Hester Turner Counsellor & Counselling Supervisor MBACP; Doctoral, BA, PG Dip.
I have a Private Counselling & Counselling Supervision Practice. I am the owner of and am one of the part-time lecturers with Counselling Training Liverpool Ltd (www.counsellingtrainingliverpool.org.uk.
For many years I have supported young people and adults as individuals in a one-to-one setting, couples and groups. The experience and education I gained give me a solid foundation for the support I provide.
I am a humanistic counsellor/ supervisor and unconditionally accept my client. I work in a non-directive way.
My experience enables me to work creatively, cross-culturally and inclusively with individuals from all walks of life often, when appropriate, when appropriate using art as a communication tool.
I am a full registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and am on the accredited voluntary register (046500)
I hold a current DBS check (previously known as a CRB check) and a current Indemnity Insurance.
As a Supervisor I ‘hold’ the supervisee and accept the unknown and the unexpected. Supervision should provide a release for the supervisee, which in turn enables their clients.
In my supervision practice I am non-directive, as directing a supervisee would be in contradiction with accepting and respecting their ability to take autonomous decisions.
It is the supervisee who brings 'the agenda'.
On the other hand it is important to, where appropriate take authority, in a respectful and accepting way, because a balance between an authoritative and a facilitative stance makes effective supervision.
Taking authority should not be confused with being authoritarian, which has no place in supervision.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am studying towards an MA in Counselling Studies.
I gained a Diploma in Counselling Supervision and a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, a Post Graduate Diploma in Career Guidance, a BA in Applied Art and an Doctoral in Cultural Anthropology.
I worked for many years with young people and adults, in schools and the community, using art as a communication tool addressing issues like anxiety, depression, bullying, stereotyping, discrimination, inclusion, drug & alcohol misuse, etc.
As a qualified counsellor I initially worked in an FE college as a College Counsellor and a Counselling Lecturer. Since 2012 have my Private Counselling Practice and am the owner of am one of the part-time lecturers with Counselling Training Liverpool Ltd. (www.counsellingtrainingliverpool.org.uk)
Over the years I have worked in various settings supporting people in learning to accept themselves and allow themselves to ask for what they need.
I gained specific experience in bereavement counselling. However the issues people have brought to the counselling sessions are often related to other issues and therefore my experience in counselling reaches far beyond those two specific subjects.
Bereavement counselling involves supporting people to cope with mainly death but really any kind of loss like the loss of health; hope; physical ability; a relationship etc
Through my experience with and specific training in bereavement counselling I gained insight and skills which enabled me to support individuals in their understanding of the grieving process, the exploration of feelings and reactions and support individuals while they are working through their loss and ‘give it a place’.
Counselling experience I gained over the years has involved
BEREAVEMENT & LOSS; UNEMPLOYMENT/ REDUNDANCY; DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; RAPE & SEXUAL ABUSE; ADDICTION; DRUG & ALCOHOL MISUSE; SELF HARM; ANXIETY; DEPRESSION; PHOBIAS; OCD; ANGER & CONFLICT MANAGEMENT; RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING; HARASSMENT/ BULLYING IN THE WORKPLACE.
Training & Qualifications:
Studying towards an MA Counselling Studies (University of Chester)
Person-Centred Expressive Art Training
Diploma in Individual and Group Supervision (Cascade Supervision Training)
Certificate of Proficiency (BACP)
Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (ABC Awards)
Certificate Loss & Bereavement (Liverpool Bereavement Services)
Coaching skills for therapists and counsellors (BACP)
Certificate Rape & Sexual Abuse (RASA)
Level 4 Learning Development and Support Services (OCR)
Post Graduate Diploma Career Guidance (Manchester Metropolitan University)
Level 4 Diploma in Management (OCR)
BA Applied Art:Textiles. (Liverpool University)
Doctoral Cultural Anthropology (Leiden University, The Netherlands)
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Free First Consultation for Counselling and Counselling Supervision
1 hour Counselling Session £35 (Concessions £20)
1 hour Couple/ Relationship Counselling £45 (Concessions £35)
1 1/2 hour Individual Supervision £55 (Concessions £35)
1 hour Individual Supervision £35 (Concessions £20)
2 hour Group Supervision (minimum 4 members) £15 per person
LOSS & BEREAVEMENT COUNSELING
WHAT I CAN OFFER?
I can offer you professional support in coping with death and any kind of loss. Through my experience with and specific training in bereavement counselling I gained insight and skills which enables me to support individuals in their understanding of the grieving process, the exploration of feelings and reactions and support individuals while they are working through their loss and ‘give it a place’.
LOSS & BEREAVEMENT
Loss can involve:
- The death of a child, a fiancé/fiancée, a husband/wife, a close friend, a
relative, a much loved pet etc.
Loss can also involve:
- Losing our Youth/Virginity/Status (from single into a relationship; become a
mum/ dad; getting siblings etc.)
- Losing a job
- Moving House/ County/Country
- Moving from Primary to Secondary Education; College to University
- Losing a Limb
- Losing Freedom
- Losing Health
- Losing Physical Abilities
- Experiencing Disfigurement; Abortion; Retirement; Redundancy;
imprisonment; Infertility; Rape
- Losing Dreams, Expectations, Safety.
As individuals we are all are exposed to different experiences from birth, which we deal with in our own individual way. For that reason ‘the grieving process’ is an individual process which has no set content or length attached to it. Grieving might concern a whole set of feelings and emotions.
THE GRIEVING PROCESS
During a grieving process you might feel immobilised, stunned or shocked. You cannot believe it has actually happened even if what has happened was expected.
This stage can last for hours, days, weeks, months or years. Physically you might experience dry mouth, hollowness in the stomach, restlessness, nervousness.
The pain experienced during the grieving process can be unbearable but it is important to work your way through this pain you are feeling. Minimisation of the pain experienced might however at some point cause you to manifest your pain physically or behaviourally.
If your loss concerns a death, you might be looking for the deceased everywhere. You might feel the need to carry/ collect belongings of the deceased or the opposite and remove all reminders of the deceased. You might experience a yearning. You might hallucinate or be angry. You might feel depressed guilty or anxious. You might lose your appetite, suffer from insomnia or selfharm.
Once the intense feelings of grief have diminished, a period of aimlessness, apathy and lack of motivation can announce itself.
This stage is directly linked to coming to terms with living on, without the deceased/ the loss. This is when reality kicks in. At this stage it is important to work with it, through it rather than ignore it however painful this is. You might experience this stage as a stage of ambivalence, a stage in between the old and the new.
You are ‘letting go’ but still want to go back to how the situation was before your loss.
At some point you might be ready to emotionally withdraw from what you have lost and invest emotionally in ‘the new’. This can be a difficult stage as it is confusing because feelings of guilt might kick in.
The new situation is becoming more familiar. You are in search of a comfortable new reality, understand it and internalise it.
You no longer think of the changes you have made. Your new situation is natural and familiar.
Sometimes individuals hold on to the past because the loss they experience is too painful for them. Blocks to grieving can for instance be the misconception that if we truly loved that what we lost, we will never finish grieving. Sometimes people had a very ambivalent relationship with that what they lost which can create anger or guilt. In case of suicide which is often looked upon as socially unacceptable feelings of shame and loss of self esteem can occur.
There is no 'standard' way of grieving. We are all individuals and have our own particular ways of grieving.
It can be particularly hard to deal with the death by suicide of someone you know. As well as the usual feelings of bereavement, you may have a number of conflicting emotions.
You may feel:
- Angry with the person for taking their own life.
- Rejected by what they have done.
- Confused as to why they did it.
- Guilty - most people take their own life as an act of desperation. How could you not have noticed how they were feeling?
- Guilty for not having been able to stop their death. You may go over in your
mind the times you spent with them and ask yourself if you could have prevented it.
- Worried about whether they suffered.
- Glad that they no longer have to endure their distress.
- Relieved that you no longer have to be there to support them or deal with
their suicidal thoughts and urges.
- Ashamed by what they did
- Reluctant to talk to other people about it
- The stigma of suicide
- You feel that other people are more interested in the drama of the situation
rather than your feelings or the person who has died.
- Worried about thoughts of suicide that you may have had yourself.
- Isolated - it can help to talk to other people who have lost a loved one
Some people hardly grieve at all. It might be that this is just the way they deal with loss. It might however also be that they repress their feelings because they feel the pain is too much. This might result in suffering from physical symptoms such as tights chest, dizzy spells, breathing problems or spells of depression.
Sometimes the problem is that the loss is not seen as a 'proper' bereavement. This might happen to those who have had a miscarriage stillbirth or an abortion.
Some may start to grieve, but get stuck. Others may carry on being unable to think of anything else, often making the room of the dead person into a kind of shrine to their memory.