Lesley Murray BA, PgDip,MBACP. Couples/Individual/Supervision/Children 3-18yrs

Lesley Murray BA, PgDip,MBACP. Couples/Individual/Supervision/Children 3-18yrs

Blackheath Standard Counselling and Psychotherapy
Delacourt Road
London
SE3 8XA

020 8293 1891 / 07971 281121

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Blackheath Standard Counselling and Psychotherapy
Delacourt Road
London
SE3 8XA

020 8293 1891 / 07971 281121

About me

It is very important that you find a counsellor that you think you can work with.  I offer a low cost assessment session for individuals (not couples), without commitment to further sessions (£20 for assessment hour).

I am an experienced counsellor, psychotherapist and supervisor registered with BACP. I offer both short and long-term therapy in the Greenwich and Blackheath area from my peaceful and discreet therapy room in Blackheath Standard. I view therapy as a collaborative process, in which we work together to enhance your quality of life and explore your issues in a safe and trusting space.

The practical:

  • I offer psychotherapy to individuals and couples - fees are £60 for an individual (1 hour) and £100 for couples (90 minute sessions). This is payable by cheque/cash/card payment. I offer daytime, evening and weekend appointments.
  • I also work as a clinical supervisor and welcome students in training as well as more experienced therapists. My fees are £90 per month for the 90 minute session. You can either visit the practice for the session or I am amenable to Skype and telephone supervision.
  • There is free on street parking outside the practice and the area of Blackheath Standard is well serviced by bus routes. The nearest stations are Blackheath and Westcombe Park (both about 20 minutes walk).

What to expect from Individual Therapy

Making the decision to attend counselling is a positive step and can offer support beyond that available from family or friends. It offers an environment in which you can express your feelings and gain deeper insight into your difficulties. Counselling sessions are also confidential, so you can talk about things you might not feel comfortable discussing with anyone else.

The aim is to help you find better ways to understand yourself, or to bring about changes to help you manage the way you think or behave to improve your mental and emotional well-being.

Listening carefully is the largest part of what all counsellors do. They make sure clients have clarified the problem areas in their own terms and help them decide what steps they want to take next. My goal is to always let the work proceed at the client’s pace.

In your first session, I will typically ask questions about you and your life. This information helps me make an initial assessment of your situation. Questions I might ask include:

Why you sought therapy at this time. A particular issue probably led you to seek counselling. I may ask you a series of questions about your life. For example, because family situations play an important role in who you are, I may ask about your family history and your current family situation. Other than knowing the reason you sought therapy, I may ask questions to find out if you’re suffering from other symptoms of your problem. For example, your problem might be causing difficulty at work.

It is completely normal to feel anxious at first, particularly if this is your first experience of therapy. It can take a while to get used to the situation but almost all clients report feeling significantly more at ease as the session goes along. It can be quite a relief to talk about difficult issues with someone who is understanding, who clearly withholds judgment and with whom you do not have an emotional attachment.

It is also quite common to feel tearful and cry much sooner than anticipated. You might feel surprised by the intensity of feelings but it is completely normal especially after having to hold so much, usually for quite some time. The tears might be as much about relief as about expressing sadness.

About Couples Therapy

Couples therapy sessions are 90 minutes long.  I do this because I think we can accomplish much more in a longer session and it is very important that you both get a chance to express what is going on for you in your relationship. I also expect us to need much fewer sessions.

The idea of counselling is often unnerving to people, and the idea of doing those sessions with another person can be downright terrifying. Nothing is really going to change that potential dread before your first appointment, but knowing what to expect makes it a bit less unnerving.

Couples therapy seems like a pretty simple idea: you sign up for a session when your relationship is in trouble and you need help dealing with it.

Perhaps you and your partner are arguing about the stupidest things and these rows quickly escalate into something nasty.

Or your relationship feels stale, and if the two of you were not so busy leading separate lives you feel you would die of boredom. Sometimes there is a big issue - such as money, sex, infidelity, in-laws or children—about which you cannot get your partner to understand your viewpoint.

The main purpose of couples therapy is to put you and your significant other in a room with a neutral mediator to help you make sense of what's going on. If you're having trouble communicating with each other, then the counsellor is going to help guide you through talking about it.

The main point, as you'd expect, is to get you talking through whatever issues you have, or to simply figure out what those issues are. In the case of couples therapy, it's useful to find a counsellor who will suit both of you. You can give me a call and talk over what you're looking for in the sessions before committing.

As you'd probably expect, the first thing I'm likely going to ask you is something along the lines of, "What's going on?" or "Why are you here?" It sounds incredibly simple, but it's worth taking the time with your significant other to prepare to answer the questions. Couples might be unhappy for six years before seeking counselling. At that point, it's pretty tough to narrow down and fix any problems.

You want to prepare yourself to answer a few rudimentary questions during that first session. In fact, the whole process is likely similar to one-on-one therapy, which means the therapist will likely ask about your history and expect both of you to be open, somewhat talkative, and honest.

Depending on the situation, your counsellor might also talk to you both individually for portions of the appointment. Don't expect the first visit to a couples counsellor to produce results. Things might come up you never knew about the other person, or you might let something slip out of your own mouth that you didn't even know you thought. Basically, couples counselling has just as much potential of being positive as it does negative, but that's just part of the process. Talking about your problems with a counsellor might not be easy. Sessions might pass in silence as you and your partner seethe over perceived wrongs—or you might bring your fights with you, perhaps even arguing during sessions. Both are OK. Your therapist can act as mediator or referee and help you cope with the resulting emotions and turmoil.

Be prepared for some awkward conversations, because chances are they'll happen. As time goes on you will probably set goals in therapy while you work out your issues.  You will also learn to set boundaries with each other so that your relationship is more purposeful.

If there are underlying issues with one of the couple then it may be appropriate for them to do individual therapy with another provider so that more time in the couples session can be devoted to how they move forward together.

Training, qualifications & experience

I have been working as a therapist for 12 years and have qualifications in counselling, counselling supervision, creative arts therapy, and online counselling. I have previously taught the Diploma and Certificate in Counselling. Prior to retraining, I worked for the Ministry of Defence and the police authority. I have a special interest in counselling individuals who have suffered trauma while working as first responders in the public sector.

My areas of experience include individual and couples counselling, addiction, stress and anxiety, trauma and general counselling. I also offer counselling to children and young people in schools. I have been working in independent schools for 9 years and am currently the school counsellor for Kensington Prep School. I have extensive experience with young people from 3-18yrs. I also offer stress reduction sessions for children preparing to take part in selection tests, GCSE's and A levels.

Member organisations

BACP

Accredited register membership

Fees

I offer a low cost assessment session for individuals, without commitment to further sessions (£20 for assessment hour).

Fees are £60 for an individual (1 hour) and £100 for couples (90 minute sessions). This is payable by cheque/cash/card payment machine which accepts all major credit and debit cards.

For children up to 11 years old I offer 30 minute slots after school or at weekends. For this age group it is better to have shorter sessions more often. (£30 per half hour)

Maps & Directions

London, SE3 8XA

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None

Accessibility

Wheelchair access: Unspecified

Availability

I offer daytime, evening and weekend appointments from 9am. The last session slot is 8-9pm.

Types of client

Children
Young people
Adults
Older adults
Couples
Families

Supervision & training

 I also work as a clinical supervisor and welcome students in training as well as more experienced therapists.  My fees are £90 per month for the 90 minute session.  You can either visit the practice for the session or I am amenable to Skype and telephone supervision. .

Online supervision:Yes
Telephone supervision:Yes
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