Being human is often really hard. We can sometimes feel trapped and overwhelmed by our thoughts and feelings or by situations that challenge us. We can lose our way, lose contact with what is most meaningful and important to us. Difficult relationships (or lack of relationships), as well as ongoing problems with family, colleagues, or people in general, can send us into a tailspin, causing us to feel lost and vulnerable.
A moment of crisis, as painful as that always is, can also be a time for us to re-make ourselves and try new ways of living and being.
The current fallout from the coronavirus is the latest collective trauma to challenge us. But we all have personal struggles and traumas to deal with too. When this happens, life may start to feel flat and featureless, or just too much to handle. This is the time to seek help if you can.
I have over a decade's worth of experience, both in the NHS and privately, helping clients with an extensive range of personal issues ranging from anxiety and depression to relationship problems (including couples therapy and dating issues), sexuality, addiction, trauma, PTSD, work problems, and the many other ways in which we human beings suffer. Together we can explore what factors might be contributing to your struggles, looking at the deeper roots of these problems as well as focusing on the here-and-now to help you lead a more fulfilling life.
Whatever difficulties you find yourself in, you do not have to face these issues alone. Working together, we can do something to alleviate the distress you’re in. I offer a safe, confidential environment where you can unburden yourself to someone who is completely focused on you and your needs. Here you can share and talk through the feelings and difficulties you may be having. Your background and life situation are unique; for this reason I provide a tailored, integrative approach, structured around your specific needs and requirement.
For more about how we would do this, please have a look at my How I Work page.
If you’d like to arrange an initial consultation to talk more about whatever it is you’re going through, please drop me a line via email or send me a text to set this up on 07804197605.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Training, qualifications & experience
QUALIFICATIONS AND EXPERIENCE:
-Private Practice (Coaching/Psychotherapy) and Consultancy - 2008 to present
-ACT 1 & 2 with Steven C. Hayes - 2018
-EMDR: Principles, Procedures & Protocols - 2017
-Relate CPCAB (Levels 4&5)
-Schema Therapy Training and ISST Accreditation - 2013 to 2014
-Post Graduate Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - 2011 (King's College London)
-Professional Certificate in MBCT/MBSR for groups & individuals - 2010
-NHS General Practice Counsellor/Psychotherapist (5 years) - 2008 to 2013
-MA in Integrative Psychotherapy (mainly psychodynamic) - 2008 (LMU)
-Addictions counselling training & 3 years volunteering experience - 2007
-Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling - 2005 (Mary Ward Centre)
-Samaritans Volunteer training & 10 years experience - 1995
-BA in English Literature - 1991 (Cambridge University)
SHORT PERSONAL BIO:
I was born and received my primary education in South Africa, emigrating to the UK in 1986 at the age of 15. After graduating from University, I worked as a teacher and later as a lecturer. I retrained to become a psychotherapist in my early 30s.
These experiences and others have been useful in giving me an understanding of some of the issues we face when we experience some kind of radical displacement in our lives, be it geographical, emotional, or circumstantial. I also believe it's very important to be sensitive and open to questions of diversity and "feelings of otherness" whether stemming from age, ethnicity, gender, race, socio-economic status or sexual orientation.
Life can be really hard and alienating at times, and I think it's useful to have a therapist on your side who gets that from some of their own lived experience rather than just mouthing these concepts as a bunch of impressive or nice-sounding words.
Please feel free to get in touch either by email or telephone (07804197605) if you would like to find out anything else about me or the kind of therapy I offer.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
From £50.00 to £60.00
Concessions offered for
Daytime appointments (50 minutes): £50
Evening appointments (50 minutes): £60
Couples therapy (75 minutes): £60 per person
Initial consultation (50 minutes): see above - This also includes a written summary of the issues we discussed in your consultation, along with some initial indications about how these might be tackled by us together.
Concessionary rates: It's important for me, ethically, that private therapy doesn't cost you an arm and a leg. For this reason, I keep my fees well below the current market rate for my 20 years' experience and training. I also offer daytime appointments that are £10 cheaper than my evening slots.
I do have a few concessionary spaces on top of this (10% less for daytime sessions), but there may be a longer wait for these. Please get in touch and let's see what we can do if the cost of weekly private therapy is a genuine barrier to you.
TESTIMONIALS FROM FORMER CLIENTS [pseudonyms used*]
"I've really appreciated your care, warmth, and professionalism. You're just what the doctor ordered, and this doctor will certainly be recommending you to family and friends from now on!"
-Dipesh, 40, GP [email, 2019]
"Steve, you've been so incredibly helpful to me, thank you! I can't believe how far I've come in just a few months. When I first came to see you all of this anxiety and OCD stuff was keeping me literally IMPRISONED in my own home. Never thought I'd be out and about again, often with struggles and anxiety, but what a change. I know I've still got some way to go, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. In fact, I might even be standing in that light, and it feels good."
-Mary, 45, Full Time Mum & Children's Book Illustrator [email, 2019]
"I feel much more in touch with myself, my own needs and emotions (it's been a very tearful year but in a good way!), and am more comfortable being assertive, vulnerable and asking for help. My relationships with family and friends feel more stable and open, and people have commented on how calm and relaxed I seem - I generally feel more self-confident. To top it off, and completely out of the blue in the autumn I met someone who is now my boyfriend. The connection I feel with him is stronger than anything I've felt and even though it's early and he's based over in Milan I have a real sense that we're going build a future together. So thank you for helping me lay the foundations that have enabled all this to happen! Of course it's not all perfect and in particular I still have a strong self-critical voice, but it's been amazing to feel this sense of growth and experience a general sense of purpose and excitement about life."
-Dan, 30, Qualitative Researcher [email, 2019]
"I realised I never really got around to thanking you or saying a proper goodbye after our last session.
You might be interested to know that I am doing very well these days. I changed jobs in July and am so much happier in my new job....The big news though is that we are expecting our first baby (a boy) in Feb! I have been assigned a midwife who specialises in mental health am still taking a low dosage of citalopram but so far so good and feeling excited!...
Thanks for being a great therapist! You really were the best I've had."
-Tiya, Data Analyst (30) [Christmas Card, 2018]
"Steve, here's a little text for your to stick on your website/wherever. I really appreciate everything.
As a young male I found it difficult to admit to myself that I suffered from depression. I'd often tell myself to 'man-up' or to just have a few beers and get on with it. Eventually I sought professional help and realised that finding the right psychotherapist was difficult, but soon enough I met Steve and very quickly felt that I had nothing to be ashamed of. I became more at ease with my emotions and began to understand the effect it has on me.
Despite my wanting to pay for multiple sessions every week, Steve suggested that in my condition, I would benefit most from just one session per week. He was absolutely right. He introduced me to some simple but effective mindfulness techniques and also suggested little things that I can do to find a happier sense of being on a day-to-day basis. I'd gone from fighting my emotions to embracing and nourishing them.
I'm now in a happier place and will be using a couple of Steve's beautifully simple techniques to ease my way through the negative moments in my life. I know I will want Steve's support on-and-off for many years, but thanks to him, I know I am able to face my daily mental challenges alone.
Thanks for everything!"
-Sahan, Technology Consultant [email, 2018]
“It was very difficult for me to find a therapist that I could get on with and talk to easily. After trying 3/4 different people, I was extremely lucky to meet Steve. He has a warm approach, with a lot of 'no nonsense' sensibility thrown in and this works very well for me. I would recommend him to anyone looking for help.”
-Rishal, Solicitor (34) [email, 2018]
“I began seeing Steve when I was at a very low ebb, and have been with him for two years now. A lot of things have changed for me, and I have him to thank for listening and helping me get clearer on a lot of things that have been bothering me for a while.”
-Uma, Graphic Designer (29) [email, 2018]
"Thank you so much again for your warm ways of listening, I have found your approach very sharp and helpful in terms of identifying my main vulnerabilities and coping mechanisms, as well as giving me the tools I now need to get a bit closer to the real me and the life I need to be living."
-Anna, Community Care Solicitor (32) [email, 2018]
“The thing about Steve is that he really cares about you but also has a brilliant mind which I find a privilege to access. His approach and methods are wonderfully creative and if you add to that his humanity, you've got yourself a rather special therapist.”
-Mimi, Artist (50) [email, 2018]
“As soon as I met Steve and started talking to him, I felt at ease and comfortable. I had never had any therapy before, and was extremely anxious. But he immediately made me feel he was listening and understood me. He gives me time to think about what I want to say, and even if I repeat myself over and over again- which I do - he is patient and asks very pertinent questions. It has been a life -changing opportunity to me to have therapy with Steve, and helped me immeasurably.”
-Lucy, Full Time Mum (32) [email, 2017]
“Steve is a compassionate therapist, who always listens and encourages me to think deeply about what I am saying. He is very patient and always makes me feel that my problems aren't stupid or even ridiculous. In the last year since I started therapy with him, many things have changed in my life and I owe this all to Steve's help.”
-Chirag, Community Fundraiser (45) [email, 2017]
"I have found Steve to be a very insightful and skilled therapist. He has the ability to help me understand myself better and also provides practical solutions to help me address my issues. I have had individual and group therapy on and off for more than 20 years and Steve is up there with the best. I recommend him unreservedly."
-George, Probationary Services Manager (62) [email, 2016]
"Steve's sharp intellect, knowledge, humility along with a non judgemental approach and sensitive understanding of the human condition and it's complexities has helped me enormously through the years. I would highly recommend him to anyone."
-Beatrice, Musicologist (72) [email, 2016]
[*Clients were all asked when giving testimonials to supply a pseudonym in order to protect their confidentiality.]