Nicky Daly MBACP BSc Hons Psych, Dip Couns & Psychotherapy,Cert Group Analysis
Coronavirus and Therapy.:-Managing strange times.
We currently find ourselves in uncertain and worrying times. The Coronavirus pandemic has placed many under enormous stress, as we struggle to stay calm and steady during a period of enormous uncertainty. We find ourselves in a situation which is unprecedented in most people's lifetimes.
This fast changing landscape, or rather our response to it, can take us on a rollercoaster ride of difficult and frightening feelings that can threaten to overwhelm us. This situation can leave us feeling helpless, angry, scared, panicky and anxious, lonely and isolated, and on our own with reactions we're struggling to make sense of or to manage. We can find it hard to see a way forward, or to see how it's all going to work itself out.
The importance of being aware.
There is a reality to some of these reactions we're experiencing: the threat to many, in terms of health or livelihood, is very real. However, times of stress and change and the unknown can also trigger reactions in us that are about other times we've known, other changes, other times of threat or loss or confusion, and these can have the effect of exacerbating and pre-existing symptoms we may have.
So we may find our depression or anxiety returning, physical symptoms of stress or panic gripping us, old habits or addictions rearing their head.
These can affect our ability to perceive things accurately, or in a balanced way that might help us. We can find it hard to tell what's reasonable and what isn't. Our mind won't be still, and keeps jumping from one fearful thought to another, or keeps escaping into manic activity.
The importance of seeking help
It's so important to seek help sooner rather than later if we start to notice this happening. That might involve talking with a friend or someone we trust, or checking the facts in a responsible way from trusted sources.
It might include looking after our physical and emotional well-being with fresh air in the countryside, doing things we find relaxing or soothing, exercise, meditation. Laughter helps, too!
However, sometimes these don't feel enough. At such times, it's okay to acknowledge we can't do it on our own, with the resources we've got available, and that we need some help from someone experienced in helping people through difficult times.
Currently all sessions are being offered by telephone or remotely by Skype, following government guidelines to isolate ourselves. Although these are difficult and unsettling times, we can still stay connected and continue as normal through this temporary period of uncertainty.
On our own, we can go round and round in circles, trying to find the light at the end of the tunnel, or the magic wand that will suddenly make everything feel better. What we really need, when this happens, is to talk with someone who can help us to ground ourselves again, help us to think things through, make plans, learn techniques and tools to help us cope, and help us to join things up and make some sense of why we're feeling this way.
struggling with difficult feelings such as fear, depression, anxiety, stress, grief, anger? Do you feel like you are going around in circles and can't see a light at the end of the tunnel?
Struggling on our own it can be difficult to see a way forward and hard to believe that anyone else might understand or be able to help.
Taking that step to ask for help can be a frightening one, but it can also be the beginning of stepping out of that circle and finding a different perspective.
The fact that you are reading this says something. That maybe:
1. You recognise something is wrong and are looking for a solution.
2. You don't feel great, but are unsure what the problem is and would like some help to work out what's wrong and move forward.
3. You feel stuck and would like something to change and are looking for help to make it different
Maybe you've tried medication, but feel it hasn't help as much as you'd hoped and would like to try something else instead?
Maybe you suffer from over thinking and feel anxious a low a lot of the time, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and hopeless?
Maybe you are struggling to get past some difficult experience in the past, which feels hard to forget and forgive?
Maybe you have difficulties getting on with people, making life feel hard and you feeling unable to be who you want to be?
Maybe life feels joyless and without much purpose or good things to look forward to?
Maybe you would like help to find some stillness, calm and steadiness in what feels like a frantic world?
Maybe you feel trapped in a difficult relationship and want some help?
Maybe you are struggling to deal with the loss of a loved one?
What Can I offer you.
Help identifying ways forward: Sometimes we can't see beyond our own perception of what is possible until someone else helps us step outside and see things afresh.
Help to take that all important step forward with support.
Help you make sense of and unravel the difficulties you're struggling with.
Who am I?
My name is Nicky Daly and I work in a joint counselling/psychotherapy practice with a fellow psycotherapist. I offer confidential, individual counselling/therapy, both short and long term, from my private practise in Shepshed, just 3 minutes drive from J23 of the M1. As a practise we offer short and long term therapy for individuals, couples, children and young people.
I have been a trainer in the voluntary sector, but now work as a counsellor full time and have a many years experience in the mental health field helping people cope with distress. My approach draws from an integrated mix of psychodynamic, humanistic and Cognitive Behavioural and Mindfulness based Stress Reduction. However, my core model is Psychodynamic.
What does that mean? Simply that we are the sum total of all we have known, and that making sense of why we feel the way we do is every bit as important as learning techniques to manage it. If you like, I believe that it's better to heal the wound than to put a sticking plaster over it, and that it's this that makes the difference to the outcome, and whether change is lasting or not.
Over the years, I have become increasingly interested in, and persuaded by, the mind-body-spirit connection, and my way of working has become increasingly holistic.
I have also become interested in the importance of spirituality (with a small 's') in wellbeing, and the creativity and greater sense of connection it can give us.
I work with individuals and have interest and experience supporting people with the following difficulties -
My areas of experience and interest include:-
Stress/burnout/Work Life Balance
Stress at work
Struggling to find peace calm and inner stillness
Feeling stuck and wishing there was more to life
Difficulties relating to other people
Grief and Loss.
Low self esteem
Problems dating back to childhood and adolescence
Spiritual development and crisis.
Please contact me for a chat and to make an initial appointment.
I adhere to the BACP's ethical code.
Training, qualifications & experience
Registered General Nurse - South Manchester School of Nursing
Human Psychology BSc Hons 2.1 - Loughborough University
Diploma in Contemporary Psychodynamic Counselling & Psychotherapy : Distinction - Leicester University
Foundation Certificate in Group Analysis - East Midlands Institute of Group Analysis
Train the Trainer Certificate
I have 5 years experience as a trainer in the Voluntary Sector writing and running psycho educational courses for families supporting someone with severe mental illness. I also work as a freelance trainer offering mental health training to voluntary and private organisations. For an informal chat about your training needs, please do get in touch to find out more.
I offer sessions on :
Understanding Mental Illness
Understanding Self Harm
Taking Care of Yourself
Coping with Challenging Behaviour
Mental Health First Aid: Coping with Distress
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Individual counselling/therapy - £45 per 50 minute session
Initial sessions last for 1 hour and are charged at £45.
As I am unable to answer my phone when working, please leave a brief message, with your name and telephone number, on the confidential answering machine and I will get back to you the same day, or within 24 hours.