About me

Are you frustrated in your relationship and find that patterns keep repeating themselves? Are you single and wanting to find new connections but you aren’t sure what is holding you back? Maybe you are feeling cut off from your life and struggle to feel fully present in day-to-day experiences?

Therapy can be a safe space to talk things over and consider how to bring about change. Issues around relationships both romantic ones and with family or friends are often a big contributor to feeling low, anxious, or insecure.

Why would couple therapy help us?

Some common reasons for coming to couple therapy are feeling unheard and wanting to share worries, fears and improve lost connection with their partner. You may have identified that communication is tough and want to find a way to reconnect and bring joy, intimacy, and empathy back into the relationship. If you are experiencing challenges this lockdown, you are not alone.

Even under usual circumstances many couples struggle to find ways to clearly communicate their needs and what once was a free exchange of loving behaviours can sometimes develop into people feeling hurt, upset, isolated and with no easy way to resolve things. Sex and intimacy can suffer when conflict is high and maybe you are left feeling hopeless or feel you have the ‘wrong partner'.

Often talking things over with friends and family is helpful but at times, not as impartial as you might need. Couple therapy can be a space for each of you to reflect on the relationship and share truthfully what you need.

I work with a wide range of relationships and take full account of Gender, Sexual and Relationship Diversity (GSRD) I also offer therapy to siblings, parents and grown up children, business partnerships, or teams of people working to resolve something.

I am not in a relationship – can I come and see you?

In short, yes! Relationships are part of everyday life whether you are romantically involved or not. The connection you have with family and friends, work colleagues and even with yourself are key to building your self-esteem and confidence. The earliest relationships like those with parents, stay with us long into adulthood and are sometimes hard to explore. Maybe you have a history of childhood trauma, abuse or are feeling depressed and fearful of rejection. Perhaps you have a number of difficult relationships behind you and want to develop a new way of approaching things.

I work with individual clients on a range of issues. It might be about giving you somewhere to share your experiences, in a confidential and non-judgemental place. You might want to explore ideas and think about how to make changes in your life. Lots of people seeking therapy aren’t sure what they really need but feel at a turning point. The focus is on building a strong trusting therapeutic relationship, from which to support each person to consider what feels most important to them.

How do I make contact and access therapy?

Lots of people feel anxious about making contact with a new therapist, this is completely normal. By reaching out and having a phone conversation we can talk about your hopes and expectations of therapy and I can share more about the way I work. I offer a FREE phone consultation before any initial appointment.

At no time are you tied into an ongoing agreement and you are welcome to attend a first session and see if therapy with me is the right fit for you. Please contact me using the details provided to enquire about my availability.

I am currently offering some in-person therapy subject to Covid-19 procedures, as well as online zoom therapy.

Training, qualifications & experience

I am a qualified therapist and member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I specialise in working with couples or those in a relationship as well as adult clients.  I am also trained to work with children and young people.

I have completed the ‘Certificate in Working with Couples and Other Relationships’ with The Centre for Psychosexual Health, the ‘Advanced Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling’ at CPPD in London as well as ‘Diploma in Child Counselling’ at IATE.

My training was based on an integrative model which means I use a range of therapeutic approaches in my work. These include Attachment Theory, Trauma and Neuroscience research, Transactional Analysis and Psychodynamic Therapy. My starting point is always the client(s) and what their unique situation is, rather than what the theory expects.

I have also trained extensively in using creative arts in therapy and can incorporate this into both individual and relationship counselling if clients so wish. This includes working with the sand tray to let client's unconscious speak (as pictured).

Alongside my work as a therapist, I run an Early Years educational consultancy business, offer parenting coaching, and also train other therapists on a range of topics. These include working with couples, creative therapy and safeguarding.

QUALIFICATIONS

  • Advanced Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling
  • Certificate in Working with Couples and Other Relationships
  • Diploma in Child Counselling
  • Virtual Counselling for Clinical Practice Training
  • Certificate in Counselling Skills with Children
  • Emotion Coaching Practitioner Trainer
  • Train the Trainer – Child Protection and Safeguarding
  • Fine Art BA(HONS)
  • Qualified Teacher Status

Member organisations

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I work in an integrative way which incorporates a range of therapeutic theories and approaches. I offer creative arts therapy for couples, adults and young people as well as more traditional talking therapy.

I specialise in working within the areas of attachment, trauma and abuse with a neuroscience informed approach. I also offer parenting coaching to support parent-child relationships through Emotion Coaching techniques.

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Fees

I offer both short and long term therapy which can be open ended if preferred. I usually see individual clients weekly for 50 minutes and couples every two weeks for 80 minutes. I am flexible in my approach and can adapt this to suit clients needs.

Individual Therapy - £65 (50 minute session)

Couple & Relationship Therapy - £140  (80 minute session)

I offer some concessionary sessions for those on a limited income. Please contact me to enquire about fees and availability.

Concessions offered for

  • Keyworkers
  • Low income
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Further information

I am fully insured and hold a Enhanced DBS on the update service.

Type of session

In person
Online
Phone
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language
Other languages None

Accessibility

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

Wheelchair user access Unspecified

Availability

I offer sessions both during the day and in the evening, Monday to Friday.  November 2020 -  I have some spaces for both in-person and online clients.

Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults
Couples
Groups
Organisations

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