Nicola (Nikki) Onraet
Choosing the right counsellor for YOU is a daunting task. Do you go with the profile picture and the smile, the blurb, the qualifications or the experience? We all look for different things in a person and choosing a stranger that you may want to tell your innermost thoughts and feelings to is HUGE. As part of my counselling training I was in the same position as you, choosing a counsellor who was going to be right for ME. I hope I have been able to incorporate some of what I looked for when I chose my counsellor. I wanted to move away from the sterility of the ‘doctors surgery’ as I feel that the counselling environment should incorporate all of the senses and project calmness, to enable clients to relax into the sessions and breathe.
I have recently established Breathe Counselling which is located in a beautiful, peaceful and tranquil summerhouse in Singlewell, Gravesend. This combines the serenity and calmness I wanted to capture. For me, I feel that ‘the shed at the bottom of the garden’ is an ideal location for counselling; to feel comfortable, safe and secure. Where the change can start to happen…if the two right people are in the room. You may have already taken that first step in recognising that you need help on your journey through life. Life experiences shape you into the person you are today; why you do the things you do and say the things you say. With counselling, and exploration, that shape can be less rigid. With knowledge comes the ability to change that shape into a more flexible one, to allow you to see things through fresh eyes enabling you to take those first tentative steps towards creating change in your life.
I offer an empathic, confidential environment so that we can build on our therapeutic relationship, allowing me to walk alongside you on your journey. You can feel listened to, understood, supported and, more importantly, heard and held. Together we can explore your thoughts and feelings at a deeper level which can open up self-reflection and exploration of issues which may be affecting you.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling and have been trained Integratively. This incorporates different modalities and theories, opening up a vast array of techniques that I am able to use in the counselling room. These methods allow you, as my client, to explore yourself. Underpinning these approaches is my relational, client-centred, compassionate and non-judgmental attitude and approach. I am aware of how our relationship with ourselves, others and society impacts on how we feel in the world. I therefore place great importance on our therapeutic relationship, allowing me to provide a safe and confidential therapeutic space.
I have gained experience in working with a diverse range of clientele. I volunteer in a hospice, where I counsel clients who are either facing bereavement, grieving a death or coming to terms with a terminal illness. I have also worked in a university and I currently work in a college, counselling young people, some of whom are facing tough issues for the first time. I have worked with people who have been victims of abuse, childhood trauma, domestic violence and everything else in-between that life throws at you.
I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) which ensures that we can work together ethically and safely within their framework. Details can be found at - www.bacp.co.uk/ethical_framework
Together we can look at any issues you may be experiencing which could include - • Life transitions, such as separations, deaths, births and illnesses • Trauma or abuse • Anger issues • Gender and sexuality • Relationship difficulties • Depression, anxiety and stress • Eating Disorders • Loneliness and isolation • Loss of meaning and purpose • Difference and Diversity • Generalised anxiety disorder • Panic attacks • Phobias • Family issues
In addition to the therapeutic models from which I work, I also pay close attention to relationship patterns, social groups, religious and cultural backgrounds, gender and gender diversity, sexuality and (dis)ability. The experience of difference and diversity can have a profound impact on how we feel about ourselves and the invisible barriers we sometimes put into place to protect ourselves.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Health anxiety
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Therapy begins with an initial consultation lasting 50 minutes. This is an opportunity to discuss your difficulties, to think collaboratively about therapy going forward and, most importantly, if you feel comfortable with me as your counsellor. Following this, individual sessions are weekly and last 50 minutes.
Therapy is reviewed at regular intervals and can be short or longer term depending on your individual needs and circumstances. • Sessions are Monday to Sunday, with evening and weekend slots also available • Off road parking • Valid Indemnity Insurance • Regular Supervision • Full DBS check held
Sessions are available from January 2020 onwards at a rate of £40 per session (50 minutes). Concessionary rates for those on low income, pensions and young people may be available. Contact Nikki on Tel:- 07961 958217 Email
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Sessions are Monday to Sunday, with evening and weekend slots also available
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|