Judy James, MBACP : Relationship Coach & Emotion Focused Therapist (EFT)
Same day initial consultations available online via video-conferencing or by telephone. From the comfort of your own home or office, this is an opportunity for you to outline what is causing you concern, to receive support and find clarity so that you can make an informed choice about the best way forward.
Please read on for information about the coaching and therapy services I provide for couples and individuals:-
I am trained and qualified to work with you as your Counsellor, Therapist, Personal & Professional Development Coach; this means you can benefit from the integration of Coaching and Therapy. We can address the worries and negative feelings that have caused you to seek support; we can also work towards solutions with a positive, future-focused approach.
- exhausted by stress and pressures of day-to-day life
- overwhelmed by worries and self-critical thoughts
- aiming to break unhelpful habits, impulses and addictions
- feeling traumatised by past events
- seeking ways to improve work-life balance
- looking to resolve upset and unhappiness in relationships
I use well-researched, evidence-based, effective therapeutic approaches so that you can soon feel the benefit of small changes making a big difference to the way you feel about yourself, your situation and relationships. My practice is based on sound experience, qualification, regular study and up-skilling through continuous professional development. I will support you to work through your feelings and, with care and compassion, help you build resilience so that you can live more contentedly with less stress and worry. I am dedicated to the coach-therapy approach because it promotes long-lasting change, not just a temporary fix.
For Couples and Relationships of all kinds
“How come we love each so much yet tend to bicker, argue, say hurtful things and fight so much?”
“Somehow our relationship has lost its warmth and spark.”
“Something has caused a rift between us and it feels like we’re just two people living under the same roof now"
If any of those statements strike a chord with you then you may well be interested in
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples.
EFT is a structured, usually short-term, collaborative approach that helps partners re-build love and trust to make their relationship stronger and more secure.
Unlike traditional forms of couple counselling, EFT is a clearly defined 3 stage process with specific steps and interventions to enable partners to understand their own and each others emotional reactions and learn new ways to communicate, relate to each other and resolve conflict and distancing. The process of EFT enables each partner to discover how their relationship history affects their interactions now, and enables them to identify where and how communication breaks down between them.
EFT is goal focused to increase security, closeness, and connection in adult and family relationships.
How successful can EFT be?
Based on the scientific study of adult love, attachment theory and the pioneering work of Prof Leslie Greenberg and Dr Sue Johnson, EFT is well-researched and has a high success rate in overcoming relationship set-backs and difficulties. Research studies have found that 70-75% of couples recover from relationship distress, and approximately 90% rate themselves as significantly improved. EFT provides partners with a set of strategies and interventions to maintain the new bond and problem-solve together so that they can overcome difficulties that arise in the future.
How can EFT help us?
I welcome you and your partner to a free consultation to find out more about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how it could help you resolve upset, restore the bond between you and help re-shape your relationship so that it feels safe, respectful, and connected.
Why not take the first step? An initial no-cost consultation is for 30-40 minutes online or by telephone. Usual working hours are 9.30am - 8pm Tuesday to Friday and 9.30am – 2pm on Saturdays. You may phone, text or email me to check availability and book an appointment between those times.
(I aim to resume sessions at consulting rooms in Wilmslow, Warrington and Manchester City Centre, all being well from October 2020; however, sessions can continue online if preferred)
Training, qualifications & experience
EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples – Externship and Additional Core Skills
EFT - Emotion Focused Therapy for Individuals
Graduate Diploma in Counselling – Manchester Metropolitan University (MMU)
Certificate of Higher Education in Counselling (MMU)
BACP Register Certificate of Proficiency
Intermediate and Foundation in Counselling Skills
Practitioner Diploma in Executive Coaching
City and Guilds 7307 - Teaching in Adult Education
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Trauma Informed and Trauma Sensitive Care
Neuroscience for coaching and counselling
Coaching Clients to work through their feelings
Mindful Awareness: Focusing and Somatic Experiencing
NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming
Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Addiction and Transforming Shame
Caring for the Bereaved
Self and Self Image
Supporting people who have suicidal thoughts
Attachment Theory and In Practice
Healing attachment injuries
Equality and Diversity – legislation and cultural awareness
Teaching in the Lifelong Learning Sector (CTLLS equivalent)
Having first started my training more than 20 years ago and provided counselling in the volunteer sector, I have been in Private Practice as a counsellor, coach and therapist since 2014. In addition:-
- I work with organisations and community groups to raise awareness of the behavioural and health implications of Adverse Childhood Experiences, Trauma and Toxic Stress
- I provide workshops and training on Trauma Responsive Care in Health and Counselling Professions
- I provide advocacy for people with communication difficulties of various kinds; helping people with verbal and written communication, and emotional expression.
- I am passionate about EFT - Emotion Focused Therapy, and pro-active in raising awareness and promoting the benefits of the EFT approach. I am co-founder of 'EFT Networks in the North' and provide talks to professional associations and community groups not just about EFT, but also the topic of Emotion and Emotional Intelligence - the interplay between emotion, thought and action.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive Care
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
There is a scale of charges dependent on venue, time of day, duration, single or block bookings, type of therapy etc, but fees are negotiable and an important topic to discuss and agree during an initial consultation. Choosing the right therapist and agreeing a way of working that best suits you and your needs are important steps at the start of the process. I understand how crucial it is for you to feel that you can talk openly in a supportive, non-judgmental, confidential environment; that's why I offer and make no charge for an initial consultation at which all these important factors can be freely discussed.
For Workshops and Seminars: Full details of prices, venues and content are available on request. See the Further Information section of this profile for a summary list of topics. I also welcome your enquiry if you would like to mix-and-match or include other aspects of personal or professional development so that a workshop is designed exclusively to meet the training, learning and development needs or your organisation.
Concessions offered for
For students of counselling and psychotherapy I provide sessions to fulfill the Personal Therapy element of course study and qualification.
From time to time I run workshops and seminars to raise awareness of
- Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Trauma Informed and Trauma Responsive Care
- Emotional Health and Wellbeing
- Emotion Focused Therapy:Coaching clients to work through their feelings
- Creating Connection: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
- Working with the self and self-constructs
- Attachment Theory and relevance to therapeutic practice
- Alternative approaches: the integration of coaching with counselling or psychotherapy – exploring the similarities, differences, benefits and results
For details of up-and-coming workshops or to book a bespoke seminar for your organisation, please get in touch by phone or email.