Ruby Aujla

I will be able to help you explore and gain insight into what may be in the roots of the emotions you are experiencing. I often work with individuals who have tried short term counselling but feel they are only dealing with their struggles on a surface level. I like to try and help you explore the many layers which can lie in personal difficulties. Working this way I would like to work with you to understand yourself on a deeper level.

Everybody is unique and has their own personal story. Yet some of the most important decisions we make including relationships, friendships and future direction are influenced by old beliefs and self interpretations which can be carried with us without awareness today.

By working together we can learn about the origins of your self-interpretations, patterns of thinking and behaving; relationships you are drawn to and the core beliefs which lie behind struggles you may be experiencing today.

However, therapy is not just for exploring what lies behind difficulties, it also includes helping you shed light on your potential. Together we can explore areas where you may be missing seeing your positive qualities. When self esteem is affected there can often be a distorted lens in how individuals have started seeing themselves. These areas will also be important to explore.

I have personally thoroughly enjoyed my learning and experience in Psychotherapy and I enjoy sharing my understandings in therapeutic relationships. I can honestly say that even though Psychotherapy is not always a easy process due to facing more difficult feelings, I do know it to be a highly rewarding and healing process, which can be quite enjoyable too! I welcome you to a introductory session before deciding if you would like to continue.

Within the current situation I am only able to offer a minimum number of in person sessions. I am carrying out sessions through video call which are working very well, as well as through phone calls which are suprisingly effective for talking in a very relaxed manner.

Areas of Experience

Relationships

I have counselled those who lack the confidence they need to experience healthy and nurturing relationships. Those who struggle to trust and let themselves feel close with a partner, individuals who lack confidence in the dating scene or have been impacted negatively by the breakdown of a previous relationship.

I have counselled couples who are unhappy and undecided about staying in their relationships and those who are struggling to communicate their wants and needs, finding themselves repeating the same painful patterns.

Workplace Dynamics

The workplace can be filled with so many character styles and depending on the dynamics of how you relate with the team, you might find yourself not wanting to go to work, losing energy and unable to trust others for support.

With psychotherapeutic Counselling you can be empowered with tools to understand work place dynamics, identify why a certain person or attitude has an impact on you and identify ways to co create an environment in which you can prosper.

Stress and Anxiety

Everyday stresses and anxieties can lead to many health problems. Trying to find a way to cope with anxiety can lead to developing further difficulties including emotional eating, obsessive compulsive disorder, panic attacks and sleeping difficulties. I will be able to work with you to identify what lies in the roots of your anxiety.

Social Anxiety

I have counseled those with strong social anxiety. I appreciate that social anxiety can affect individuals in many ways from not wanting to join in a group setting to not feeling comfortable to initiate friendship; to not feeling able to leave home.

I appreciate how extremely difficult this anxiety can feel and I hope to help you find your way back to a connection with a part of yourself that wasn't so fearful. My approach is gentle and is about helping you understand all aspects of yourself.

Addictions

I have counselled those who have found themselves turning to excessive alcohol or misuse of medication and drugs to cope with the pain they are carrying. Some cannot find another way to cope with overwhelming feelings. This is where Psychotherapeutic Counselling can help.

Gender Identity

I have counseled Individuals with gender dysphoria and clients who have transitioned. I recognise the array of difficulties experienced by individuals who may feel isolated, affected by media representation, are navigating the dating scene and exploring their sexuality.

Behind the Therapy..

If you would like to learn a bit more about the theoretical models behind my therapy, please read on...

I am an Integrative Clinical Psychotherapist with over ten years of experience. I am particularly interested in Script Theory, exploring the power the inner narrative has on life direction and relationships . I also have a strong interest in Jungian Theory, exploring parts of the self which feel neglected, wants and needs which may have not been prioritised or held as insignificant.