Fran Jeffes BA(Hons) Integrative MBACP Registered Dip.NLP Couples/Individual

Fran Jeffes  BA(Hons) Integrative MBACP Registered Dip.NLP Couples/Individual

The Wilbury Clinic
64 Wilbury Road
Hove
BN3 3PY

077882 99918

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About me

Are you experiencing a feeling you no longer want, or is there a situation you would like to see changed? Do you need help with anxious thoughts, relationship issues, or sad feelings? Talking to a professional counsellor, who isn't a close friend, gives you the chance to explore any challenges together and discover better ways of living.

I offer safe, confidential, non-judgemental counselling for a range of issues including anxiety, depression, bereavement, panic, recovery from trauma (including emotional trauma) and difficulties with relationships (partnerships or friendships). I am an Integrative counsellor which means I use a variety of theories in supporting our work together.

Clients choose to explore issues in differing ways. Some of the options that I offer, from which you may choose, include the following:

  • talking things through in order to make sense of what has happened, and to put things in perspective;
  • making sense of a specific problematic event that sticks in your mind;
  • problem-solving, planning and decision -making;
  • changing behaviour;
  • negotiating a life transition or developmental crisis;
  • dealing with difficult feelings and emotions;
  • finding, analysing and acting on information;
  • undoing self-criticism and enhancing self-care;
  • dealing with difficult or painful relationships;

Often clients find it helpful to work on these issues on a step-by-step basis. One of the ways that therapy may help is that I can work with you to disentangle the various strands of the problem, and help you to decide what needs to be dealt with first.

A flexible, personalised approach to helping you

The therapy I offer is based on the belief that people who come for therapy are experts of their own lives (even if they don't feel like they are), who have lots of potentially good ideas about how to deal with their problems. One of my main roles as therapist, is to help you make the best use of your own experience and understanding.

This means that I will be as flexible as possible in responding to your needs. Different clients are helped in different ways. Some find it more helpful to express their feelings - sadness, anger, anxiety, fearfulness. Other clients find it more helpful to take a rational approach to their problems, and use the therapy to 'think things through'. Others may enjoy more teaching about how we relate to one another and why we behave in certain ways. Clients may shift, over the course of therapy, from finding one kind of activity helpful to then preferring another.

Over the years I have helped clients as they have transformed their situations. Through our work together clients have made the following life changes :

  • Many have improved their relationship issues.
  • They were able to change their automatic negative thoughts, lowering their anxiety.
  • Others came to terms with painful losses alleviating their depression.
  • Some gained the understanding and acceptance of the past.
  • Many gained a new self-confidence and the ability to make new life choices.

My approach provides you a deeper understanding around your experiences, giving you the opportunity to explore different options. Valuing your unique potential, we can focus on your priorities. By working through and clarifying your thoughts and feelings, I can support you in becoming more self-aware and changing low self-confidence and low self-esteem toward becoming more assertive.

Gaining personal insight and building self-esteem will help you to feel more in control of life. As we explore your experiences and understand events, I can support you when you feel sad, angry, embarrassed or frightened. I can help you to think through any changes you may wish to make, and explore different approaches to problems.

Our work may explore where unhelpful reactions first began. For example whilst it may have been an automatic response for a child to become submissive toward a bullying teacher, as an adult it will be necessary to develop a wider range of responses to bullying, rather than being triggered and limited to past reactions. Clients able to discover these connections are able to access more empowered choices and responses.

In my counselling work I integrate a variety of theoretical approaches (see below), to meet the needs of each unique client. Exploring problems can help you understand your thoughts and feelings. Gaining personal insight will lead to finding better ways of coping. Talking things through brings about a clearer perspective; setting goals and developing new skills can transform behaviours that seem stuck; providing information about mood swings or an 'inner critical voice' can normalise habitual patterns and help bring about the motivation for change.

Testimonials from past clients

These past client's have kindly given me permission to print a copy of their emails following our work together.

P.M. wrote:

I have found my counselling to be illuminating and insightful.  It is one of the best personal investments I have ever made in my health and well-being - it's totally worth doing.  What I have found most encouraging is being heard.  I have been afraid to speak up, thinking that what I had to say was not valid or even interesting.  But what I've experienced is the opposite.  The whole experience has been incredibly helpful.
I know that this life is a journey and that I will continue to experience its ups and downs, but I now have a better understanding of them because of the help and support I have received.  I have begun to see myself in a different and more healthy way.  I feel more whole and I now have hope.  I am more enabled as a person.  Thank you Fran!

L.B. wrote:

I went to visit Fran after some very painful family issues rose to the surface, that I thought had been dealt with over 20 years ago. She walked with me through this difficult time in my life helping me to talk about and understand these issues, my anxiety and my feelings. Fran was so kind, gentle and nurturing. I felt very at ease. She helped me release so much pain, shame and guilt that I had been carrying for so many years. Such a blessing.

A.B. wrote:

I had counselling with Fran for several months and found it to be a very positive experience. It was a good balance between dealing with my anxieties of that week and exploring how these feelings may have arisen in my past and why they kept recurring. By unpicking some of my past experiences I was able to begin to cope better on a daily basis. I also found Fran's explanations of theories around anxiety helpful in enabling me to understand why I reacted in certain situations. I found Fran to be very professional and respectful of my beliefs.

What to expect  

When we first meet you can get a sense of how counselling works, asking me any questions and queries you may have. I ask you to help me get a sense of how you have been feeling over the past month and how you are coping with life.  Hearing some of the details of what has brought you to counselling, you can tell me about your hopes for therapy.

I always pace our work carefully so that I can really understand any anxiety or depression, and what you are thinking. My work is to help you make sense of your experiences and for us together, to help you find better ways of living.

I am an experienced counsellor and have worked with many clients. I am a Registered member of the BACP and can offer you short-term crisis prevention work or longer therapy.

Individual sessions are for 50 minutes on a weekly basis in Hove.

Couples Counselling

Firstly, well done for considering couples counselling. My work with couples is for those considering staying together and wishing to improve the quality of their relationship, as well as those couples who are wanting to navigate separation and divorce as amicably as possible.

Usually one of the couple has wanted to come to counselling more than the other. That’s quite normal.  During the therapy this can often change and hopefully by the end of our work, you will both recognize the benefits and changes that have occurred.  Couples usually attend for anything from 8 – 20 weeks, and longer.

Counselling is a process of talking through issues, hearing how each other are thinking and feeling and agreeing upon the way forward.  Sometimes it feels worse before it can feel better.  The process requires a committed attitude and the will to try out new ways of relating with each other.

Couples work includes using a specific therapy known as Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT. This therapy looks at relational patterns that have become stuck, or conflictual. The most common of these patterns is the habit of one partner criticising and pursuing the argument followed by the other person defending themselves and withdrawing. Often clients are dealing with issues which include a loss of trust, or anger or fear. Using EFT therapy I will observe your particular patterns and exploring these together we will work on new, alternative ways of communicating. We will work together and I will help you to notice any particular patterns.

Couples therapy begins with an initial meeting with you both followed by a single session each. This session is to get to know you a little as individuals before coming back together as a couple. During the single session I will complete an assessment in which I gather some personal details about your lives. This will include practical details, information about your health and wellbeing, the reason for your seeking counselling at this time, and what you hope to gain from attending therapy.

Couples therapy may include some educational teaching around relational patterns and emotional mood swings. If there has been a betrayal we may explore the process of grief and loss and how to restore trust within the relationship.

I also work with couples navigating separation and divorce. Amongst other things I can help with your planning over children's visitation hours, holiday arrangements and other previously shared events.

Couples sessions are for 50 minutes on a weekly basis in Hove.

My therapy rooms are located in Hove, The Wilbury Clinic, 64 Wilbury Road, BN3 3PY.

Training, qualifications & experience

BA (Hons) Integrative Counselling (BACP Accredited 4 year training)

BA (Hons) Fine Art

Diploma in Neuro Linguistic Programming - NLP (INLPTA)

Couples and Relationship Counselling Qualification - Basingstoke Counselling Services

I am a Registered Member of the BACP, am fully insured, and adhere to the BACP's Ethical Framework (2018).

I receive regular supervision with an Accredited Supervisor and attend ongoing continual professional development (CPD).

My experience spans Agency, Charity and private practice work throughout Hampshire, West Sussex and East Sussex.

I have gained experience in working with:

  • people experiencing challenging relationship issues
  • fear of dependency and the resulting symptoms of submission or control
  • low self-esteem and the resulting sense of depression and/or anxiety in life
  • individuals repeating unwanted relationship patterns and looking to make changes
  • couples navigating separation and divorce
  • feelings of overwhelm that lead to sabotaging friendships
  • exploring how relational patterns originating in childhood persist and dominate your relational styles in adult life
  • people struggling with low self-confidence
  • couples navigating family changes e.g. children leaving home and/or retirement
  • individuals coming to terms with what retirement means and how to create a new meaningful life
  • individual's who feel stuck in life and can't seem to find their own voice
  • postnatal depression
  • individual's for whom emotional abuse has been their experience
  • inner child work
  • two chair work
  • women who have experienced pregnancy loss through miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth or termination
  • women undergoing IVF
  • generalised anxiety disorder, panic anxiety with depression, stress and depression
  • others just unable to cope at the moment and feeling sad
  • recovery from childhood trauma (including child sexual abuse)
  • recovery from rape
  • recovery from childhood witnessing of domestic violence
  • recovery from childhood domestic violence
  • individuals working on ongoing family issues

Member organisations

ACC
BACP

Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • I also work to help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth. Life coaching can be a way to walk through life changes, facilitating an increase in personal resources, developing more resilliance and gaining a deeper understanding of your personal identity. Finding the self-esteem needed to navigate student life, career progression, family life changes and other life stages is vital to making the choices you need and want. Knowing how to represent yourself in relationships with dignity and respect enables you to embrace a vision for your life, to relate authentically and meet your needs in appropriate life giving ways. Life coaching as well as general counselling helps with the following:

  • Depression
  • Anxious thoughts, anxiety
  • Panic attacks
  • Couples navigating life changes; children leaving home; retirement
  • Relationship issues
  • Separation and divorce
  • Postnatal depression
  • Low self-esteem
  • stress
  • general mental health
  • Dependency; co-dependency;
  • Family issues
  • Low self-confidence
  • Mood swings
  • Being overly tearful and feeling sad
  • Family issues
  • Bereavement and losses
  • Emotional abuse
  • Flashbacks
  • Retirement

I also work to help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth.

Therapy can be a way to walk through life changes, facilitating an increase in personal resources, developing more resilliance and gaining a deeper understanding of your personal identity.

Photos & videos

  • The Wilbury Clinic

Fees

I offer flexible therapy hours

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday am-pm.

Sessions are weekly, at the same time and day every week in Hove.

Session fees   -       individuals: £45   - 50 minute session.

                                    couples: £65   - 50 minute session.

I offer a student concession:         £35   - 50 minute session.

Further information

Previous clients have given me permission to include a copy of their emails to me.

P.M. wrote:

I have found my counselling to be illuminating and insightful.  It is one of the best personal investments I have ever made in my health and well-being - it's totally worth doing.  What I have found most encouraging is being heard.  I have been afraid to speak up, thinking that what I had to say was not valid or even interesting.  But what I've experienced is the opposite.  The whole experience has been incredibly helpful.
I know that this life is a journey and that I will continue to experience its ups and downs, but I now have a better understanding of them because of the help and support I have received.  I have begun to see myself in a different and more healthy way.  I feel more whole and I now have hope.  I am more enabled as a person.  Thank you Fran!

L.B. wrote:

'I went to visit Fran after some very painful family issues rose to the surface, that I thought had been dealt with over 20 years ago. She walked with me through this difficult time in my life helping me to talk about and understand these issues, my anxiety and my feelings. Fran was so kind, gentle and nurturing. I felt very at ease. She helped me release so much pain, shame and guilt that I had been carrying for so many years. Such a blessing.

My rooms are located at:-

The Wilbury Clinic

64 Wilbury Road, Hove, BN3 3PY

The clinic is located at the top end of Wilbury Road, Hove, near the junction with Cromwell Road and can be reached by:

Train: Hove Station is a 10 minute walk.

Please ring the Clinic bell to the right of the door.

There is on road parking at £1p/h or £5 for a whole day. It is also on bus routes (1's, 2's, 5's, 49) getting off at Second Avenue at the Church Road end of Wilbury Road. Or the number 7 stops just round the corner on Cromwell Road. It is also just a 5 minute walk from Hove train station.

For more details of location and transport please see: http://thewilburyclinic.co.uk/contact-us/

Maps & Directions

Hove, BN3 3PY

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: No
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None

Accessibility

Wheelchair access: No

The clinic in Hove has 5 deep steps approaching the entry door. The counselling rooms are on the ground floor.

Availability

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday AM and PM.

Types of client

Adults
Older adults
Couples