Guy Turton - Couples & Individuals
Considering counselling is a brave and perhaps daunting or confusing thing to do. Counselling is not easy. Choosing a counsellor is not easy. I appreciate that telling me your story is a big deal. But I have also told MY story to a therapist.....
My extremely positive experience as a client is what has drawn me to become a counsellor. My experience as a client informs my understanding and accepting approach to being alongside you in sessions.
Questioning something in your life or even just "a feeling or an anxiety or a low mood" or something else known only to you might be leading you to these profiles. Perhaps a phobia or panic has affected you. Maybe your family history or big events from the past are still affecting you. Working out a way for you to face the future might be tricky. You might be affected by separation, divorce, betrayal, an affair or another issue that is specific and personal to you.
Sometimes getting along with people and simply existing in the world is hard. Perhaps your head is telling you one thing but you have a feeling or a sense that all is not well overall. You may have an idea why or you may not be sure.
Perhaps reading this and considering coming for Counselling already seems too much. Talking about things together, Counselling (also known as Therapy) can help you to work out what is going on, why it's happening and what you can do about it to sort things out and feel more comfortable.
I offer patience and understanding, in a confidential safe secure environment. Each person is an individual. We can work on a specific issue, ranging from short term work on a specific problem to longer term exploring wider issues, at a pace that is guided by you.
I work with individuals, children and adolescents, (or any sort of couple or family pairs eg father and son or mother and daughter or work colleagues ie not just traditional hetero marriage couples)
I work according to your needs.
The first step is an initial meeting between us
I offer a reduced rate 50 minute initial session for £30 (£40 for couples) where we can meet for the first time, I can listen to your story and you can ask any questions. Then we can see how we feel at the end of the session. If you are still uncertain then we can meet for a second time, or I can suggest another counsellor to help you. I want to ensure that you find the best person to help you, even if that is not me.
If we decide to meet regularly then sessions last 50 minutes and cost between £50 and £70 depending on your circumstances. We meet at a regular time each week.
What sort of Counsellor/Counselling approach should you expect from me?
I Listen. Listening can in itself be surprising, and helpful. Perhaps this might be the first time that someone has listened to you properly? I offer an equal, human, accepting, interested way of working. Sometimes a particular way a counsellor works may not be the most helpful way for you. An 'Integrative' approach means that I have been trained to be aware of several different ways of working. Therefore I am able to adapt my approach according to how our sessions are going and most importantly according to you as an individual.
How is talking to a therapist different from to talking to a friend?
Therapy helps each person in a different way. No two people are the same. If you ask a friend for help they may listen for a while but then (whilst meaning to help) they may then prescribe a solution. "What you need to do is this or that!". Prescribing a solution may inadvertently shut down your opportunity to explore all of your options/feelings/impacts. If you go back to the friend later with the same worries then they may listen for a shorter time and then say "I thought I told you to do this!". A friend is doing this because the feelings provoked in them by your story are too much for the friend to bear, so they stop the process by offering solutions.
A therapist is trained to offer something different than the above scenario...perhaps we could say "to tolerate not having an immediate solution or to tolerate not knowing", but to keep on listening as you explore your sometimes uncertain/sometimes certain thoughts and feelings and options
How does talking to a therapist actually help?
Well....this one is kind of hard to explain but one way of the many possible ways of describing this would be to say that "by working on (ie talking about) your inner world (ie our thoughts, feelings, emotions, fears, concerns, history, present etc), the outer world (ie job, life, relationships, stress levels, hopes or hopelessness, issue of importance) will take care of itself.......
In truth its almost impossible to describe how therapy helps. It does help but as much of ourselves are unconscious/unknown then its hard to explain. You may find yourself in a situation where in the past you would have behaved one way, but this time you behave differently. This is one way to show that therapy has helped. You may only realise this after the event.
I still don't understand. Can you put that another way?
The issues in our life may or may not go away, but either way, their impact on us reduces. Lets say that when you start therapy you feel that "things/issues/problems" are on top of you (or bigger than you). By coming along to therapy you will grow and become bigger than the "things" that at the start were bigger than you. So you end up being bigger than the "things/problems/issues"..... and so their impact on you reduces
Other possible ways that therapy may be able to help you
-Exploring choices and practical solutions to immediate problems
-Helping to make known, what is currently not known
-Helping to realise patterns of behaviour that may not be helpful to us now
-Helping to explore our current and past relationships
-Enabling you to get your needs met without denying the needs of others
-To learn to accept what can be changed and what needs to be accepted
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Integrative Counselling (Minster Centre)
Certificate in Couples Counselling (Revision)
Group facilitation Training
Accredited member of BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists)
Counselling Children & Adolescents (Teens in Crisis Gloucester)
Member of a working community of varied therapists offering a diverse range of ways of working & providing therapy. If I am not the best person then I will signpost you to someone who can help
But what does all this mean? Will we be able to get along?
Your experience in therapy will depend on many things, such as what point you are at in your life, why you have come along, your overall personal circumstances, and importantly how you view or get along with the therapist. The best way to find this out is to come along for a no obligation initial session
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Please contact me for advice or help or simply come along for a chat
I work with Adults and Couples and Teenagers aged 16 & 17. Couples can be together or separating or can be father and son or mother and daughter (ie not just couples in romantic relationship)
I am particularly interested in the challenges facing men of any age as they try to find out who they really are, and about masculinity in general. How do we define ourselves as Men? Is it ok to be emotional?
Making a relationship work, Being a father, Spirituality, our own relationship with our bodies, and the experience of adult orphans are further areas of interest.
I also have interest in working with the adult survivors of parents with Narcissistic Personalities, and the impact of Shame and Guilt
£30 for the first session for individuals (£40 for couple first sessions)
Ongoing sessions, £55 to £70 for a 50 minute session for individuals
Ongoing sessions, £60-£110 for couples depending on session length (50 to 90 minutes)
I can be flexible with session times ie you don't need to come at the same time each time
To make an appointment you can either:
- telephone: 07982 841 829 (If leaving a message please ensure you leave your telephone number as part of the message - as if i'm out signal area, I can't deduce your number from my phone)
- Text me on the above number
- email me using the Red "Email Me" button at the top of my profile
I may not always be able to pick up if you ring, so please do leave a message. Even if you simply say "Ring me back"
I will get back to you as soon as I am available (within 24 hours).