About me
Individuals & Couples Counsellor
I’m a fully qualified individual & couples therapist with 10 years of clinical experience. I practice across the UK and in-person from my office in Sevenoaks, Kent.
I specialise in a range of relationship challenges affecting individuals and couples. In our work together I help you understand yourself more clearly and deeply (as well as your partner if you’re coming as a couple). Finding out why a pattern, dynamic or a feeling is happening is the first step towards learning how to do things differently.
I aim to share my clinical observations with thought and care. I avoid simply confirming what is comfortable; instead, together, piece by piece, we confront the realities that are perpetuating your current difficulties.
I enjoy working with a diverse cross-section of society spanning a wide range of ages, cultures, belief systems, and social backgrounds. I am deeply curious about these differences and how they shape us knowingly and unknowingly.
While my clients often have diverse lived experiences, they are frequently highly analytical, deeply reflective, and perceptive individuals. Because of this depth, they have often spent years being ‘missed’, and assuming that their inner world is simply too complex for others to truly grapple with and understand.
My training included the major psychological models but also didn’t just focus on the removal of your symptoms; but on cultivating a way of being in your life and relationships that brings you deeper connection and meaning.
Individual Counselling
I work with a variety of personal issues, from anxiety and depression to low self-esteem and trauma. However, I have a deep passion and skill in working with relationships. I have a special interest in understanding why people have the kinds of relationships they do, and why they might have struggled to find or maintain a secure attachment.
I am to cultivate a robust and secure therapeutic relationship with you that permits you to explore and articulate what has previously been unknowable or unsayable. Beyond the relief that this provides, this depth of work shifts your relationship with yourself, which then fundamentally changes how you interact with the world, and others.
Couples Counselling
In my work with couples, I am here for your relationship rather than to take sides. My job is to help you both uncover the roles you have played in creating your current dynamic. We will look behind the scenes to understand why simple conversations quickly spiral into exhausting arguments.
Once we understand what the conflict is really about—rather than just focusing on surface communication styles—the underlying issues can be worked through.
While I always aim to help you proactively strengthen your bond I also facilitate separations. If you choose to part, we will do so with a great deal of consideration and with as much kindness as possible, ensuring the process informs and enriches how you manage new relationships going forward, as well as the current relationship if you will be coparenting together.
Common Challenges I Help You Resolve:
The Negative Cycle: Repeatedly having the same argument that wears you both down and leaves you feeling completely stuck.
Betrayal & Affairs: Navigating the painful, complex aftermath of an affair to see if trust can be rebuilt.
The "Dilemma": Facing a lack of connection or sexual desire, and worrying about the "I love you, but I’m not in love with you" phenomenon.
Dating & Intimacy Challenges: Being single with little or no romantic or sexual experience, while carrying a persistent worry that something is "wrong" with you.
Relationship Anxiety: Spending hours caught in anxious, exhausting loops questioning if you are with the right partner.
Stepping into Commitment: Wanting to proactively strengthen your foundation before marriage or moving in together.
Mixed Agendas: Facing uncertainty about staying or leaving, where you disagree on what therapy should even achieve. In these cases, I offer discernment counselling which is a highly structured process which is most effective in these more complex cases.
Neurodiversity in Relationships: Skilfully managing neurodivergent dynamics to build better mutual understanding and intimacy.
How I Work, and What You Can Expect:
Your therapy is entirely tailored to you. It isn't a rigid programme taken out of a textbook. It is a unique relationship between us, informed by everything I learn about you.
There is very little that shocks me. I bring a combination of robustness, humour and warmth to our sessions, which can be surprisingly useful when we are broaching tricky or taboo topics.
I am not just a passive listening ear. I want to actively engage with you, so you feel both deeply cared for and constructively challenged.
Starting Therapy:
The First Session: We will explore what brings you to therapy. It is an opportunity to "download" exactly what is troubling you in as much detail as you find comfortable. We will also discuss your goals and what to expect from the process.
The Second Session: I will take a complete history of your life (prior therapy, childhood, key relationships). This gives me the necessary context to understand you deeply. We will then formally agree on our therapeutic goals. (Please note I take clinical notes during these first two assessment sessions)
Following Sessions: You are invited to talk about whatever is on your mind, and I will be there to guide you, challenge you, and help you make sense of your thoughts in the context of our mutual agreed goals.
Qualifications & Professional Background:
Post-Graduate Diploma in Psychosynthesis Counselling (3-year, full-time BACP Accredited training)
Certificate in Couples Therapy (Approved by COSRT - College of Sexual & Relationship Therapy)
BA (Hons) in English Literature & History of Art (University of York) - This degree grew my analytical mind and trained me to think deeply and methodically.
Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Training, qualifications & experience
My training was integrative, drawing from many schools of psychology. Its defining feature is that as well as working directly with the challenges you bring, it also focuses on developing self awareness & a sense of meaning and purpose. These all positively impact the quality of your relationships. As I’ve developed more as a clinician my approach has also become increasingly psychodynamic, which means I also work with the root of your challenges to create long lasting change.
I have a PGDip (3 year Postgraduate Diploma) in Psychosynthesis Counselling, validated by the University of Middlesex and accredited by BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy).
I have a Certificate in Working with Couples with Juliet Grayson. The course is accredited by NCIP (National Council of Integrative Psychotherapists). In this training we covered modules on communication, difference, affairs, sex, ageing & conflict.
I also have a BA Hons in English Literature and History of Art, The University of York. This first grew my analytical mind and trained me to think deeply and systemically.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£75.00 - £130.00
Concessions offered for
Additional information
Face-to-Face Individual Therapy & Online Therapy
Individual Therapy (Online & Sevenoaks Practice): £75.00 - £90.00 per session; although sliding scale available so do get in touch.
Each session will last 55 minutes.
Couples Therapy (Online & Sevenoaks Practice): £130.00 per session.
Each session will last 70 minutes.
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