Louise Goldsmith

Are you feeling stuck in patterns that no longer seem to work for you?

Perhaps something in your life or relationships needs to change, but you're not sure where to begin. It can all feel overwhelming. Especially just knowing where to start.

Talking things through with someone who will truly listen can often be the first step towards understanding what is happening and finding a way forward.

Perhaps you have tried talking to family and friends, and although it has helped in part, nothing has really changed.

I offer a calm, confidential and non -judgemental space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings safely and at your own pace.

I am a fully accredited integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor and registered/accredited member of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), working in accordance with their professional code of ethics.

As an Integrative counsellor, I draw on a range of therapeutic approaches so that our work together is tailored to your individual needs rather than you having to fit a certain therapy.

Many people arrive at counselling having been given labels such as anxiety, depression or an eating disorder.  While these can sometimes help describe what someone is experiencing, I prefer to focus on you as a person and the experiences that may have shaped the difficulties you are currently facing.  Often the patterns we struggle with today began as ways of coping with earlier challenges or trauma.  Through counselling we can gently explore these patterns and begin to develop healthier ways of understanding yourself and relating to others.

A particular area of interest for me is relationship dynamics.  Many of us find ourselves repeating certain roles within relationships without fully realising it.  I often work with the model known as the 'Karpman Drama Triangle', which helps people recognise unhelpful interaction patterns and develop healthier communication, clearer boundaries and greater self- awareness.

Understanding difficult or Harmful Relationship Patterns

Some people come to counselling because they feel confused or drained by a relationship that seems to follow repeating cycles of conflict, blame or responsibility.  You may find yourself constantly trying to keep the peace, feeling responsible for others' emotions, or doubting your own thoughts.

Counselling can help you understand these patterns more clearly and begin to recognise how roles within relationships can develop over time.

Using models such as the Karpman Drama Triangle, we can explore how people become caught in unhealthy interaction cycles and how to move to healthier boundaries clearer communication and a stronger sense of self. 

This work can be particularly helpful for people who have experienced controlling, manipulative or emotionally harmful relationships and who want to rebuild confidence and trust their own perceptions again.

Perhaps you feel you have a terrible relationship with yourself.  The Drama Triangle can help you understand how this can be an internal dynamic and how to change the inner critical 'voice' for a more encouraging compassionate one.

What to Expect in Your First Session

Your first session will be a thorough assessment, giving us the time to explore your concerns, understand your history, and clarify your goals for counselling.

I do not offer short phone consultations, as these are often too brief to gain a meaningful understanding of your needs.  The Initial session provides a solid foundation for our work together and ensures that therapy is tailored specifically to you from the very start.

It also gives you a clearer picture of whether or not you feel comfortable with me, and this is as important as the work itself.  Nothing is going to happen if you do not feel I am someone you can honestly talk to, and this is perfectly ok.  I will not put you on the spot to decide there and then but rather suggest you go home and consider how you would like to go forward, and we will go from there.

Areas I commonly work with

I support clients with a wide range of concerns, including-( but not limited to)

Relationship difficulties

Emotional or psychological abuse

Trauma and it's lasting effects

Anxiety and Depression

Earing Disorders

Self- esteem and confidence

Boundary setting and assertiveness

Life transitions and later life challenges.

Serious illness and chronic illness

Older people's issues

I particularly value working with older adults who may be navigating life changes, loss or long standing health and relationship problems, but work happily with a diversity of ages.

Professional Background

I have previously worked within the NHS, the mental health charity Mind ( UK Charity), the Eating disorder Charity Beat , and online therapy services supporting young people and adults -Xenzone/Kooth Ltd.

Alongside my private practice, I also train healthcare professionals in communication and relationship skills, including assertiveness, listening skills, boundary setting and The Karpmen Triangle-relationship dynamics.

I am trained to deliver mindfulness sessions and may incorporate mindfulness techniques where helpful to support emotional awareness and wellbeing.

Sessions

I offer counselling-

Face to face

By Telephone

Online via Google meets

Whether you are seeking short term support or longer term therapy, we will work together at a pace that feels comfortable and supportive for you.

Initial counselling assessment- single £60 and £90 for couples assessment.

My fees are £60 per 50 minute individual counselling session.

For a couples session 1 hour- £90.

I am able to see you in Reepham/Melton Constable

If you are unable to travel I am a competent in delivering counselling by telephone/zoom/google meets

If I am unable to answer your call please leave a message with your name and contact details and I will get back to you.

Alternatively you can email me directly at-

louise.counsellingservices@yahoo.co.uk

www.lougoldsmithcounsellingservices.com

Feedback reviews-

"Lou has been incredibly supportive and a constant for me through a difficult patch in my life.  She has guided me through a process of self development I could not have achieved by myself.  With Lou's support I managed to learn assertive communication and I will say it changed my life.

I trusted my time with Lou for just over a year and I will continue to revisit should i need further support, both for my personal or professional life.

Everyone around me saw noticable difference.  Lou's kindness, patience and authenticity along with her approach to understand me throughout the process was exemplary.

I feel incredibly blessed to have found her.

I would encourage anyone to reach out to her, truly one of a kind.  Thank you Lou"- James 2026

"Lou- I finally feel happy with who I am and feel in a really good place.  I know I have thought this before with previous counselling, but this time it feels so much different.  I feel happy with who I am and that's down to the work we have done together.

I have had no 'episodes' since we spoke last and I am using techniques and exercises you suggested and they have helped more than I can put across in words. I am finally in a place where I am comfortable with who I am and feel I understand myself so much better, and am able to accept myself as 'me'.

I really want to thank you for everything.  I know it is not easy to help someone that has been struggling, but I cannot explain how much you have.  I will forever be grateful for your help."- Dan 2025

"It is hard to put into words quite what meeting you has done for me.  I walked in to your room for the first time,fearful of most things.  Anxiety had a huge place in my life and my self esteem and confidence was at an all time low. 

To be honest, having had counselling in the past, I wasn't sure if I could ever change.

Fast forward to yesterday when I walked out of your room a completely and utterly different person.  I feel self assured, my sense of self worth has been restored.  I believe in me and I am no longer reliant on anyone for validation or safety.

I can do these things for myself and that cannot ever be taken away.

I even walk with my head held high where previously I had felt I did not deserve space in the world.

To finally feel like this after 52 years is indescribable.

I wanted you to know how grateful I am to you and how very glad I am to have met you."

Ruth- 2026