About me
You might be feeling stuck, overwhelmed, unsure of what’s wrong, or simply aware that something doesn’t feel quite right.
You may not know what you want—and that’s okay. Reaching out for counselling, especially from a place of uncertainty, is a brave and meaningful first step. You can just be yourself as we sit together in a safe and supportive space. We can help you begin to make sense of your thoughts and feelings, and offer something to reflect on between sessions.
Who I Work With
I work with individuals and couples from a range of backgrounds.
I have a particular interest in:
-Exploring how early life experiences may be affecting you in the present
-Supporting men with personal challenges
-Helping couples reconnect and strengthen their relationships
My aim is to help you build a stronger, more compassionate relationship with yourself, which can in turn improve your connections with others and the world around you.
What You Can Expect
I offer a patient, understanding, and non-judgmental space where you can speak openly and at your own pace.
Together, we can explore what’s going on for you, develop greater self-awareness, and begin to find ways forward that feel right for you.
The counselling space itself is calm and welcoming, with a woodburner in your line of sight. The warmth and gentle glow can help create a relaxed and grounding environment during our sessions.
First Steps
The first step is an initial 50-minute session where we meet and begin to get a sense of how it feels to work together.
This is a space for you to share as much or as little as you like, ask any questions, and get a feel for the process. I may gently ask you to expand on certain areas to better understand your experience.
At the end of the session, we can reflect on how it felt. If you’re unsure, you’re welcome to take more time or arrange a second session. If I feel another counsellor may be a better fit, I will say so—what matters most is that you find the right support for you.
My Approach
I work in an integrative way, which means I draw on different approaches depending on your needs.
Rather than following a fixed method, I adapt how I work based on you as an individual and how our sessions develop—so the counselling feels relevant, responsive, and personal to you.
INFORMATION FOR COUPLES
Being in Relationships is the most difficult thing you will ever do and its the thing we have the least training in. So the gap between expections (fairy tales and Hollywood) and Reality (Work, effort, struggle, ups and downs, good and bad) is huge.
I appreciate that talking about your Relationship with someone you don’t yet know is hard and that you might not both want to be there. I follow the Emotionally Focussed Model of Couples Counselling. (EFT)
You may want help separating or overcoming a shock to your relationship or more commonly there is something wrong and you aren’t 100% sure what it is and what to do about it. My approach is that together we work to enable you to reconnect (this is even more important in separation scenarios with children where communication needs actually increase post separation) .
A key part of this process is understanding “The Cycle” or “Pattern” or “Dance” that is co-created by you both. “The Cycle” is the default/habitual pattern the relationship/both of you fall into when under pressure (when your connection to each other is under threat). “The Cycle” is your joint enemy, not your partner.
The EFT is a semi structured model that includes reference to 1) our early attachments, 2) to how (sometimes unconscious) feelings drive behaviour, 3) has the idea of a withdrawer and pursuer (both are different ways of safeguarding the relationship) and is 4) more of a “Bottom Up” type of approach including the body (where feelings are as important as thoughts)
In order to do this we need to consider the following in your Relationship
How you process and understand emotion individually and together (Do you purposely validate or accidentally invalidate feelings in the other?)
How you interact with each other (Finding a balance between emotion/feelings and logic/thoughts)
Patterns you are aware of and patterns you may not be aware of (eg How do you handle the balance of personal responsibility? How is Power & Control functioning in your Relationship?)
Why these patterns make sense/are helpful and also how these patterns could be unhelpful/don’t make sense (I need to move away to look after myself but I realise that means we can’t solve something if i’m not there)
How you Communicate (eg Use of words like ‘you’ , ‘never’ & ‘always’)
How you understand and handle vulnerability. (Vulnerability is taking a risk to say how you really feel and what you really think, particularly if you are unsure and things are messy in a particular moment)
How you and your parents interacted and what conscious and unconscious messages you picked up as a result of this (eg We didn’t talk about feelings. Or If I spoke my truth I got into trouble so I learnt not to)
So during a First Session we can talk about your expectations, a bit more about how I work, and practical issues, like time, cost and regularity. We can discuss if having a session each on your own would be of benefit.
After a few sessions we would then discuss your experience so far and your expectations going forwards. Six sessions onwards is a good idea to get an idea how things really work and what the next steps would need to be for your Relationship
Relationship counselling doesn’t just need to be for gay or hetero couples in romantic relationship who are experiencing issues. It can be for any two adults eg mother and daughter or father and son or siblings or for work colleagues. It can also be for couples wanting help to separate in the best way possible for the sake of themselves and/or their children. Or for new couples who want to do preventative/understanding type of work
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Training, qualifications & experience
SensoriMotor Psychotherapy for Developmental & Relational Injury (eg traumas incurred in families with difficult parents, difficult births, separations etc ie ongoing during childhood and later life, personal emotional or physical boundary injuries, losses) Level 2 (2025-26...In Progress)
SensoriMotor Psychotherapy for Trauma Themes (ie single event Trauma, like car crash) Level 1 (2024)
If you are interested in your bodies sensation, experience, how energy moves within it, impulses to move and how your posture affects your body as a resource (which in turn affects your thoughts and outlook then SensoriMotor is for you) It enables the inherent limitations of traditional talking therapy to be overcome. Its best to experience it as its very hard to explain
Diploma in Integrative Counselling (Minster Centre)
Minster Centre is an extremely demanding (academically and experientially), well respected, wide-ranging training where I was intensely challenged. I also attended the taught first year of the MA in Psychotherapy for the experience
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (Ireland) Externship & Core Skills
Certificate in Couples Counselling (Revision)
Facilitating Mens Groups (Centre for Gender Psychology)
Counselling Children & Adolescents (Teens in Crisis Gloucester)
Member of BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists)
Member of a working community of varied therapists offering a diverse range of ways of working & providing therapy. If I am not the best person then I will signpost you to someone who can help
Guy is in weekly Therapy and Supervision which supports me to support you.
But what does all this mean? Will we be able to get along?
Your experience in therapy will depend on many things, such as what point you are at in your life, why you have come along, your overall personal circumstances, and importantly how you view or get along with the therapist. The best way to find this out is to come along for a no obligation initial session
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Please contact me for advice or help or simply come along for a chat
I work with Adults and Couples and Teenagers aged 16 & 17. Couples can be together or separating or can be father and son or mother and daughter (ie not just couples in romantic relationship)
I am particularly interested in the challenges facing men of any age as they try to find out who they really are, and about masculinity in general. How do we define ourselves as Men? Is it ok to be emotional?
Making a relationship work, Being a father, Spirituality, our own relationship with our bodies, and the experience of adult orphans are further areas of interest.
I also have interest in working with the adult survivors of parents with Narcissistic Personalities, and the impact of Shame and Guilt
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Fees
£80.00 per session
Additional information
£80 for a 50 minute session for individuals
£110+ for couples depending on session length (50 to 90 minutes)
As I work from my own separate purpose built space I can be flexible with session times ie you don't need to come at the same time for each session
When I work
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Further information
To make an appointment you can either:
- telephone: 07982 841 829 (If leaving a message please ensure you leave your telephone number as part of the message - as if i'm out signal area, I can't deduce your number from my phone)
- Text or Whatsapp me on the above number
- email me using the Red "Email Me" button at the top of my profile
- From Mobile device on my website www.counsellinginoxford.com click on the whatsapp icon on the bottom right of your screen and send me a message
I may not always be able to pick up if you ring, so please do leave a message. Even if you simply say "Ring me back"
I will get back to you as soon as I am available (within 24 hours).
