Stella Goddard, BA (Hons) Registered MBACP (Accred)
Our mental health matters. We all have mental health just as we have physical health and spiritual health. Each one of these aspects of our humanity can impact the other. In the past, mental health was not spoken about because it was considered to be shameful. This meant that things were kept secret thus exacerbating people's distress. Thankfully this unhelpful way of thinking is changing.
It is my personal and professional view that when we are in pain we need to be heard by someone who will be compassionate, respectful and non judgemental as we begin to share our story, perhaps for the first time. I consider the rapport between myself and my clients to be very important.I have extensive experience working with a range of difficulties and a diverse client base.
I understand that it can be difficult to acknowledge that we are struggling. If we are used to being able to cope well and then find that we are overwhelmed due to a change in our life circumstances we may be very anxious about how we are going to cope.
We may be aware of the feelings that come from our struggles and want these difficult feelings to stop so that we can feel peaceful again. Sometimes we are overwhelmed with strong feelings and may try to block them, deny them or anaesthetise them. We may say things like 'I am fine' - 'I just need to be strong and carry on' -'I don't want to be weak or for other people to think that I am weak.' It is not weak to feel and acknowledge pain and it is not weak to ask for help - this takes courage and is a sign of strength,
We are all impacted by our life histories and it is important to acknowledge and process this. I offer a safe professional place to talk, be heard and have a chance to reflect at a deep level. I encourage potential clients to give me a call so that we can talk briefly about their difficulties and see if we both feel that we would like to meet and potentially work together. If for any reason I am not able to help I will do my best to suggest colleagues who might be appropriate.
Your narrative is very important and helps us to understand your sense of self, how you relate to other people and how you manage life's challenges with all of its complexities. It is important to process this with self-compassion.
The focus of our collaborative work is your choice and I work in a sensitive, respectful way at your pace. If you want to work on unprocessed distress from your past which is affecting your present we can do that. On the other hand if your difficulty is about something which is happening in the present we can focus on that.
When you contact me by phone or e mail please will you let me know if you would prefer to come to my Godalming or Weybridge Practice. Do feel free to ask me any questions that will help you decide if I am the right professional to help you.
At our initial appointment I will listen to the reasons that you are considering counselling and what you would like to be different should we decide to work together. It can be helpful to consider what your best hopes from coming to counselling might be.I will also explain to you how I work and give you an opportunity to ask me any questions.
We will have regular reviews to ensure that you are getting what you need from your counselling sessions.
My life and clinical experience tells me we are all more resilient than perhaps we think we are. I continue to be in awe of the human spirit and our ability to work through our pain and to be able to have renewed hope and vision for our future.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Counselling
Integrative - Psychodynamic Theory, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
I also give space to reflect on faith/spirituality and the impact of your beliefs on your sense of self, relationship with others and ways of making sense of the world.
- Registered Accredited Member BACP
- Registered Accredited Member ACC
- Registered Accredited Member NCS
- Bupa Recognised Counsellor
Some of the Workshops I have attended are:
Rape and Sexual Abuse
Attachment Theory - an Integrationist Approach
Ethical Issues arising from Integrating Christian Spirituality into Counselling Practice
Strengths-Based CBT for Vulnerable Clients & Chronic Issues
The Similarities and Differences between Counselling and Spiritual Accompaniment
Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery
Introduction to Working with Couples
Working with Relational Trauma
Working with Suicide and Self Harm
Couples in Conflict
Working with Couple Relationships affected by Asperger Syndrome
Working with clients addicted to internet pornography
Working with sexually compulsive clients
Mindfulness in Counselling
Working with Couples - Dealing with Affairs
Understanding and Working with Anxiously Attached Clients
Working with young people who self-harm (BACP On-line Delegate)
Working with identity and self-esteem in young people with eating disorders (BACP On-line Delegate
Solution Focused Therapy
Working Successfully with Men in Therapy
Effective Anger Management Tools for Working with Men
Working with Couples - Meeting their Partner's Needs
- Therapeutic Writing Group - Writing, Coffee and Conversation
- Counselling Male Victims of Domestic Abuse
- Poetry Therapy Workshop - Writing for Resilience
- Dealing with Distress - Working with Self-harm and Suicide
- Loss: What does life mean for me now?
- Identity and Belonging: It's not so Black and White
- Children, Young People, Families - Working with Risk & Therapists Dilemmas
- Who am I? Poetry Therapy Workshop
- Let's talk about Addictions
- Working with Shame
My degree Dissertation considered the Literature on 'Absent Fathers - the possible impact of this on children and young adults.' 'Absence' can take many forms and can happen for a variety of reasons.
The early developmental years are crucial in forming children's initial sense of self, others and the world.
If they have not been securely attached to their mother, father or main caregiver this can impact how they relate to other people as they grow up. In counselling, it is possible for insecure attachment styles to gradually become more secure.
As part of my Continuing Professional Development, I have attended a number of workshops on Attachment and the impact on people physically, emotionally and spiritually of dysfunctional relationships. People need to feel soothed and comforted when they are hurting.
I work with the wounded Inner Child to bring healing. This may involve working creatively using writing, drawings or small objects such as pebbles.We would discuss what would work best for you.
I am sometimes asked how many sessions are needed. That is a complex question as it depends on what it is that brings you to counselling. What I would say is that counselling is an important commitment for both of us and the length of time could be weeks (6-12 weeks) or several months (or longer). I am experienced working both in a time limited way and medium to long term. We can discuss this at your initial appointment and during the course of your therapy. There is no obligation to continue for any longer than you feel is right for you.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Relationship problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Loss, Life transitions, Boarding School Survivors
- Understanding disappointment
- Keeping secrets
- Insights into mental health, including some misconceptions
- The importance of our identity
- Do you find it hard to talk?
- Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries
- Feeling overwhelmed?
- Recognising emotional abuse
- What do you need?
My training at Waverley Abbey College (validated by Roehampton University) included extensive personal and professional learning and development over 4 years. This has given me a desire to continue to learn and I attend workshops and read professional literature to increase my knowledge, understanding and skill-set. Meeting with colleagues regularly is also an important aspect of my continuing professional development. In addition, I see my Clinical Supervisor each month in line with the requirements of BACP, ACC and NCS.
I work in private Practice in Weybridge and Godalming in Surrey with adult individuals and couples face-to-face.
I am an Affiliate Counsellor for LifeWorks which is an EAP and am also a Bupa Recognised Counsellor.
I am also experienced in working with student Counsellors. I have worked with counselling students from Roehampton University, Waverley Abbey College and London School of Theology.
My training at Waverley Abbey College has equipped me to work with matters of faith should my clients wish to do so.
Clients come to me through my website, professional directories, (BACP, ACC, NCS, Counselling Directory, Waverley Abbey College, Bupa), organisations, LifeWorks (EAP), GP's, Churches, colleagues, previous clients.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Weybridge: Monday 9 a.m.- 2 p.m. Wednesday 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Godalming: Tuesday 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Friday 1 p.m.- 5 p.m. I don't work evenings or weekends.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|