Stella Goddard, BA (Hons) Registered MBACP (Accred)
At the moment I have availability in Weybridge on Wednesdays and in Godalming on Tuesdays.
It takes courage to ask for help and counselling offers a safe place to talk, be heard and have a chance to reflect at a deep level. The rapport between clients and myself is crucial and I encourage potential clients to give me a call so that we can talk briefly about their difficulties and see if we both feel that we would like to meet and potentially work together. If for any reason I am not able to help I will do my best to suggest colleagues who might be appropriate.
Sometimes people are very clear about the source of their distress - it may be the loss of a loved one through death, divorce, a breakdown in relationship or a significant life experience or something else.
Perhaps there are changes at work and you are feeling stressed and anxious about your future at the company and how this may affect you personally and professionally.
You may not be at all sure why you are considering coming to counselling. You might know that you don't feel right or feel like yourself and are not sure when this started or what to do about it. We can work together to untangle this.
Your narrative is very important and helps us to understand your sense of self, how you relate to other people and how you manage life's challenges with all of it's complexities. It is important to process this with self-compassion.
I have extensive clinical experience working with a range of difficulties and a diverse client base. I consider this to be a great privilege. The focus of our collaborative work is your choice and I work in a sensitive, respectful way at your pace. If you want to work on unprocessed distress from your past which is affecting your present we can do that. On the other hand if your difficulty is about something which is happening in the present we can focus on that. It can be helpful to consider what your best hopes from coming to counselling might be.
I have a particular interest in working with adults who have been or are being abused.
Abuse can be sexual, physical, emotional (psychological), bullying, neglect. Sometimes people don't recognise that what they are experiencing is abuse because it is not always easy to spot - particularly if it is happening in a relationship where trust is expected or assumed.
I also have a particular interest in working with survivors of Boarding School. Whilst some people love this experience, for others this is not the case, for a variety of complex reasons. When children go to boarding school they may experience home sickness. In the past it was expected that they would soon adjust to school and be fine. When children are home-sick this is disenfranchised grief. If this loss is not acknowledged children are left not knowing what to do, so one way of coping is to internalise their distress. Doing this, whilst being a way of surviving, has potential long term effects into adulthood.
When you contact me by phone or e mail please will you let me know if you would prefer to come to my Godalming or Weybridge Practice.
At our initial appointment I will listen to the reasons that you are considering counselling and what you would like to be different should we decide to work together. I will also explain to you how I work and give you an opportunity to ask me any questions.
We will have regular reviews to ensure that you are getting what you need from your counselling sessions.
In all of our work together the therapeutic relationship is paramount and I offer all of my clients a warm, accepting, authentic relationship.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Counselling
Integrative - Psychodynamic Theory, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
I also give space to reflect on faith/spirituality and the impact of your beliefs on your sense of self, relationship with others and ways of making sense of the world.
- Registered Accredited Member BACP
- Registered Accredited Member ACC
- Registered Accredited Member NCS
- Bupa Recognised Counsellor
Some of the Workshops I have attended are:
Rape and Sexual Abuse
Attachment Theory - an Integrationist Approach
Ethical Issues arising from Integrating Christian Spirituality into Counselling Practice
Strengths-Based CBT for Vulnerable Clients & Chronic Issues
The Similarities and Differences between Counselling and Spiritual Accompaniment
Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery
Introduction to Working with Couples
Working with Relational Trauma
Working with Suicide and Self Harm
Couples in Conflict
Working with Couple Relationships affected by Asperger Syndrome
Working with clients addicted to internet pornography
Working with sexually compulsive clients
Mindfulness in Counselling
Working with Couples - Dealing with Affairs
Understanding and Working with Anxiously Attached Clients
Working with young people who self-harm (BACP On-line Delegate)
Working with identity and self-esteem in young people with eating disorders (BACP On-line Delegate
Solution Focused Therapy
Working Successfully with Men in Therapy
Effective Anger Management Tools for Working with Men
Working with Couples - Meeting their Partner's Needs
- Therapeutic Writing Group - Writing, Coffee and Conversation
- Counselling Male Victims of Domestic Abuse
- Poetry Therapy Workshop - Writing for Resilience
- Dealing with Distress - Working with Self-harm and Suicide
- Loss:What does life mean for me now?
- Identity and Belonging:It's not so Black and White
- Children, Young People, Families - Working with Risk & Therapists Dilemmas
- Who am I? Poetry Therapy Workshop
- Let's talk about Addictions
- Working with Shame(coming up 22 June 2019)
My degree Dissertation considered the Literature on 'Absent Fathers - the possible impact of this on children and young adults.' 'Absence' can take many forms and can happen for a variety of reasons.
The early developmental years are crucial in forming children's initial sense of self, others and the world.
If they have not been securely attached to their mother, father or main caregiver this can impact how they relate to other people as they grow up. In counselling it is possible for insecure attachment styles to gradually become more secure.
As part of my Continuing Professional Development I have attended a number of workshops on Attachment and the impact on people physically, emotionally and spiritually of dysfunctional relationships. People need to feel soothed and comforted when they are hurting.
I work with the wounded Inner Child to bring healing. This may involve working creatively using writing, drawings or small objects such as pebbles.
We would discuss what would work best for you. I have regular reviews with you to make sure that you are getting what you need from your counselling. I would suggest 6-10 weekly sessions initially but the decision is yours and depends on what is best for your circumstances. I would also add that working with trauma will need more than 10 sessions.
I am experienced working both long-term and in a time-limited way and tailor my work appropriately for each client.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Relationship problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Loss, Life transitions, Boarding School Survivors
- Understanding disappointment
- Keeping secrets
- Insights into mental health, including some misconceptions
- The importance of our identity
- Do you find it hard to talk?
- Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries
- Feeling overwhelmed?
- Recognising emotional abuse
- What do you need?
My training at Waverley Abbey College (validated by Roehampton University) included extensive personal and professional learning and development over 4 years. This has given me a desire to continue to learn and I attend workshops and read professional literature to increase my knowledge, understanding and skill-set. Meeting with colleagues regularly is also an important aspect of my continuing professional development. In addition I see my Clinical Supervisor each month in line with the requirements of BACP, ACC and NCS.
I work in private Practice in Weybridge and Godalming in Surrey with adult individuals and couples face-to-face.
I am an Affiliate Counsellor for LifeWorks which is an EAP and am also a Bupa Recognised Counsellor.
I am also experienced in working with student Counsellors. I have worked with counselling students from Roehampton University, Waverley Abbey College and London School of Theology.
My training at Waverley Abbey College has equipped me to work with matters of faith should my clients wish to do so.
Clients come to me through my website, professional directories, (BACP, ACC, NCS, Counselling Directory, Waverley Abbey College, Bupa), organisations, LifeWorks (EAP), GP's, Churches, colleagues, previous clients.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Weybridge: Monday 9 a.m.- 2 p.m. Wednesday 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Godalming: Tuesday 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Friday 1 p.m.- 5 p.m. I don't work evenings or weekends.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|