How to find the right therapist?
Figuring out which therapist to work with can be confusing, particularly when things are not going well. You might be asking yourself whether counselling and psychotherapy can help and how to know who's the right therapist for you.
Arranging one-off meetings with a few therapists is often a good way to start the process. By meeting different therapists, you can get a sense about how you feel with different people and who you can be more open and frank with.
To help you make a decision, I will be clear and open here in describing who I am and what I offer. I charge half my usual fee for the first meeting to support this process of finding the right therapist.
Who I am
I have been providing counselling and psychotherapy for ten years across a range of contexts in the private and public sector, and offer short- and long-term therapy in central London and north London. I am a member of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and British Psychological Society (BPS) and follow their codes of conduct, ethical principles and guidelines.
I work with men and women with diverse socio-economic, sexual, gender, racial and cultural identities who come with a wide range of issues to do with personal change. These include:
- low self-esteem / low self-confidence
- anxiety; panic attacks
- anger management
- motivation and performance
- lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) issues
- existential and spiritual difficulties
- transpersonal development
- people affected by dementia / neuro-degenerative disease (Alzheimer's disease, Parkinson's disease, Motor Neuron Disease, Huntington's disease, and dementia with Lewy Bodies).
Please see the list below for more details.
What I offer
I provide a confidential space for us to meet and explore the things that are distressing you, with the aim of forming new ways to relate to your difficulties and identifying opportunities to change. Our meetings occur at the same time every week either for an agreed period, or on an open-ended basis with a regular review. During the sessions, I work with you to get a better understanding of what you are going through and reflect back aspects of your life as I experience them, so you can consider them from a different perspective. To facilitate this, I stay open to your experience in a non-judgemental way.
I pay attention to how your present situation is influenced by your past, and notice how this might be shaping our work together in the sessions; seeing how you are in the ‘here and now’ as well as the ‘there and then’ is a useful way of working out the 'where and when' to change.
The way I work
The way I work is integrative, that is, I bring together my values and the ideas from a broad range of therapies to best meet your personal aims. How I’m informed by this integration depends on what you need. From the start, your aims and how we’ll work towards them are decided by both of us, not just me. Once we’ve identified what you want to change, I can offer you the dedicated space, time and ways of working that enable you to explore your situation more deeply and change more quickly than if you were doing it on your own.
If you want to read a bit more about the way I work, I find Petruska Clarkson’s book The Therapeutic Relationship (2003) offers a useful framework; or for a lighter read, you could try the well-informed graphic novel Couch Fiction by Philippa Perry and Junko Graat (2010).
Training, qualifications & experience
I have provided counselling and psychotherapy for ten years in the following settings:
Samaritans, Soho, W1
Metanoia Counselling and Psychotherapy Service, Ealing, W7
LACAP (London Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy), City of London, EC1
London Friend, King’s Cross, N1
Private practice, Central and North London
Full Clinical Member of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP)
Professional doctorate (DCPsych) in Counselling Psychology and Integrative Psychotherapy, Metanoia Institute (pending completion)
BSc in Applied Psychology (1997)
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Borderline personality disorder
- Carer support
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Caring for a person with dementia or neuro-degenerative disease (Alzheimer's disease, Parkinson's disease, Motor Neuron Disease, Huntington's disease, dementia with Lewy Bodies)
Gender and Sexual Diversity: non-binary identity and transitioning
PTSD from cult membership
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Existential therapy
- Gestalt therapy
- Humanistic therapies
- Interpersonal therapy
- Jungian therapy
- Other therapies
- Person-centred therapy
- Psychoanalytical and psychodynamic
I charge £50-60 per session, which is 50 minutes. Costs depend on location and the time of the session.
I usually have one low-fee client for people who have an income of less than the average wage.
I charge half my usual fee for the initial meeting, which is also 50 minutes.
I wish you well in your search for a therapist. If you have any queries please get in touch.
Maps & Directions
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