About me

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am then I can change"

Carl Rogers. ( founder of person centred therapy )

I am a fully qualified and experienced person centred counsellor.

I have worked with people in different settings for 30 years .

I am a registered member of the BACP* and adhere to professional standards and also work within the ethical framework.

I provide one to one counselling to adults and young people aged 16 +.

Sometimes in our life circumstances can lead us to difficult and emotional places and it can help to have someone to turn to that is impartial and will hear you and listen to what is important to you.

The ability to focus on how things are for you and really hear how you feel can be a unique , profound and helpful experience.

Counselling offers a safe space to talk about the things that matter to you , to open up at your own pace and experience a non-judgemental , confidential and honest therapeutic relationship .

Therapy involves talking about life events , feelings , emotions , relationships , and patterns of behaviour.

I often use 'parts' work where we look at the different parts of you and give each part a space to be heard and cared for . For instance , there may be an anxious part or a depressed part . An angry part .

All these parts of you are welcome in the space and I will help you explore them to facilitate growth and change . The key to change is awareness of these parts and starting to have compassion for them.

My aim is to ensure when you take that step into counselling ,which can be extremely difficult that you are met with warmth, genuineness and compassion.

Within my training I spent much time and commitment looking at my own issues, patterns and behaviours. This is a huge part of the training.
If I am to sit with a client in their distress it is essential I have explored my own issues .
It's a continuous journey and I have welcomed it . I welcome it each day .

Training, qualifications & experience

Counselling Skills C.O.S.C.A
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

I was a volunteer at Crossreach in Dunbar for 4 years .
A generic counselling service .

I worked within Social Services for 20 years with Adults with learning disabilities and mental health challenges .  

I have worked with children , adults and  teenagers in various settings within the social care sector .

I have qualifications in social care , pain management and teaching in adult education .

I have extensive training and qualifications in complementary therapies .

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Areas of counselling I deal with

Other areas of counselling I deal with

As a person centred counsellor I work with all aspects listed above.

Therapies offered

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Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information


£140 for x 4 sessions .


I can be flexible with availability to fit around your work or home commitments.

8 High Street
Scottish Borders
EH44 6HA

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults

Key details

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

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Mary Gillham

Mary Gillham