Trisha Parsons MBACP (Accred) Counsellor & Psychyotherapist
If you're reading this, I'm guessing that maybe things are not going well for you right now, perhaps you're struggling to cope, you've hit a brick wall, and are looking for someone to talk to about problems in your life. Starting counselling or psychotherapy is a courageous step. Maybe I can help you. I will not judge you or tell you what to do. I am a highly qualified and accredited counsellor with over 25 years experience in helping many hundreds of people from all walks of life and cultures, whatever their sexual orientation, whether single or in a relationship, through all kinds of difficulties.
I have a private practice, working from my home in Newquay, within walking distance of the town centre, trains and buses, and with free on-street parking. I have a dedicated therapy room, which is light and airy, with comfortable sofa and armchairs (see photo below), overlooking a peaceful garden with free-ranging chickens.
I am here to talk to you in confidence about the things that are troubling you, and to try and help you find a way through these, whether this is anxiety, depression, childhood trauma, anger, bereavement, low-confidence, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), your relationships, family problems ... the list is endless. I have a particular interest in trauma, including child abuse, very earliest childhood trauma (sometimes simplified as "not loved, not wanted and not protected"), rape (both female and male), assaults and violence, military and war trauma, witnessing family violence, and inter-generational trauma. Overall, about 8% of all people will develop PTSD during their lifetime, highlighting the need for effective treatments. In the USA, over 80% of patients in rehab have PTSD due to childhood abuse which has led to addiction as a coping behaviour. Psychotherapy is seen as the most effective way of working toward recovery (Harvard Health Blog).
I have a certificate in Advanced Clinical Practice in Couple Therapy and offer couple's counselling, working with couples (whatever their sexuality) where the relationship has broken down, they've fallen out of love, maybe struggling to recover from betrayal or an affair, jealousy, lack of communication etc. A recent study* shows that the most common issues people for which people seek couple's counselling are: communication problems (79.7%), rows and arguments (68.8%) and managing conflict (67.8%). Over 40% of marriages today end in divorce (it's an even higher figure for couples who are not married), with consequent emotional impact on not only the couple but all the family, especially the children involved. Even if it looks like your relationship cannot be saved, couple's counselling gives it a chance to succeed, or can help bring things to a close with respect and dignity to each other. *Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 2019
Sex Addiction Therapy
I am a qualified and accredited sex addiction therapist working in what is a highly specialised field with individuals who have sexually compulsive behaviours which have become out of control (such as porn, sexting, sex workers, repeated one-night stands, affairs and infidelity, compulsive masturbation, love addiction etc). This is not the same as having a high sex drive, and sometimes it takes professional help to identify if you are addicted or not. I also work with the partners of sex addicts who are frequently left struggling to come to terms with the discovery of their partner's behaviours, helping them to rebuild their life either with or without the partner who's been acting out. People with any kind of addictive or compulsive behaviour often feel a deep sense of shame, guilt and helplessness, and the roots of addiction often lie in early childhood experiences or trauma. In the USA, over 80% of patients in rehab for addictions have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) due to childhood abuse. There are no comparable figures for the UK. I have considerable success in helping individuals and their partners through such a difficult time, some of whom simultaneously attend group meetings with Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) or similar groups.
There is increasing evidence in the value that animals can play in helping humans cope with physical and emotional pain, as well as lowering of levels of the stress hormone cortisol, increasing levels of oxytocin, the hormone that gives a sense of happiness and bonding, and raising levels of dopamine.
I have a two year old dog, Ziggy Stardust, who is a therapy-dog-in-training. Dogs have very high levels of empathy with humans, and they provide unconditional acceptance, affection and comfort with no strings attached. Ziggy is friendly, super-intelligent, playful and has a non-moulting and hypoallergenic coat (important for people who suffer from asthma or allergies). He loves being petted, hugged and stroked - all things that help anxious people feel more relaxed, particularly at the beginning of therapy. Research shows that having a dog in the therapy room can help with a number of mental health problems, including trauma. If you would like to have Ziggy in the therapy room with us, just let me know. He will be happy to snuggle up next to you. In the UK there are no National Occupational Standards and no regulated qualifications for animal-assisted therapy or practitioners.
If you are unsure about whether counselling is for you, whatever your issues, please free to contact me for a brief chat (you may have to leave a message on my voicemail but I'll call you back). I am happy to answer any questions or concerns you may have before deciding to embark on counselling.
Training, qualifications & experience
I started my counselling journey many years ago when employed as a Welfare Officer for Royal Mail Group, responsible for the welfare of all of Royal Mail's employees in Devon and Cornwall, helping with all kind of personal, work-related, financial and mental health problems from birth to death, gaining significant experience from the huge range of different issues I was confronted with. I went on to obtain a certificate in Person Centred counselling, followed by a Diploma in Gestalt Counselling, and then a Post-Graduate diploma in Organisational Counselling, all the while undergoing additional professional training in such areas as alcohol and drug misuse, bullying, suicide, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), childhood sex abuse, hypnotherapy, neuroscience, attachment theory (how we learn to feel safe in earliest childhood), grief and loss etc. I have also been a trainer, running a number of workshops (see Testimonials) for other counsellors in the west country on such topics as Anger, Jealousy, Suicide, Dreams, and Gestalt therapy.
My counselling experience includes working privately with individuals, working for different organisations, working within an occupational health team, with several different Employee Assistance Programmes, as well as with HM Coastguard, a TV company (Firecracker Films) and charities (e.g. NSPCC and Retail Trust). I am committed to ongoing professional development and training, and have enhanced my knowledge and experience with experts in their field, including from the USA and Germany.
British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy I am an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) and thus entitled to use the letters MBACP (Accred) after my name. BACP is the UK's largest counselling organisation. Choosing a practitioner who is a BACP registered member will give you an assurance that the counsellor meets the standards of proficiency and ethical practice you have a right to expect. BACP members will typically have had extensive professional training, will be under on-going supervision, will continuously update their practice, will have substantial professional indemnity insurance and will practise within BACP's Ethical Framework for Good Practice. Becoming an accredited member involves a detailed application and assessment process and is a higher quality status for experienced practitioners who can demonstrate high standards of competent and ethical practice.
Sex Addiction I have had extensive training and experience of working with individuals (both male and female) in the specialist subject of sex addiction and am an accredited member of the Association for the Treatment of Sex Addiction (ATSAC). My therapeutic work is with either the individual with the addiction, or with his or her partner.
Couple's Counselling I have a certificate in Advanced Clinical Practice in Couple Therapy from the Mary Clegg Clinic Relationship Programme, which encompasses the work of many-world-class relationship therapists, and is a well-proven and evidence-based model of relationship therapy.
I have had training in a number of different psychotherapies, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis, solution-focused therapy and hypnotherapy, although my principal way of working is Gestalt and integrative therapy.
How many sessions will I need? Whilst it is difficult to say how many sessions an individual might need, or be able to afford, I have experience of working in a time limited way l (usually between 6-10 sessions) as well as long-term therapy that could last a year or more. However, although some people find that one or two sessions are all they need, I also work with people who have suffered from significant trauma in their life, and the psychotherapeutic recovery work is much longer term. Ideally, I would suggest weekly sessions (possibly increased to 2 or even 3 times a week in the event of major crisis or suicidal thoughts), but I recognise that financial constraints mean that some people will only be able to afford fortnightly or even less frequent sessions, and I'm OK with this.
A final word of warning. If you are looking for a counsellor or psychotherapist, please beware. At present anyone in the UK can call themselves a counsellor, psychotherapist or therapist, and set up a practice, regardless of the training and experience they may or may not have.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Attachment disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Photos & videos
My fees are £50 per hour for individual one-hour counselling sessions, and £60 per hour for couple's counselling, payable by cash at the beginning of session or bank transfer before commencement of session.
Here is some feedback from counsellors who have attended training workshops I have run for other counsellors (I do not post testimonials from individual therapy):
"Trisha very open and personable."
"Trisha never fails!"
"Trisha facilitated a safe and very informative workshop, thought-provoking, I learned a lot."
"Well done Trisha, I appreciate the amount of time and effort put into preparation of training"
Trisha was excellent as useful - very relevant, informative."
"Trisha feels like a really safe pair of hands. She has a calm and authoritative presence, and you really feel she knows her stuff."
"Fantastic, it was wonderful to see a real expert working with dreams"
"Brilliant workshop, I learned more about my dreams in an hour with Trisha than another training course did in a day"
"It was wonderful to watch Trisha demonstrate how she works as a therapist, and to learn from her"
"Trisha, I love your style of teaching. You are a wonderful facilitator"
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
|Wheelchair user access:||No|
My therapy room is a ground floor level, with four steps en route from the street. If you need a firm chair to sit on, or anything else to help you be more comfortable, please let me know.
Weekday appointments from 8:30 am. Last appointment is 5:30 pm. I may be available to see you at short notice. Evening and weekend appointments sometimes available.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|