Henrietta Lang
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About me
Hello I'm Henri, I'm a therapist with coaching skills. I have particular experience in dealing with taboo /sensitive areas:
- death and dying (grief, loss, preoccupation with death/suicide)
- sexuality and relationships (marriage, polyamory, kink, diverse identity)
- spirituality (religious trauma, existential crises, eg. feeling that life is pointless, loss of faith/trust)
- trauma (usually a result of dysfunctional families or abusive relationships)
- addiction (alcohol, drugs, sex, work)
Any of these issues are likely to cause depression, anxiety, panic attacks, low self esteem, insomnia, OCD and loneliness. The good news is that whatever the nature or size of the problem, research has shown that a good relationship with a counsellor/therapist can be a game changer. Just having someone to talk to who understands what it's like to live in your head really helps. And if you are actively seeking change, then with the right therapist, new life is possible.
I know this from my own experience. I haven't forgotten what it's like to feel like a crazy person, or how terrified I was when meeting a counsellor for the first time. Working on myself with support has changed my life. As the famous grandfather of psychotherapy Carl Jung said ' a therapist has to know their own madness before they can help someone cope with theirs'. Now I work with people from all walks of life to feel good about themselves. It is deeply satisfying work and although it's serious work, it need not be solemn. There is lots of laughter in my practise rooms. Therapy is not just about solving the problem, it's also about find the joy life again.
How can I help?
I offer a rare combination of therapeutic support (helping you understand) and coaching (helping you to change).This is summarised in two sentences, it's not what's wrong with you that is the helpful question, it's what happened to you?
I work on the basis that your 'hardware' (your authentic self) does not need fixing, it's the software you downloaded from your family, school, environment, culture that needs an upgrade. We do this by discovering the 'story you are living in' (the beliefs and attitudes that cause you pain) and how they came about. For example, "My Dad died after I was expelled from school. It was my fault. I'm a bad person, I do not deserve good things'. Once we've got hold of that 'story' (and every person's is unique) that running in the background we can set about changing them so you think and feel more clearly and positively.
Secondly, we discover what you really want for your life. What are the changes you want for yourself, your relationship/s, your family? What does your heart long for?
From here, we work out how to get you there. We will consider your gifts and preferences and how we can harness these to work for you both in the therapy room and outside in your life so that you can live in a happier, better 'story'. This where my understanding of neuroscience, yoga - movement, breathwork, the arts (writing, poetry, imagery) and dreams can be harnessed to create a bespoke recipe for you.
Lastly, if we want to feel different, we have to do different. I will always be patient and gentle but, I will also champion you to find ways to 'do different' so that you experience the change you want in your life. (Don't worry these could be very small things and we'll work it out together!).
For couples, we will agree to try out new behaviours and responses and review the results until you have achieved the change you were looking for.
Step by step we will work together in this way until you feel you have achieved what you came for. The day you let me know you don't need me anymore are the happiest days of my career.! It's not that I won't miss you after we've been on a journey together, but knowing that you have achieved the change you came for is deeply rewarding.
General Principles
Throughout therapy, I commit to being reliable, kind and respectful of your needs and wishes at all times.
I am a member of the BACP and subscribe to their code of ethics, which is first and foremost to keep your needs at the forefront of our work together.
Getting started
- Establish contact by email or phone (confidentiality will be maintained)
- You will come for a full 90 minute assessment where we can make a plan for your recovery.
- Progress to weekly 50 minute sessions
- You may complete counselling at any time. Most people come weekly for between 6 weeks and two years
Training, qualifications & experience
- Level 4 diploma in therapeutic counselling CPCAB
- Senior accredited counsellor with BACP
- In private practice since 2018
- BA Oxon, Human Sciences
- MA. Research methods, Health
- Experienced practitioner of meditation and mindfulness
- Advanced Yoga therapist for children with special needs
- Group facilitator/teacher of mindfulness and therapeutic group work
- Level 1 online counselling training complete
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have experience and interest in disability, parenting, conflict resolution, 12 steps recovery work and dreams. I did a one year course in dream analysis with thisjungianlife.com. I regularly analyse my own and others dreams. I draw, paint and write as part of my own personal development.
This is a poem I wrote about growing up between cultures, at home in all of them but belonging to none.
Biography
If I think about it,
me takes in permutations:
each a coloured silk, all varieties compressed;
as if the market in Singapore (where I lived)
was next door to a haberdashers in Solihull
(where I was born).
Maybe it’s a transpacific thing:
when I was young, it was normal to be foreign,
an ocean state:
both water and wave,
always in between others’ shores, and something,
something in me failed the course.
Dysphoria, displacement, - diss me, if you like,
for not knowing where the borders are, for being
at home, and always abroad,
for finding it strange the way people in England
knew all the colours for skin, even if their families
never spoke in the street.
If I could, I would show you the waving corals
of the Sulu sea in my lungs, the sweet chilli crabs
that scuttle through my spleen,
my skin, a furred koala. I would show you
the alps in my veins blackened from soy
and Tokyo, yet still my most quieting voice,
Auntie Bobbie (short for Blodwin)
serving shepherd’s pie, calling me to table
all the way from Bolton, Lass.
Therapies offered
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Fees
£100.00 per session
Additional information
£100.00 per session is the standard fee. I do offer a limited number of concessionary places. If this is important for you please establish first if I have any available as these spaces don't come up more than 2-3 times a year.
£150.00 for couples.
When I work
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Further information
Please go to my website for more about me. www.henriettalang.com.
I am a BAME and LGBTQ+ ally.
https://www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-from-bacp/2019/23-october-why-im-organising-a-festival-of-death-and-dying/
