Paul Lipman - MBACP. Accred reg. - Individuals, Couples, & Family issues
I am Paul and a warm welcome. Should you like to find out in more detail how I can help my website is (https://wholepsychology.org.uk/) and details about couples counselling is below my profile.
I came into counselling following the help I needed in 2006, and whilst I have much experience, I think it is having lived with and worked through my own anxieties and difficulties in counselling that makes a difference. I remember feeling scared that I might break down, about being honest and unsure about counselling or where to start. So, I may have felt some of what you are feeling right now.
I want your counselling to be as equally successful as mine was. Shaped by my own experience, you will receive the same care and commitment, with lots of support and guidance, that changed my life. I assure you that you won’t find it a sterile or clinical experience, in fact, I can’t think of anything worse than that for you.
Instead, you’ll find me very human, friendly and with a sense of humour. I have lots of patience that I combine with my know-how, and a sensitive approach to create an informal, warm, and relaxed space in which we can work together, whilst naturally building trust. I want you to be able to come to your sessions not worried about how you are feeling and knowing it’s OK to talk about anything, and comfortable with me helping you through what is your very personal journey.
Yes, counselling can be hard work for us both, however, it is also rewarding, healing, and empowering as I am trained to know how to keep conversation flowing in ways that help you understand your difficulties and make the positive changes you want for yourself.
Sometimes I'm helping a client develop coping skills, or giving support through a rough time, for others to learn to make a life after a loss. and I help many break the cycle of negative thoughts, difficult feelings or unhelpful behaviours or to feel good about themselves. Whilst for others we find answers to questions about themselves or their lives, or to rebuild their when they are struggling to make their relationship work. Nothing is too trivial or too big to ask for help with.
My aim for you and all my clients is that you can leave not simply feeling better but comfortable with yourself, others, and knowing how to make life work for you. We all deserve more than just to get by no matter what has gone before.
I have an holistic approach to counselling as this enables you to make lasting changes and not just benefit from short lived relief.
This means In our sessions as we explore your difficulties we will look at your thoughts, feelings, reactions, ways of coping and your needs. In this way we will find out how it all connects, and pulls you into your difficulties.
With this new increased awareness, and new coping skills and tools you can learn and apply to yourself, and by us finding new ways of dealing with people, situations and your emotions which work for you, you can make the positive changes needed to overcome your difficulties.
Taking these new ways into your daily life, not only provides powerful tools enabling you to manage well, they can become a natural and permanent part of who you are.
It doesn’t matter if you have no idea where to start or never had counselling before. With my psychological and therapeutic training and experience, I can tailor help to your specific issues and work together in ways that you can make use of.
If you would like to find out more or to see if i can help please feel free to contact me. I'll make time for us to talk (phone or video link) and you can ask any questions about me or therapy and then decide if you wish to meet.
If I am not available and you call I will get back to you as soon as possible always on the same day. Alternatively you can test or email me or find out more from my website.
Our initial session is not therapy. It is an informal no obligation meeting giving us the opportunity to get to know each other better and you an understanding of how I work. I can also get more in-depth information about your difficulties and share my initial thinking. If you wish to continue, we would, then finalise arrangements,
Some of the difficulties I'm regularly asked to help with:
- Marriage & Relationship difficulties (further details below or on my website)
- Families struggling to work well together
- Anxiety / constant worry (including social anxiety)
- Critical / negative thinking
- Feeling weak or embarrassed showing emotion.
- Panic attacks
- OCD, Phobias
- Depression / low mood
- Poor self-image / lacking confidence
- Eating disorders
- Abuse ( sexual, emotional or physical including rape)
- Trauma and PTSD
- BPD, Asperger. ADHD
- Bereavement & Loss.
- Anger, aggression & over reactions.
- Childhood issues
- General lack of purpose.
- Self harming
- Coping strategies.
- Sexual issues
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Registered Member of The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, on the professional standards authority, accredited register.
I gained my experience over the years from helping with all kinds of difficulties alongside my practice in those National counselling organisations I have been invited to assist. In the first five primarily focusing on those with extreme anxiety, depression, anger, working through a loss and those in difficult relationships and in the next I've e gained a broad and in-depth knowledge helping with all kinds of difficulties for other health care professionals such as counsellors, those in the NHS and in The Forces. as well as in my own practice.I have also continued with advanced training in a range of areas which include: couples, anxiety linked conditions, depression, panic related difficulties, trauma and PTSD.
- Academic Diploma in Integrative Counselling.
- WPF Certificate in Psycho-dynamic counselling
- Child development and behaviors
- Relational Development and Personal Communication
- Trauma and recovery
- Person Centred, Transctional Analysis, Gestalt and Relational counselling.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Depression, anxiety, anger, self-harm, eating disorders, attachment disorders, loss and grief, phobias, panic, sexuality, abuse, self harm, obsessions, addiction, post traumatic stress, Bipolar and Asperger syndrome.
- Bereavement Counselling.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma. (PTSD)
Specialist training by Babette Rothschild, one of the worlds foremost leading experts and authors in treating Trauma and PTSD. This means I understand the Autonomic Nervous System which is vital in choosing safe approaches.
BACP Accredited - Couples , Relationships & Communication
See my website for full details..
Anger Programs/ Courses
I have run Police funded Anger management courses for a Southern based counselling organisation.
BACP Accredited - Creativity
Working with: Arts, imagery, visualization, role play, body language and mindfulness techniques.
Other (experiential training)
- Group Therapy / Psycho educational workshops
- Gestalt systemic and family constellation therapy.
- Gestalt experiential therapy
- Gestalt Group facilitation and coaching
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Marriage and Relationships
Many who come to see me often feel hurt, misunderstood, frustrated and feel distant from each other. Counselling though can make a positive difference and many go on to enjoy a relationship which is stronger than if they had never had their difficulties.
I have no interest in taking sides or judging what has happened; and whilst there is is no road map to a successful relationship what I do know is that when we can communicate effectively and in respectful ways and replace "judgment" with understanding ourselves and each other more deeply, answers to even the most difficult problems can be found.
I will create a calm and safe space and help you:
- Know how to be with each other in ways which develop warmth and love and allow you to feel good about yourself and each other.
- Skills to to be able to have the most difficult of conversations in ways which bring you closer together, make agreement possible and never break down or end in shouting or walking away.
- How to be with each other in ways which can repair hurts and wounds, enabling you to feel safe and trust each other.
- To ensure your differences and sensitivities don’t become a bone of contention or source of frustration.
- Understand the role your history can play in stopping you from finding answers and how to change this.
- How to give yourself and what the relationship needs without your partner feeling rejected or let down.
- To identify and work through individual difficulties which get in the way of finding answers.
- Understand the natural growth stages all relationships go through and how to work through these successfully.
Caterham (CR3) - Situated in a peaceful location 250 meters from Caterham main line station and the High Street and 2 miles from junction 6 M25.
Banstead (SM7) - A modern confidential space situation within 200 meters of Banstead High Street and 8 miles from Caterham.
- Individuals (60min) - £65
- Couples (70min) - £75
I am committed to providing effective and safe help and in achieving that I:
- Retain Professional indemnity insurance
- Abide by and go beyond the BACP Code of ethics
- Commit to ongoing professional development, keeping up with the latest advances and knowledge.
- Collaborate with other professionals if helpful, without breaking confidentiality
- Have professional clinical supervision to ensure I offer effective therapy and which is a BACP requirement.
- Never help outside my area of competence or experience.