Fran Jeffes BA(Hons) Humanistic-Integrative Counselling MBACP registered.

Fran Jeffes  BA(Hons) Humanistic-Integrative Counselling MBACP registered.

Humanistic-Integrative Therapist
The Wilbury Clinic
64 Wilbury Road
Hove
BN3 3PY

077882 99918

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Humanistic-Integrative Therapist
The Wilbury Clinic
64 Wilbury Road
Hove
BN3 3PY

077882 99918

About me

Are you looking for help with anxiety, anxious thoughts, relationship issues, depression, or other life problems? I offer safe, accepting, non-judgemental therapy, an approach where we can explore any worries, anxiety and challenges together. Our work will look at any problems you are facing and how to overcome them.

Therapy is a process of our exploring current challenges, or painful pasts, and finding the help to live life in a different way. Our therapeutic relationship will support you as together we explore events and relationships that have hurt or upset you. Accurately naming and understanding your feelings is a way of improving your self-confidence, self-awareness and insight.

If requested, I can help you gain an understanding surrounding emotional states by explaining some relevant theories, and providing information about emotional mood swings, grounding techniques, inner child work, parental mirrors, life scripts, common characteristics experienced within challenging families, and more.

Understanding what you would like to change, helps to discover what you need and want, as well as the choices available to you. Becoming aware of your true self, your needs and wants, is the gateway to becoming stronger and feeling more in control.

My work is based on self-compassion, regaining self-esteem and confidence. I have counselled both men and women. My work has helped clients with ongoing depression, general anxiety, unhelpful relationship patterns, trauma symptoms and panic attacks.

Finding the self-esteem needed to navigate life, career progression, family life changes and other life stages, is vital to making the choices you need and want. Knowing how to represent yourself in relationships with dignity and respect enables you to embrace a vision for your life, to relate authentically and meet your needs in appropriate life giving ways.

After gaining an initial understanding the problem, we explore your biggest worries, as well as your hopes for our work. Our work, in a safe and confidential setting, can help you to find better ways of living, and to develop the self-esteem necessary to make new life choices.

I also help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth.

Over the years I have helped clients as they have transformed their situations. Through our work together clients have made the following life changes :

  • Many have improved their relationships.
  • They were able to change their automatic negative thoughts, lowering their anxiety.
  • Others came to terms with painful losses alleviating their depression.
  • Some gained the understanding and acceptance of the past.
  • Many gained a new self-confidence and the ability to make new life choices.

My approach provides you a deeper understanding around your experiences, giving you the opportunity to explore different options. Valuing your unique potential, we can focus on your priorities. By working through and clarifying your thoughts and feelings, I can support you in becoming more self-aware and self-confident.

Talking things through with a professional counsellor, who isn't a close friend, gives you the chance to be really honest and reflective. Emotional states can feel overwhelming, and out of control. The resulting anxiety or depression, can lead you to shutting down, or feeling hemmed in by past defensive reactions. Previously these automatic ways of coping may have worked, but they now feel awkward and inappropriate. Counselling with me can help you find better ways of coping and new ways of responding, rather than reacting.

Gaining personal insight and building self-esteem will help you to feel more in control of life. As we explore your experiences and understand events, I can support you when you feel sad, angry, embarrassed or frightened. I can help you to think through any changes you may wish to make, and explore different approaches to problems.

A past client, 'Liz, 42yrs', has given me permission to print her personal reflections on our recent work together. She wrote:

'I went to visit Fran after some very painful family issues rose to the surface, that I thought had been dealt with over 20 years ago. She walked with me through this difficult time in my life helping me to talk about and understand these issues, my anxiety and my feelings. Fran was so kind, gentle and nurturing. I felt very at ease. She helped me release so much pain, shame and guilt that I had been carrying for so many years. Such a blessing.'

What to expect   When we first meet you can get a sense of how counselling works, asking me any questions and queries you may have. I ask you to help me get a sense of how you have been feeling over the past month and how you are coping with life.  Hearing some of the details of what has brought you to counselling, you can tell me about your hopes for our therapy.

My experience has shown me that how we relate in the here and now is often how we learnt to relate earlier in life. For this reason, in our therapy together we may consider how you learnt to adapt to situations and how these patterns may no longer be proving useful. Sometimes, unhelpful patterns require some education to fully understand them, and I may offer information to help with this understanding. I can help you find the confidence to practice more creative ways of being.

I always pace our work carefully so that I can really understand how you are feeling, and what you are thinking. My work is to help you make sense of your experiences and for us together, to help you find better ways of coping.

I am an experienced counsellor and have worked with many clients. I am a Registered member of the BACP and can offer you short-term crisis prevention work or longer therapy.

Why does counselling work?

Counselling is about us exploring your concerns in life and areas where you feel dissatisfied and stuck. We look at areas where you feel out of control, where perhaps you are trying to meet your needs in unhelpful ways that no longer work. I can help you to find the emotional and psychological support needed to carry on, lower anxiety levels and help with the growing self-confidence needed to make future choices.

My approach provides you a deeper understanding around your experiences, giving you the opportunity to explore different options. Valuing your unique potential, we can focus on your priorities. By working through and clarifying your thoughts and feelings, I can support you in becoming more self-aware and self-confident.

Individual sessions are for 50 minutes on a weekly basis.

Couples Counselling

Firstly, well done for considering couples counselling. My work with couples is for those considering staying together and wishing to improve the quality of their relationship, as well as those couples who are wanting to navigate separation and divorce as amicably as possible.
Usually one of the couple has wanted to come to counselling more than the other. That’s quite normal.  During the therapy this can often change and hopefully by the end of our work, you will both recognize the benefits and changes that have occurred.  Couples usually attend for anything from 8 – 20 weeks, and longer.

Counselling is a process of talking through issues, hearing how each other are thinking and feeling and agreeing upon the way forward.  Sometimes it feels worse before it can feel better.  The process requires a committed attitude and the will to try out new ways of relating with each other. 

For those couples wishing to stay together, as part of the therapy, I will want to know some personal details about your lives, your backgrounds, how you met, what attracted you to each other and perhaps some family background information. 
For this reason, I ask that following our first meeting together, I meet with each of you separately for an individual session before coming back together as a couple.  We can try and fit these individual sessions in as quickly as possible, so that the couples work can get underway.

I also work with couples navigating separation and divorce. Amongst other things I can help with negotiating over children's visitation hours, holiday arrangements and other previously shared events.

Couples sessions are for 50 minutes on a weekly basis.

My therapy rooms are located in Hove.

Training, qualifications & experience

BA (Hons) Humanistic Counselling (A BACP accredited 4 year training)

BA (Hons) Fine Art

Diploma in Neuro Linguistic Programming - NLP (INLPTA)

Couples and Relationship Counselling - Basingstoke Counselling Services

I am a Registered member of the BACP, am fully insured, and adhere to the BACP's Ethical Framework (2018).

I receive regular supervision with an accredited supervisor and attend ongoing continual professional development (CPD).

My experience spans Agency, Charity and private practice work throughout Hampshire, West Sussex and East Sussex.

I also work to help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth.

Life coaching can be a way to walk through life changes, facilitating an increase in personal resources, developing more resilliance and gaining a deeper understanding of your personal identity. Finding the self-esteem needed to navigate student life, career progression, family life changes and other life stages is vital to making the choices you need and want. Knowing how to represent yourself in relationships with dignity and respect enables you to embrace a vision for your life, to relate authentically and meet your needs in appropriate life giving ways.

I have gained experience in working with:

  • people experiencing relationship issues
  • fear of dependency and the resulting symptoms of submission or control
  • low self confidence and the resulting sense of depression or anxiety in life
  • individuals repeating unwanted relationship patterns and looking to make changes
  • couples who navigating separation and divorce
  • feelings of overwhelm that lead to sabotaging friendships
  • Couples navigating family changes through children leaving home and/or retirement
  • individuals coming to terms with what retirement means and how to create a new meaningful life
  • men and women who feel stuck in life and can't seem to find their own voice
  • postnatal depression
  • individuals for whom emotional abuse has been their experience
  • inner child work
  • two chair work
  • women who have experienced pregnancy loss through miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth or termination
  • women undergoing IVF
  • generalised anxiety disorder, stress and depression
  • others just unable to cope at the moment and feeling sad

Here is a link to my published article: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellor-articles/whats-the-past-got-to-do-with-it

Member organisations

ACC
BACP

Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • I also work to help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth. Life coaching can be a way to walk through life changes, facilitating an increase in personal resources, developing more resilliance and gaining a deeper understanding of your personal identity. Finding the self-esteem needed to navigate student life, career progression, family life changes and other life stages is vital to making the choices you need and want. Knowing how to represent yourself in relationships with dignity and respect enables you to embrace a vision for your life, to relate authentically and meet your needs in appropriate life giving ways.

  • Depression
  • Anxious thoughts, anxiety
  • Panic attacks
  • Couples navigating life changes; children leaving home; retirement
  • Relationship issues
  • Separation and divorce
  • Postnatal depression
  • Low self-esteem
  • stress
  • Dependency; co-dependency;
  • Mood swings
  • Being overly tearful and feeling sad
  • Family issues
  • Bereavement and losses
  • Emotional abuse
  • Flashbacks
  • Retirement

I also work to help with personal development, self-awareness, and emotional growth.

Therapy can be a way to walk through life changes, facilitating an increase in personal resources, developing more resilliance and gaining a deeper understanding of your personal identity.

Photos & videos

  • The Wilbury Clinic

Fees

I offer flexible therapy hours

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday am-pm.

Sessions are weekly, at the same time and day every week.

Session fees   -       individuals: £45   - 50 minute session.

                                    couples: £65   - 50 minute session.

I offer a student concession:         £35   - 50 minute session.

Further information

My rooms are located at:-

The Wilbury Clinic

64 Wilbury Road, Hove, BN3 3PY

The clinic is located at the top end of Wilbury Road, near the junction with Cromwell Road and can be reached by:

Train: Hove Station is a 10 minute walk.

Please ring the Clinic bell to the right of the door.

There is on road parking at £1p/h or £5 for a whole day. It is also on bus routes (1's, 2's, 5's, 49) getting off at Second Avenue at the Church Road end of Wilbury Road. Or the number 7 stops just round the corner on Cromwell Road. It is also just a 5 minute walk from Hove train station.

For more details of location and transport please see: http://thewilburyclinic.co.uk/contact-us/

Maps & Directions

Hove, BN3 3PY

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: No
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None

Accessibility

Wheelchair access: No

The clinic has 5 deep steps approaching the entry door. The counselling rooms are on the ground floor.

Availability

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday AM and PM.

Types of client

Adults
Older adults
Couples
Employee Assistance Programme