Stella Goddard, BA (Hons) Registered MBACP (Accred)
41 Thames Street
Catteshall Mill, Catteshall Road
My theoretical counselling model is Integrative and incorporates aspects of Psychodynamic Theory, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I also offer space, if appropriate, to reflect on aspects of faith and spirituality.
I have a particular interest in working with clients who have been abused in childhood. Abuse damages self esteem, the ability to trust, and leads to a sense of abandonment, rejection and difficulty with managing relationships and emotions. It can also lead to a sense of shame Because of the deep, sometimes unprocessed pain, clients may anaesthetize their hurts with unhealthy relationships, self-harm, drugs or alcohol and other risky behaviours. This list is not exhaustive.
Abuse can be sexual, physical, emotional (psychological), bullying, neglect. It is important to validate clients' experience because abuse is often hidden in secrecy.
I also have a particular interest in working with survivors of Boarding School. Whilst some people love this experience, for others this is not the case, for a variety of complex reasons. When children go to boarding school they may experience home sickness. In the past it was expected that they would soon adjust to school and be fine. When children are home-sick this is disenfranchised grief. If this loss is not acknowledged children are left not knowing what to do, so one way of coping is to internalise their distress. Doing this, whilst being a way of surviving, has potential long term effects into adulthood.
I work with sensitivity and respect so that clients do not become re-traumatized but have an opportunity to be heard, perhaps for the first time. In time self-esteem improves - this is so important because it affects the way we think, feel about ourselves and other people and how we make sense of the world.
It is my privilege to work with a diversity of clients and a range of presenting difficulties. This enriches my practise. Your story is at the centre of our collaborative therapeutic relationship.The journey is yours and I am led by you as to what you would like to work on and at what pace. I will help you to process your thoughts, feelings and response to your struggles. My hope is to empower and strengthen you so that you are able to work through your difficulties and have renewed hope and vision for your future.
It is helpful to have a phone conversation ahead of potentially meeting as this gives us a chance to get an initial idea of whether I might be the right Counsellor for you. If for any reason I am not able to help I will do my best to make suggestions of colleagues that might be appropriate. I am conscious of how difficult it can be to take that first step so want to make sure that I have given you my best.
When you contact me by phone or e mail please will you let me know if you would prefer to come to my Godalming or Weybridge Practice.
At our initial appointment I will listen to the reasons that you are considering counselling and what you would like to be different should we decide to work together. I will also explain to you how I work and give you an opportunity to ask me any questions.
Should we decide to work together we will have regular reviews to ensure that you are getting what you need from your counselling sessions.
In all of our work together the therapeutic relationship is paramount and I offer all of my clients a warm, accepting, authentic relationship.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Counselling
Integrative - Psychodynamic Theory, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
I also give space to reflect on spiritual and existential issues and the impact of your beliefs on your sense of self, relationship with others and ways of making sense of the world.
Registered Accredited Member BACP
Registered Accredited Member ACC
Registered Accredited Member NCS
Bupa Recognised Counsellor
Some of the Workshops I have attended are:
Rape and Sexual Abuse
Attachment Theory - an Integrationist Approach
Ethical Issues arising from Integrating Christian Spirituality into Counselling Practice
Strengths-Based CBT for Vulnerable Clients & Chronic Issues
The Similarities and Differences between Counselling and Spiritual Accompaniment
Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery
Introduction to Working with Couples
Working with Relational Trauma
Working with Suicide and Self Harm
Couples in Conflict
Working with Couple Relationships affected by Asperger Syndrome
Working with clients addicted to internet pornography
Working with sexually compulsive clients
Mindfulness in Counselling
Working with Couples - Dealing with Affairs
Understanding and Working with Anxiously Attached Clients
Working with young people who self-harm (BACP On-line Delegate)
Working with identity and self-esteem in young people with eating disorders (BACP On-line Delegate
Solution Focused Therapy
Working Successfully with Men in Therapy
Effective Anger Management Tools for Working with Men
Working with Couples - Meeting their Partner's Needs
Therapeutic Writing Group - Writing, Coffee and Conversation
Counselling Male Victims of Domestic Abuse
Poetry Therapy Workshop - Writing for Resilience
Dealing with Distress - Working with Self-harm and Suicide
Loss:What does life mean for me now?
BME Voices:It's not so black and white (attending conference on 20 October 2018)
My degree Dissertation considered the Literature on 'Absent Fathers - the possible impact of this on children and young adults.' 'Absence' can take many forms and can happen for a variety of reasons.
The early developmental years are crucial in forming childrens initial sense of self, others and the world.
If they have not been securely attached to their mother, father or main caregiver this can impact how they relate to other people as they grow up. In counselling it is possible for insecure attachment styles to gradually become more secure.
As part of my Continuing Professional Development I have attended a number of workshops on Attachment and the impact on people physically, emotionally and spiritually of dysfunctional relationships. People need to feel soothed and comforted when they are hurting. Sometimes this can involve self-harm and risk taking behaviours.
I work with the wounded Inner Child to bring healing. This may involve working creatively using drawings or small objects such as pebbles.
We would discuss what would work best for you. I have regular reviews with you to make sure that you are getting what you need from your counselling. I would suggest 6-10 weekly sessions initially but the decision is yours and depends on what is best for your circumstances. I would also add that working with trauma will need more than 10 sessions.
I am experienced working both long-term and in a time-limited way and tailor my work appropriately for each client.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Relationship issues
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Loss, Life transitions, Boarding School Survivors
- Insights into mental health, including some misconceptions
- The importance of our identity
- Do you find it hard to talk?
- Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries
- Feeling overwhelmed?
- Recognising emotional abuse
- What do you need?
- Struggling? Afraid to ask for help?
My training at Waverley Abbey College (validated by Roehampton University) included extensive personal and professional learning and development over 4 years. This has given me a desire to continue to learn and I attend workshops and read professional literature to increase my knowledge, understanding and skill-set. Meeting with colleagues regularly is also an important aspect of my continuing professional development. In addition I see my Clinical Supervisor each month in line with the requirements of BACP, ACC and NCS.
I work in private Practice in Weybridge and Godalming in Surrey.I am an Affiliate Counsellor for LifeWorks which is an EAP and am also a Bupa Recognised Counsellor. I am also experienced in working with student Counsellors. Most of my clients are adults (individuals and couples). I also work with young people from aged 16 years upwards.
Clients come to me through my website, professional directories, (BACP, ACC, NCS, Counselling Directory, Waverley Abbey College, Bupa), organisations, LifeWorks (EAP), GP's, Churches, colleagues, previous clients.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Weybridge: Monday 9 a.m.- 2 p.m. Wednesday 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Godalming: Tuesday 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Friday 1 p.m.- 5 p.m. I don't work evenings or weekends.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|