Lynda Rolington Reg.MBACP(Accred) Counsellor; Adoption Counsellor & Supervisor
I have had many years experience working closely with young people, adults and couples of all ages in counselling and in education. This experience and the knowledge that people can, with support, find a way forward in difficult times reinforces my belief in the importance of counselling in helping people to change their lives for the better.
Life has the habit of presenting us with many challenges and stress, problems or crises which can seem overwhelming, lead to feelings of despair, loss of control or low self-esteem. Most of the time we cope with difficulties, but sometimes we need support and talking to a professional counsellor in confidence can help us to deal more successfully with those problems. Through understanding and empathy, problems, anxieties or troubling feelings can be worked through; clients develop insights, move forward and make choices for themselves. By taking back control of their lives people feel empowered and happier.
As a Person-Centred and Humanistic Counsellor, I work in a non-judgemental way, gently exploring with a client what is troubling them. However, we are all unique individuals and each client has different needs. I believe that it is important to work in a holistic way and I will use an integrated approach, incorporating different humanistic models of counselling if I think it is appropriate, and may incorporate cognitive behavioural therapy too if it helps.
What is best for the client at the time is always at the heart of the therapy.
I work with a range of issues, including working with individuals, couples and young people. Issues vary from relationship difficulties, separation and divorce, stress, abuse, bereavement, anger management, depression and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), to anxiety and panic disorders, eating disorders and self-harm. I also provide therapy for students studying counselling. See below for a full list.
Couples Counselling and Relationship Issues are mostly about how people relate and communicate. It is aimed at helping partners gain a deeper understanding and insight into these issues, enabling couples to understand each other better and engage more creatively with the challenges of relationships. Sometimes the work is about dealing with the painful outcomes of affairs and betrayals. There are times when differences cannot be reconciled and counselling can help couples through separation and divorce. Children and family are an important consideration in family break-ups and difficult relationships. Talking through what they may be experiencing and having insights into how to help them can also be a part of that work.
Children especially often find it difficult or embarrassing to share their innermost feelings and fears with a family member. Child related issues can result in difficult behaviour patterns, low self-confidence or self-esteem, sometimes eating disorders or self-harm. Being able to talk to a counsellor in confidence helps to overcome those barriers. My aim in working with young people is to help them explore sensitive issues before they become long term problems and enable them to feel more confident and enjoy fulfilling and happy lives.
I am also an Adoption and Attachment Therapy Counsellor, pre and post adoption, registered with LINK Adoption Support, part of Barnardos registered Adoption Services London East and South East. To work with Adoption issues it is a legal requirement that the counsellor is a Registered Trained Adoption Counsellor. This ensures the counsellor is experienced and has a clear knowledge and understanding of all adoption issues. The work may involve working with children and adults who have been adopted themselves, prospective families prior to adoption and post adoption, or birth families who have had a child or children adopted. The counselling may be of a therapeutic nature with individuals, or it may be working with families. Post adoption work includes working with Attachments, Life Story, or My Life work.
I see many people of all ages with issues relating to adoption. These can affect any member of the families involved, from the Adoptee and Adoptive family members, to the Birth family and siblings. Many personal difficulties may stem from someone being adopted. Adoptees often suffer from a lack of self-esteem or confidence, worry about abandonment or rejection; they often struggle with relationships and attachments or around contact with birth families. Adoptive and Birth families often need support and help post adoption. Talking to a trained Adoption Counsellor can help with exploring all of these issues and concerns. Any adoptee wishing to make contact with a birth family should seek professional adoption support first.
I recognise that the current economic climate may mean many people are experiencing extra anxiety or stress. This can lead to depression and anger, even addictions. If this applies to you and you would like help but are finding it financially difficult to afford private counselling, then please call to discuss whether special rates are available to help you.
Students of Counselling may also apply for a special rate for counselling as I know they too often find the level of therapy commitment to be expensive.
As a Post Grad Qualified Supervisor, I am also available to offer Supervision to other qualified Counsellors and Counsellors in training.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have a Post-Graduate Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling, an Advanced Certificate in Couple Counselling, a Post-Grad Certificate in CBT and a Cert. in Systemic Counselling (working with families).
I am a Trained and Registered Counsellor with Barnardo's Adoption Agency which is registered to provide adoption placement and support services. This also includes Therapeutic Counselling, Attachment Focussed Counselling, Life Story and My Life work.
I am a qualified Counselling Supervisor with a Post-Graduate Cert in Supervision.
I am an Registered Accredited Member of BACP, Reg MBACP (Accred), also a Member of GTC (General Teaching Council).
My other qualifications include:
Post Grad. Diploma in Education (DMS Ed.); Cert Ed.
I work with individuals, couples and young people. I currently run a private counselling practice from clinics in Tonbridge and Sidcup and take referrals from local schools, colleges and Employee Assistance Agencies. I am also a Staff Support Counsellor for KCC and the NHS. In the past I have worked as a Student Counsellor at Brighton University, University of Creative Arts (UCA) and Bird College, and for West Kent Primary Care Trust taking referrals from GPs.
I am available as a Supervisor for other Counsellors, experienced or in training.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Behaviour problems
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Adoption Counselling - all persons related to adoption
Attachment Focussed Counselling
Bi-polar and manic depression
Work related issues
Separation and divorce
Working with young people and children
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Couples counselling
From £45 - for one to one Counselling;
£68 for couples;
£55 for Counselling Supervision
Special rates for Counselling students and for schools;
Special rates may also be available for unemployed.
As well as having a private counselling practice, counselling in schools and for the local authority and NHS, I also do talks on Eating Disorders and Self-Harm.
I have extensive experience working with children, have been responsible for Child Protection within education and hold an Advanced Criminal Records Bureau Certifcate for working with children and vulnerable people.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday - Friday daytime and evening appointments and Saturday mornings
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
I offer Counselling Supervision to experienced counsellors and counsellors in training. Currently I work from Tonbridge in Kent and Sidcup in South East London.View supervision profile