Anxiety, stress, depression, substance addiction, relationship and family issues - there are enough hassles already with modern living without having to tackle any these as well. We will go to a doctor or dentist for specialist advice, so why not see a therapist if any of these issues or other challenges are making your life a misery?
In a world of increasing pressures and stress we can all at times find ourselves being squeezed out. Perhaps 'setting ourselves on fire to keep others warm' - giving away so much of our time, energy and love to meet the needs of others that there is little or even nothing left to care for ourselves. Issues from the past can surface when we are at our weakest and least able to handle them.
Counselling and psychotherapy / psychological therapy can help us cope with many of the strains of modern life, including:
* Relational Issues
* Anger Management
* Substance Use
* Age Related Issues
* Illness and Injury
What are the benefits?
If you are experiencing any of the problems above, or are suffering from dissatisfaction with life or loss of a sense of direction or purpose then please send an email or give me a call to find out how counselling and psychotherapy can help - whether coping with a problem you are facing now, or a past traumatic experience. If you are looking for someone to talk to, someone to listen to you then please read on.
I follow a Humanistic perspective both in my life and as a therapist - seeking to work with clients as equals in a non-judgemental way and believe that we have the potential to often achieve far more than we think possible. I am a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and a graduate member of the British Psychological Society.
Rather than seeking to fit you into a standardised and rigid pigeon holes, or 'slap a label' on you, my aim is to respect you as an individual with your own strengths, challenges and opportunities. Counselling and psychotherapy provide different ways of addressing personal issues and at different levels, your wishes and decisions will be respected regarding how we work together.
Free initial consultation
Deciding to see a counsellor / therapist can feel like a big step. To help break the ice and let you find out if you think we can work together, I offer an initial free half-hour telephone consultation. You may also find it easier to talk over embarrassing issues first over the ‘phone, rather than face to face, and so we won’t be total strangers when we meet. Either way, you have nothing to lose in taking the next step in addressing the issues worrying you at present – ring, text or email now to book the next available session.
What is involved in counselling and psychotherapy?
I integrate different therapeutic perspectives and methods, with a focus on 'what does this person need at this time' rather than believing that one size does not fit all. The method I trained in (Transactional Analysis) fosters an 'I'm ok, you're ok' equal relationship between client and therapist, where we work together to help you achieve your goal. You are fully entitled - and welcome - to see any notes, and to talk through as much (or as little) theory as you want. Transactional Analysis makes a point of using plain English to be as accessible as possible.
We meet in a safe, private and confidential setting to explore a difficulty you are having, distress you may be experiencing or may be a dissatisfaction with life, or loss of a sense of direction or purpose. You set the agenda, whether it be a problem you are facing now, or a traumatic experience in your past.
You can expect me to be attentive, respectful and non-judgemental, focused on you, honest and discreet. I also have full DBS (Disclosure and Barring Service) clearance and appropriate third party insurance (details on web site.)
Any initial conversation by telephone or email is completely without obligation, please feel free to ask me about anything that concerns you, including my training, qualifications, experience or background - I won't be offended and am happy to answer any relevant question, or explain why if I'm unable to respond.
If you would like to know more about what is involved, click here.
How long will it take?
That depends on what you want to change. Sometimes a single session is all it takes to help someone resolve an issue that has been troubling them. A problem may be like a log jam - seemingly an unsolvable mess, but once the source of the blockage is located then it becomes possible to quickly find a solution. Research (citations available) suggests that the act of making contact with a therapist starts a chain of events and behaviours in motion that will help solve a difficulty.
Issues such as trauma in early life will probably involve long term work however, proceeding gently and sensitively. On average, clients usually find they can gain what they want after only a handful of sessions. I'm happy to be available for later meetings, even 'one-offs' if they are needed later. Rather like an osteopath or chiropractor, I'm happy to be a professional available for you to call on, as and when you need to.
Where can we meet?
I have a warm, welcoming, quiet and private garden office (between Brenchley and Horsmonden).
To date, no client has had expressed any regrets about coming although some have said how they wished they could have resolved their issues earlier, talking about wasted years and lost opportunities.
As Woody Allen’s friend in Manhattan said to him about therapy,
“The worst thing that can happen is you can learn something about yourself.”
To find out more, and to arrange a free initial consultation, contact me so we can discuss working together - I can also offer details of colleagues who specialise in particular fields of work if they could be more suitable for you.
It’s good to talk.
Training, qualifications & experience
Following a six-year Open University honours degree in psychology, I gained a diploma in counselling and psychotherapy and have achieved membership of both the British Psychological Society and the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.
During my training, I worked as a volunteer counsellor for a hospice, and for substance use units in both Brighton and Hastings and took additional training in trauma. In 2020, I was accepted as a Police Firearms Officer Association (PFOA) approved counsellor.
I have also gained accreditation as a 'Non-Religious Pastoral Care Volunteer' through the British Humanist Association and the Network for Pastoral, Spiritual and Religious Care in Health. Currently working part-time at Tunbridge Wells Hospital, I have an MA in Humanistic and Existential Pastoral Care, which included further training in counselling as well as in coaching and philosophy, studies on ethics and world religions as well as training as a celebrant for non-religious naming, wedding and funeral ceremonies. I suppose I'm the nearest thing to an atheist priest!
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Pastoral care (non-religious chaplaincy)
Ageing and age-related issues
Fees vary from £40 depending on solo or couple, day or evening/Sunday morning and location.
Please see my website for full details: http://www.paul-hurst.com/Therapy-fees.html
Normal times: Mon. & Wed. 9.30, 11.00, 1.00pm, 2.30pm. 6.00pm, 7.30pm, 9.00pm Thurs. 1.00pm. 2.30pm, 6.00pm, 7.30pm.9.00pm Fri. 9.30, 11.00, 1.00pm, 2.30pm Sun, 9.30, 11.00