Cerian Lye-Owens

Have you found yourself thinking...

"Why can't I just make a decision?"

"Why do I keep putting everyone else first?"

"Why am I so exhausted all the time?"

"Why do I stay in situations that make me unhappy?"

"I don't know who I am anymore."

"I've lost myself."

• Perhaps you're stuck in a relationship you know isn't right but can't seem to leave.
• Perhaps you're burnt out from always being the one who says yes.
• Perhaps you feel torn between what you truly want and what you think other people expect from you.
• Perhaps you've spent so long prioritising everyone else's needs that you've lost touch with your own.

You might find yourself constantly second-guessing your decisions, worrying about disappointing people, feeling responsible for everyone else's happiness or struggling to understand why setting boundaries feels so difficult.

Over time, this can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, resentment, overwhelm, relationship difficulties and a persistent sense that something isn't quite right. You may feel disconnected from yourself, unsure what you want and frustrated that you keep repeating the same patterns despite believing that you 'should know better.'

Maybe you’re the one who…

• People describe as kind, caring and dependable.
• You’re the one people turn to for support, advice and reassurance.
• You notice what other people need before they do. You smooth things over. You carry more than your fair share.
• You say yes when you’re already exhausted.
• You remember the birthday, organise the plans, know what’s for dinner and pick up the things nobody else thought about.
• You might think of yourself as an empath, a people pleaser or simply “the strong one”.
• You know what everyone else wants, but struggle to answer when someone asks what you want.
• You feel responsible for keeping everyone else happy, and sometimes guilty when you put yourself first.

And despite being so tuned in to everyone else, you’ve somehow become disconnected from yourself.

You might be wondering when that happened.

These patterns don’t appear out of nowhere. They often develop slowly, through the relationships and experiences that teach us what feels safe, what keeps us connected, and what we believe we need to be in order to be loved.

Sometimes this can be linked to childhood experiences, family dynamics, attachment wounds, difficult relationships or trauma. Sometimes it develops more subtly over time.

Whatever the story, there isn't something wrong with you.

These ways of coping made sense once for a reason. Together we can begin to understand them with compassion and explore whether they are still serving you today.

Although I work predominantly with women, many men experience these struggles too. The pressure to keep others happy, stay strong, avoid conflict or ignore our own needs can affect anyone.

I welcome both women and men who want to better understand themselves, build self-trust and create more authentic relationships with themselves and others.

What to Expect:

Starting therapy can feel daunting and you might wonder:

“Will they really get it?”
“What if my problems are too much—or not enough?”
“Will I feel judged or misunderstood?”

I understand those fears. That’s why I offer a free 20-minute consultation—to help you get a feel for how I work, ask any questions (no question is silly), and explore whether this is the right fit.

👉 Use the link below to book your free 20-minute consultation now:

https://calendly.com/cerianlyeo/20min

Sessions are led by you, at your pace. I’ll walk alongside you with care and curiosity, always working with you and without pressure.

 
My approach:

Our early experiences shape how we see ourselves and the world. Sometimes, we lose touch with who we really are. My job is to help you to understand how that happened, and to look at what you want now, so you can live the life you really want.

I am an Integrative counsellor which means that I'll get to know you and work with you to find out what works for you.

If you're someone who spends your life being there for others, but struggle to extend that same care towards yourself, I will support you to develop compassion and to support your own wellbeing.

I specialise in embodied and somatic work which means that I don’t just offer talking therapy. I also support you to tune into the feelings and sensations that are stored in your body. This can be helpful if you are struggling with anxiety, low self worth or trauma.

Listening to your body can help you to understand the things that your brain can’t quite put into words. It helps with:

•  letting go of painful memories
• regulating emotions
• managing anxiety

Albert Einstein said that “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” But it can be hard to know how to change our thinking, so instead I like to work creatively, so you can see things in different ways. This may mean, writing things down, drawing, using gentle movement, breathwork, guided visualisations or using objects such as stones or cards to think out of the box.

You already hold the wisdom you need—my role is to help you uncover it.

 
I work with adults and young people experiencing issues such as:

Trauma & PTSD
Anxiety & overwhelm
People-pleasing & Perfectionism
Low self-worth & Low Self esteem
Childhood abuse
Disconnection & emotional numbness
 
Ready to begin?

My clients often tell me they feel calmer, more grounded, and more connected to who they are. They begin to set boundaries, trust themselves again, and feel more at home in their own skin.

If you’re ready to explore how therapy might support you, let’s talk.

👉 Use the link below to book your free 20-minute consultation now:

https://calendly.com/cerianlyeo/20min

📍 Online sessions also available🌿

My practice is called Heartspace—a place to come home to yourself, whether through 1:1 therapy, or my 5 Week 'Coming Home' therapeutic coaching programme.

Through my private practice; heartspace, I offer you space and time away from the treadmill of everyday life, where you can take off your other hats and just be you. 

I offer therapeutic counselling, compassion-based coaching or a blended approach, to support you to experience whole hearted living. This means being able to fully engage in your life, with those around you, with your environment and most importantly with yourself.

Getting the right counsellor for you is important so I offer a free short consultation online or by phone. This is your time to tell me what's going on for you and what's bringing you to counselling. I will answer any questions you have and we can talk together about what you are hoping to gain from counselling.

👉 Use the link below to book your free 20-minute consultation now:

https://calendly.com/cerianlyeo/20min

The time and the space is yours. No question is silly or unimportant. 

If you decide that you'd like to move forward with the counselling and I think that what you are looking for is something I can support you to work towards, then we can look at finding a time that works for you.

Counselling normally takes place on a weekly basis at the same time each week. It's you setting aside time for you.

You can choose from sessions face to face, online or over the phone. 

After the free consultation, sessions are charged at £75.00,  which is payable 48 hours before each session.

I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and follow their ethical framework to ensure that the work we do together is safe for us both. I offer counselling & coaching sessions from my Chippenham practice or online.

Counselling is a personal experience and so it will be different for everyone but it is a space for you to share, in your own time and in your own way, what's going on for you. To help you to unfold your story I will ask you questions and by really listening to your responses I will support you as you dig deeper into your own understanding of what is means to be you. I understand that it can be scary to explore what's going on, especially if your experiences in the past have been overwhelming or unsafe, so first we will create a place that is safe together and move forward at your own pace.

heartspace: Contact me and take the first step today.

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Website: http://www.heartspace.me.uk