a little anxiety falls for some it fee…

Like the rest of the population men get depression, yet they seem reluctant to step forward and get treatment. Do they feel weak or ashamed, embarras…

Sometimes things just don’t seem right. We find that we don’t feel the same in a relationship, yet you can’t remember when it changed; you can’t reme…

“If I’m honest, I’m not sure sitting in a room telling a stranger things I wouldn’t dare share with my family and friends will help. I just don’t see…

“I can’t promise you a perfect relationship, but what I can promise you is that as long as we’re trying I’m staying” this often quoted saying has mor…

To talk about adults without talking about their sex drives is like talking about a window without the glass. – Grace Metalious In many relationship…

‘Tis the season to be jolly! Everyone loves Christmas: the tree, the decorations, goodwill to all men, being with family and friends. Eat drink and b…

Sticks and stones are hard on bones, Aimed with angry art, Words can sting like anything, But silence breaks the heart. This poem by Phyllis McGi…

“When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.” Elizabeth Bowden although speaking a number of years ago has perhaps unwittingly…

With self-harm returning to the news in recent weeks there is an opportunity for us all to reach out to this much misunderstood group of people. The…

For a long time now I have felt that my relationship was in trouble. There was no big crisis, there was no affair in some ways that might have been b…

With a recent report finding that 1 in 12 young people self-harm, the time has come to square up to this cry for help from some of the most vulnerabl…

“When I fall in love it will be forever” is the Nat King Cole hit that perhaps we all aspire to at the start of a relationship. We want to find a par…

Although stress is not an illness in itself it has some very unpleasant symptoms that can lead to illness.  If you can recognise the signs and sympto…

Here is Catherine's story, Catherine's story is typical of many people, who suffer from depression. Sufferers say that it’s very difficult to imagine…

“I was driving the kids to school and the guy just pulled in front of me no signal nothing. My rage just boiled over and I found myself racing after…

One definition of anxiety would be a psychological state characterised through emotional, cognitive and behaviour practices where the sufferer experi…

Self-Injury or self-harm is still a subject that we as a society find difficult to talk about. It is rarely in the mainstream media and there is unea…

In most relationships the sexual drive or libido is different in the partners. Of course, often when we start a relationship it feels like it will la…

My life was ripped apart. My world was tipped upside down, in confusion disbelief.  Betrayal, hurt, heart torn out, our life shattered; all of these…

The Office for National Statistics [ONS} revealed at the start of the year that there was a 5% increase in the divorce rate. If we translate this int…

Perhaps the most common mental health issue today is that of anxiety and depression. The symptoms can be varied, wide ranging and unpleasant. Anxiety…

What can a counsellor bring to your relationship problems? All marriages and relationships have their difficulties. Of course often it is a relativel…

It is tempting to compare our relationships to others; perhaps this couple seems to go out more, or that couple is more loving in public, or perhaps…

Very few people escape painful relationship issues in their lives. Death, serious injury, financial issues...all are very real issues in today’s soci…

Increasingly couples are seeking counselling to help with problems in their relationships and marriages. The reasons for conflict are many and varied…

Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before - it takes something from him. - Louis L…

There is a secret world of shame and guilt. An addiction which appears to be sweeping not just the UK but the world, is that of internet porn addicti…

Is your relationship under pressure? Then you are not alone, as the economic realities hit, couples in the UK find their relationship under increasin…

A subject that comes up often when couples go to counselling is that of betrayal. It is not what was done but rather how it was done. The definition…

Sometimes as you go about your daily activities, you are suddenly hit by an old memory, something awkward or embarrassing. Perhaps a situation where…

Men are much more reluctant than women to look for help for their problems. Studies have shown that today’s man is more likely to be suffering from a…

Clowns paint masks on their faces to show if they are happy or sad. Many people live their lives wearing a ‘mask’ acting the person they think that t…

Death is the universal constant which connects us all, wealth or poor, famous or unknown. Yet dealing with death seems a unique process to us all. Gr…

When a friend or member of the family dies, seeing a bereavement counsellor can often help. While it is not needed in every case, seeing a counsellor…

A considerable part of the work of counsellors is with people suffering from depression and anxiety.  What is depression and it there anything which…

One definition of mental health might be an individual’s ability to enjoy life, a balance between different life areas (family, work, social, spiritu…

Wikipedia defines happiness as “a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment satisfaction, pleasure or joy”. The problem with this is it i…

In today’s hectic world we are surrounded by demands on our time. There is noise both physical and emotionally. We all feel stressed from time to tim…

It is a fear that can come from the blue skies and grip our heart.  There is an intensive feeling of fear and apprehension, often with no obvious cau…

Madness it is said is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. As we reach that time in the year when many of us set ourse…

What is being aloneGreta Garbo said I want to be alone. While most of us know that feeling of wanting to get away from everyday life, loneliness can…

Do you like yourself? Are you someone who deserves happiness? If you find these questions hard perhaps you suffer from low self-esteem. Self-esteem i…

Insanity it is said is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. So often as a counsellor, I find this to be true. Clients…

In the 21st Century too many of us take our emotional health for granted. There is a myriad of people and services telling us how to look after our p…

Perhaps you have a problem? Is there no-one around who can help? Then perhaps if you find a registered counsellor that they can help.As a therapist w…

Is it a reasonable questionAs a counsellor working in the private sector in Glasgow, I am often challenged: “In today’s economic climate, is therapy…