Ben Wrigley - Counsellor and Supervisor.
Choosing a therapist can be one of the biggest blocks when we start therapy, and so it can also become first steps in learning to trust yourself and in taking responsibility for yourself. “How do I know if I’m choosing the right person? What if something doesn’t feel right?”.I wonder if anyone can truly know that beforehand, and perhaps it’s ok to try and then to change your mind. My invitation to you is to find these things out together. We can learn where you want to get to and then – if you still want to go – we can take whatever route feels safe and feels right for you. You have already begun.
I offer a safe and confidential space where you can bring your challenges out into the open so that they can be explored and understood with empathy and compassion. I provide weekly, 50-minute, one-to-one meetings for people 18+ years to work with all types of concerns including depression, stress, suicide, bereavement, anxiety, OCD, anger, relationships, abuse, life events, low self-steem, panic attacks, affairs and many others. I can meet you online or face-to-face just outside Tunbridge Wells in South East England.
I am a fully insured member of the BACP and I work to their ethical framework.
Talking therapy is a process of self-discovery, awareness and letting-go, opening a way through to empowerment, choice and ultimately freedom. It’s about understanding what blocks you from where you want to go and choosing boundaries to keep you where you want to be. It’s about understanding the fears of the future and the sadnesses of the past to help us be more in the present. It’s about building a safe and supportive relationship together where this process can take root. It’s about you.
I am a Humanistic Integrative Counsellor. The Humanistic bit means that I believe that you have the potential to be fully you and our work together is about unlocking what is already inside you. After all, you are the expert on you.
The Integrative bit means that I have training and interests in many different theories and modalities and I will draw on whatever feels most useful for you, your journey and our working relationship.
The Counsellor bit means I want to help.
Why did I become a counsellor?
Like so many people, I found myself on a life path that wasn’t really mine; I was ticking checkboxes that I believed would please other people and give me a sense of meaning and worth. But my daily commute to managerial roles in the city was not bringing me joy. Instead, I saw first-hand how so many of us function in the best interests of our work/team/family/relationship, to ‘fall in line’ and to ‘do’ publicly whilst we ‘feel’ privately or simply not feel at all. I witnessed the detrimental effect this had on people’s well-being, self-esteem, autonomy and general contentment. I saw the lack of genuine, emotional support on offer when life becomes stressful.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BACP Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling.
- Couples counselling training.
- Trauma and PTSD training.
- TA101 Foundations in Transactional analysis
- Gestalt, Person Centered, TA training
I also used to work in senior management in city and have experience of the pressures of working in that environment.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
One to one
Consultation session is free.
£40 - £60 for 50 minutes thereafter.
9am-8pm Wednesday, 9am-5pm Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri