About me
Sometimes couples find themselves having the same arguments again and again. A comment that seems harmless can quickly turn into anger, criticism or withdrawal, leaving both of you wondering how you ended up having the same conversation yet again.
You may feel that you've stopped really listening to each other. Perhaps communication has broken down, trust has been damaged, or sex and intimacy have become difficult. You may still love each other but feel increasingly disconnected, frustrated or unsure how to get back to the relationship you once had.
I work with couples who want to understand what has happened to their relationship and find a different way forward. My role isn't to take sides or decide who is right. I provide a calm, open and non-judgemental space where both partners can feel heard, while helping you recognise the patterns that keep you stuck.
Together, we can explore what lies beneath the conflict, learn how to interrupt those familiar cycles before they escalate, and find more constructive ways of communicating with each other.
For some couples, the work involves rebuilding trust after hurt or betrayal. For others, it may be about reconnecting after a long period of emotional distance. Sometimes the difficulty is around sex, intimacy or feeling rejected or unwanted. Whatever has brought you to counselling, we can work at a pace that feels manageable and create space for conversations that have become too difficult to have at home.
My aim isn't simply to help you argue less. It's to help you understand each other better, communicate with greater empathy and develop a relationship that feels safer, more connected and more resilient.
NEURODIVERSITY IN RELATIONSHIPS
I have particular experience working with couples where ADHD or autism is part of the relationship dynamic, whether one or both partners are neurodivergent or you are wondering whether this may be the case.
Neurodiversity can bring many strengths to a relationship, but it can also lead to misunderstandings that neither partner fully understands. One person may feel criticised or unheard, while the other feels that they are constantly having to repeat themselves or that their needs aren't being understood. Over time, these misunderstandings can become familiar cycles of frustration, conflict and withdrawal.
Couples counselling can provide a space to understand what is happening beneath these patterns. We can explore how neurodiversity may be affecting communication, emotional responses, expectations, intimacy and conflict, while recognising that every couple is different.
I have extensive knowledge of the psychological and neurobiological aspects of ADHD and autism, alongside many years of experience working with couples whose communication has become difficult and whose arguments have become repetitive and exhausting.
If you recognise yourselves in this, you don't need to have everything figured out before getting in touch. You may not even be sure exactly what is going wrong. We can start simply by talking about what has been happening and what you would like to be different.
WHAT COUPLES I'VE WORKED WITH HAVE SAID
“Daniel helped us out of one of the darkest points in our lives. He is genuine, kind and understanding, and helped us rationalise our problems and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Speaking to him was always the highlight of our week and he's changed our outlook on life completely. We are a much happier and thankful couple today thanks to him.”
— N & C
“We had known for a while that our communication had stalled and our relationship was suffering as a result. Contacting Daniel and starting couples counselling was the best decision we made. From the very first session his openness and non-judgemental approach put us at ease. He was able to be that fair and validating voice for us both, asking the right questions to help us articulate how and why we felt frustrated and disconnected. He encouraged us to really listen to each other, to actually hear and register the important bits that had been getting drowned out by busy lives and pent up feelings. The course of sessions with Daniel has been genuinely restorative and helped us ‘reset’. We’re so grateful - for his time, his flexibility and his candour - and wouldn’t hesitate to recruit his skills again in the future.”
— K & M
“My husband and I saw Daniel over several weeks during a difficult time in our marriage. We were struggling to communicate and the issues we were facing felt very overwhelming and often insurmountable. However, after just a few sessions with Daniel, the problems we faced no longer felt so challenging. He provided a safe, non-judgemental environment, which allowed us to more easily have the conversations we had been struggling with. We would not hesitate to recommend Daniel to anyone, and he has been crucial in helping us reexamine our relationship and move forward together in a much healthier place.”
— N & M
TAKING THE FIRST STEP
Starting couples counselling can feel daunting, particularly when things between you have been difficult for some time. You don't need to know exactly what you need, or even whether counselling will work for you, before making contact.
I offer a free initial conversation where we can talk about what is happening and you can get a sense of whether I might be the right therapist for you.
If you'd like to explore whether your relationship can feel different, please get in touch.
To set up a free initial assessment, simply drop me an email or give me a call.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BACP Registered Integrative Counsellor
- Member of British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists
- CPACB Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling
- Diploma in Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy
- Diploma in Relational Dynamics Therapy
- Accredited Certificate in Addiction Therapy
- Accredited Certificate in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy
- Accredited Certificate in Trauma Therapy
- Accredited Certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Accredited Certificate in Couples Counselling
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£80.00 - £100.00
Free initial telephone session
Additional information
Individuals - £80 - per 50 minute session.
Couples - £100 - per one hour session.
Families - £120 per one hour session.
Please feel free to call or email to set up a free initial consultation.
When I work
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Monday - Friday - 8am - 8pm Sat - Sunday - 10am - 8pm
Further information
Sessions are £80 for individuals. £100 for couples. £120 for families.
