Counsellor Ruby Aujla

About me

It can be difficult to make time for self care and focusing on what really matters. Time passes and self esteem can be affected. Some feel as though they have become so good at wearing a mask and hiding their feelings, that they no longer can contact their true wants and needs.

Energy can decrease and interest in activities and relationships can become a struggle.

You know it's time to focus on your feelings but the idea of Counseling can feel a little overwhelming if you have not tried before.

I hope to help you find this experience as comfortable as possible. I will ask you a little about yourself and I hope to help you to explore the underlying dynamics of difficulties you may be experiencing at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

I can help you look at future goals and look into ways to go forward to meeting these goals.

I work in a relaxed way, prioritizing your comfort. My way of practice is to share my learning in a way that individuals often feel as though they gain a lot of self understanding and soon begin to feel a difference in their abilities to start making the changes they would like to see in their lives.

Often what is really needed is to set the ball rolling and begin speaking about the areas which you would like more insight into. Sometimes individuals are not aware of any particular reasons they may feel low or lack confidence and are unsure of where they would like to see changes first. These are all areas we can explore after the initial stages of increasing insight into the self.

I offer a professional and confidential service. My hope is to help you feel empowered to see the changes you would like to see in how you feel about yourself.


My background

I became interested in Psychology whilst working in various services in the social sector. These included volunteering within a day centre for those addicted to substances and working with those who struggled to maintain tenancies due to emotional difficulties.

This opened up work opportunities with individuals who were leaving jail and required support with re integrating into the community.

Supporting those who were sometimes living away from home for the first time, some who struggled with bi polar, social anxiety, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder and those who self harm, had suicidal ideation and abused substances.

My role was to empower individuals to look into opportunities to improve their emotional well-being and future opportunities. I supported individuals whose emotional difficulties and backgrounds caused them to struggle with confidence in academic studies, within employment and in enjoying healthy relationships.

I wanted to understand these struggles further and look at how I could find more ways forward for clients who struggle with seeing their full potential and looking after themselves emotionally. That's when I chose to train in Psychotherapy and began Counseling within a local gp Practice.

This is when I felt as though I had found what I was looking for. Concepts for self understanding that not only turned my own life around but helped me explore an array of ways for helping others to feel better within themselves. I witnessed personal transformation and learned so much from each individual I met.

I began work for the national health service supporting clients with mental health difficulties in the local hospital wards. These included mood affective disorder units, female and male wards supporting client's with bi polar, personality disorder, schizophrenia, dystonia, multiple personality and drug related psychosis; the addictions centre, the eating disorder clinic and the neuroscience and trans identified clinics.

Areas of Experience

Relationships

I have counselled those who lack the confidence they need to experience healthy and nurturing relationships. Those who struggle to trust and let themselves feel close or vulnerable with a partner. Those who lack confidence in the dating scene and those who have been impacted negatively by the breakdown of previous relationships, the aftermath of affairs, the pain of abandonment and the shock of losing trust in those closest to them. I have also counselled those who are in marriages or long term relationships in which they feel alone and feel neglected.

I have counselled those who are unhappy and undecided about staying in their relationships and those who are struggling to communicate their wants and needs, finding themselves repeating the same painful patterns. As well as couples who are struggling with the dynamics of addiction and partners who have felt as if they were managing too much on their own.

Workplace Dynamics

I have counselled those who have found themselves struggling with relationships within the workplace. The workplace can be filled with so many character styles and depending on the dynamics of how you relate with the team, you might find yourself not wanting to go to work, losing energy and unable to trust others for support. You might find yourself feeling more isolated, with the impact on your self esteem creating an impact on your relationships at home.

Psychotherapeutic Counselling can empower you with the tools to understand work place dynamics, identify why a certain person or attitude has an impact on you and identify ways to co create an environment in which you can prosper. My Psychotherapeutic training has its roots in Transactional analysis, a model which involves the analysis of interactions between people and has had its benefits recognised within work place training and in work therapies.


Stress and Anxiety

Everyday stresses and anxieties can lead to many health problems. I have counselled those who turn to emotional eating, struggle with irritable bowel syndrome and those who deny their body nourishment. Trying to find a way to cope with anxiety can lead to developing further difficulties including obsessive compulsive disorder, eating disorder including binge eating, panic disorder and sleeping difficulties.

Addictions

I have counselled those who have found themselves turning to excessive alcohol or misuse of medication and drugs to cope with the pain they are carrying. Some people cannot find another way to cope with unhappiness and stress. Others are trying to detach from specific memories and life events.

Social Anxiety

Within Psychotherapeutic Counselling we can explore the root of these problems, explore why and how you may have developed certain ways of coping. Some may not feel as though they have found a way and may be fearing panic attacks, social anxiety, agoraphobia and struggle with confident speech.


Feeling Welcome

There are many reasons that people from all ages and backgrounds come to counselling. I personally believe psychotherapeutic counselling can benefit absolutely everybody.

If you feel you have lost your spark, can't remember having a spark or if you are looking for new ways to feel good about yourself, I welcome you to give Psychotherapeutic Counseling a try.

I will help you feel relaxed, safe and understood. What will surprise you more than any other aspects of Counseling will be yourself.