Nicky Daly MBACP BSc Hons Psych, Dip Counselling, Certificate in Group Analysis
07581 747542 / 07581 747542
Are you struggling with difficult feelings such as fear, depression, anxiety, stress, grief, anger? Do you feel like you are going around in circles and can't see a light at the end of the tunnel?
Struggling on our own it can be difficult to see a way forward and hard to believe that anyone else might understand or be able to help.
Taking that step to ask for help can be a frightening one, but it can also be the beginning of stepping out of that circle and finding a different perspective.
The fact that you are reading this says something. That maybe:
1. You recognise something is wrong and are looking for a solution.
2. You don't feel great, but are unsure what the problem is and would like some help to work out what's wrong and move forward.
3. You feel stuck and would like something to change and are looking for help to make it different
Maybe you've tried medication, but feel it hasn't help as much as you'd hoped and would like to try something else instead?
Maybe you suffer from over thinking and feel anxious a low a lot of the time, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and hopeless?
Maybe you are struggling to get past some difficult experience in the past, which feels hard to forget and forgive?
Maybe you have difficulties getting on with people, making life feel hard and you feeling unable to be who you want to be?
Maybe life feels joyless and without much purpose or good things to look forward to?
Maybe you would like help to find some stillness, calm and steadiness in what feels like a frantic world?
Maybe you feel trapped in a difficult relationship and want some help?
Maybe you are struggling to deal with the loss of a loved one?
At 36 years old, I had never had a proper relationship. I would say I hadn't even got any proper friends. I had work colleagues, and I had people I occasionally socialised with, but nothing of any significance or depth. I had a First Class Honours degree from one of the top universities in the country, and a job and income lots of people were jealous of, but I was incredibly lonely. I was a senior partner in a firm that had an impressive reputation, but my life itself felt empty and miserable.
You can imagine that, for someone in my position, admitting that you need help with one of the most basic things in life felt acutely embarrassing. The shame I felt in needing to make an appointment to ask someone to help me learn how to relate to other people was so great that I had put it off for years. I kept convincing myself that it was just a matter of time, or that things weren't really that bad. In the end, though, I had to swallow my pride and admit that I couldn't do it on my own.
Nicky couldn't have been more easy to talk to, and all my fears about looking like some kind of freak gradually melted away. Nicky has this wonderful way of normalising everything, of helping you realise that you're not at all the only person struggling with something, but that a large proportion of the human race is struggling with the very same thing, or has experienced something very similar. I think that's the thing I am most grateful for, more than anything else - Nicky helped me to believe that I was a human being just like anyone else.
She helped me understand, as we pieced together all the different experiences I'd had, why I found trusting people and opening myself up so very hard. High expectations placed on me as a child to achieve and be a certain eay, being bullied at school, one or two disastrous attempts at asking girls out on dates, a career taking over, and finding that safer and more reliable than people, their influence had been so great.
It wasn't easy, certainly not comfortable in the beginning, to admit to all these things. But looking back, I realise that Nicky made it possible for me to share them without shame or embarrassment, and to accept them simply as experiences that had brought me to here. I had seen them as permanent flaws or faults, something actually wrong with me that could never change, but very gently and firmly Nicky helped me to build my confidence that things could be different.
We did a lot of very practical work alongside what I would call the 'deeper stuff', and Nicky helped me hugely in thinking about how to relate to other people more openly and more effectively. I began to dare to risk conversations that I'd always have avoided before. I'd hang around at the coffee machine and talk to people instead of scuttling back to the safety of my office. I developed interests and began to take more notice of what was going on around me. I'd have follow-up conversations, as I learned in more detail how conversation works, and how to make friends and keep them.
I got engaged to be married a few months ago. Nicky walked with me through the highs and lows, the fears and anxieties, and helped me to keep daring and hoping and being honest during the enormous demands of building this relationship too. There wasn't anything we couldn't talk about, or anywhere we couldn't go.
I owe Nicky a debt I can never repay. All I can do is tell you to go and see her. Don't put it off for years like I did. You won't regret it.'
What Can I offer you.
Help identifying ways forward: Sometimes we can't see beyond our own perception of what is possible until someone else helps us step outside and see things afresh.
Help to take that all important step forward with support.
Help you make sense of and unravel the difficulties you're struggling with.
Who am I?
My name is Nicky Daly and I work in a joint counselling/psychotherapy practice with a fellow psycotherapist. I offer confidential, individual counselling/therapy, both short and long term, from my private practise in Shepshed, just 3 minutes drive from J23 of the M1. As a practise we offer short and long term therapy for individuals, couples, children and young people.
I have been a trainer in the voluntary sector, but now work as a counsellor full time and have a many years experience in the mental health field helping people cope with distress. My approach draws from an integrated mix of psychodynamic, humanistic and Cognitive Behavioural and Mindfulness based Stress Reduction. However, my core model is Psychodynamic.
What does that mean? Simply that we are the sum total of all we have known, and that making sense of why we feel the way we do is every bit as important as learning techniques to manage it. If you like, I believe that it's better to heal the wound than to put a sticking plaster over it, and that it's this that makes the difference to the outcome, and whether change is lasting or not.
Over the years, I have become increasingly interested in, and persuaded by, the mind-body-spirit connection, and my way of working has become increasingly holistic.
I have also become interested in the importance of spirituality (with a small 's') in wellbeing, and the creativity and greater sense of connection it can give us.
I work with individuals and have interest and experience supporting people with the following difficulties -
My areas of experience and interest include:-
Stress/burnout/Work Life Balance
Stress at work
Struggling to find peace calm and inner stillness
Feeling stuck and wishing there was more to life
Difficulties relating to other people
Grief and Loss.
Low self esteem
Problems dating back to childhood and adolescence
Spiritual development and crisis.
Please contact me for a chat and to make an initial appointment.
I adhere to the BACP's ethical code.
Training, qualifications & experience
Registered General Nurse - South Manchester School of Nursing
Human Psychology BSc Hons 2.1 - Loughborough University
Diploma in Contemporary Psychodynamic Counselling : Distinction - Leicester University
Foundation Certificate in Group Analysis - East Midlands Institute of Group Analysis
Train the Trainer Certificate
I have 5 years experience as a trainer in the Voluntary Sector writing and running psycho educational courses for families supporting someone with severe mental illness. I also work as a freelance trainer offering mental health training to voluntary and private organisations. For an informal chat about your training needs, please do get in touch to find out more.
I offer sessions on :
Understanding Mental Illness
Understanding Self Harm
Taking Care of Yourself
Coping with Challenging Behaviour
Mental Health First Aid: Coping with Distress
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
Individual counselling/therapy - £45 per 50 minute session
Initial sessions last for 1 hour and are charged at £45
As I am unable to answer my phone when working, please leave a brief message, with your name and telephone number, on the confidential answering machine and I will get back to you the same day, or within 24 hours.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I offer both evening and daytime sessions Monday to Friday.
Types of client