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About me

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am then I can change"

Carl Rogers. ( founder of person centred therapy )

I am a fully qualified and experienced person centred counsellor.

I have worked with people in different settings for 30 years .

I am a registered member of the BACP* and adhere to professional standards and also work within the ethical framework.

I provide one to one counselling to adults and young people aged 16 +.

Sometimes in our life circumstances can lead us to difficult and emotional places and it can help to have someone to turn to that is impartial and will hear you and listen to what is important to you.

The ability to focus on how things are for you and really hear how you feel can be a unique , profound and helpful experience.

Counselling offers a safe space to talk about the things that matter to you , to open up at your own pace and experience a non-judgemental , confidential and honest therapeutic relationship .

Therapy involves talking about life events , feelings , emotions , relationships , and patterns of behaviour.

I often use 'parts' work where we look at the different parts of you and give each part a space to be heard and cared for . For instance , there may be an anxious part or a depressed part . An angry part .

All these parts of you are welcome in the space and I will help you explore them to facilitate growth and change . The key to change is awareness of these parts and starting to have compassion for them.

My aim is to ensure when you take that step into counselling ,which can be extremely difficult that you are met with warmth, genuineness and compassion.

Within my training I spent much time and commitment looking at my own issues, patterns and behaviours. This is a huge part of the training.
If I am to sit with a client in their distress it is essential I have explored my own issues .
It's a continuous journey and I have welcomed it . I welcome it each day .

Training, qualifications & experience

Counselling Skills C.O.S.C.A
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

I was a volunteer at Crossreach in Dunbar for 4 years .
A generic counselling service .

I worked within Social Services for 20 years with Adults with learning disabilities and mental health challenges .  

I have worked with children , adults and  teenagers in various settings within the social care sector .

I have qualifications in social care , pain management and teaching in adult education .

I have extensive training and qualifications in complementary therapies and have been a practising massage therapist for 25 years.

I find massage therapy very valuable when working with clients to help soothe the nervous system and safely release trauma in the body .

I have used massage therapy with adults with learning disabilities, people living with MS , People living with Parkinsons and now mostly with clients who are holding pain and tension in their body due to overwhelm and anxiety.  

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Areas of counselling I deal with

Other areas of counselling I deal with

As a person centred counsellor I work with all aspects listed above.

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Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

£45 per session 


£160 for x 4 sessions ( save 20 pounds ) 

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

I can be flexible with availability to fit around your work or home commitments.

8 High Street, Innerleithen, Scottish Borders, EH44 6HA

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults

Key details

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