Alan Lynam MBACP Individual and Couples Counselling
Life can be a struggle at times and very confusing. At any stage one can be faced with feelings of sadness, anxiety, fear and feeling completely overwhelmed among others. Negative thoughts can make one very uncomfortable, insecure, “not good enough”, and lacking in self confidence. Negative thoughts and their associated feelings can take up a lot of energy and be thoughts about oneself, others or the world around us. We all experience negative thoughts from time to time, it’s perfectly normal. However, if these thoughts and their associated feelings were making us feel “stuck”, and impacting on our daily lives then counselling and psychotherapy can help to work through and process them. I believe we all experience episodes in our lives which would benefit from therapeutic support. My journey to being a psychotherapist began as a direct result of me being in therapy and seeing how beneficial and life changing it was for me.
I’m originally from Cork in Ireland and practise at the Didsbury Counselling and Therapy Centre. Helping my clients feel safe is of paramount importance to me as I am aware that for many of you coming to therapy is a new experience which you may find daunting. It’s perfectly understandable to feel nervous when wishing to see a counsellor for the first time. It’s a new experience, meeting a new person, what will he or she be like? Will I feel relaxed with him or her etc? It’s OK to feel this way.
Whatever it is you are going through at present you are not alone, yes you may very much feel at times that you are the only one which such an issue but talking to a professional therapist who is not connected with you in any way works and helps to bring awareness and clarity to a particular situation and can move you towards feeling better soon.
Counselling can be very effective in helping you to explore new ways of managing day to day situations which are impacting on you in the here and now. These can impact on you and your relationship(s) with others.
Psychotherapy can be effective to overcome long term deep rooted beliefs about yourself and others which you would like to work through to bring you towards a happier and more fulfilled life.
I work with clients on a short term or long term basis (short term can be around 8 to 12 sessions). Longer term therapy can take much longer from a few months to years. However, we both contract together as to what’s best and I will check in regularly to see how therapy is working for you.
It may be for example that someone comes for counselling initially with work related stress and over the course of a number of sessions stuff from childhood comes up which the client wants to focus on and work through in psychotherapy and we contract together to work for longer through these unresolved historic issues. Longer term work enables you to explore your difficulties at much greater depth.
A big aspect of counselling and psychotherapy is about recognising and facing uncomfortable feelings. This is not easy and can be overwhelming and distressing but you are not alone in this. I will journey with you to help you discover effective ways of approaching and coping with uncomfortable feelings which is part of the therapeutic process.
As a practitioner, I am offering to share my time, knowledge and expertise with you so that we can work through things together in ways that may be challenging but also life-changing.
As a counsellor/therapist I have worked with a great variety of people from diverse backgrounds with a range of issues including anxiety, depression, sexuality, self-esteem, relationship difficulties, panic attacks, loneliness, search for meaning in life, stress, and confidence issues among many others.
You may have a specific problem or issue which you need help and support with, you may feel somewhat "stuck" and unsure or just need to talk. At the initial consultation appointment you can discuss what it is that brings you to therapy; I can answer any specific questions you may have about the process and will explain more about my approach to us working together.
In my work with individual clients I use an integrative approach to psychotherapy. I draw on my training in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy as well as other modalities including person centred counselling, CBT and mindfulness. I keep abreast of the latest research to inform my practice.
As a couples therapist I use Imago Relationship Therapy which is a highly effective form of couples counselling which has positively benefited couples throughout the world. Imago relationship therapy is a great way to get to know your partner better and feel more loved and deeply connected. It is also about experiencing the joy of being in relationship and how it is important for us to show appreciations to our partner.
If you and your partner are going through a difficult time, struggling to communicate, feel as if you’re not being heard or understood or missed this is normal. It’s the power struggle of relationship which we all need to work through in order for us to reconnect and experience the joy of being in relationship which we all felt at the beginning.
In Imago we learn to see the world from our partners perspective, to really listen and understand things from their world and they in turn can begin to see things from your perspective.
Techniques are used to get yourself and your partner into deeper connection with each other through a process of dialoguing in a safe contained space with my role being to facilitate and guiding you in the process.
Want to know more? Contact me to discuss further. First appointment is a chance for you both to tell me what you both want from your relationship and therapy and I will explain more about how I work using Imago relationship therapy and through establishing safety I will work with you both to begin the process of bringing you both into deeper connection with each other.
I am currently under supervision of internatiallly recognised Imago Therapist Dr Sophie Slade.
Having worked with many clients who have come to embrace a more content and fulfilling life I know that with your willingness and my support it is possible for you to overcome the challenges that you are currently experiencing and use them as an opportunity to give you the inner strength and courage to embrace the life you want for yourself.
Alongside my work as a psychotherapist I also work part time as an independent reviewing officer where I advocate, support and review arrangements for children and young people in care.
Want to know more, any questions or want to arrange an initial consultation appointment, contact me either by phone or email. If I am not available please leave a voice message and I will get back to you.
Training, qualifications & experience
Proficient ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) therapist.
Certificate in therapeutic counselling.
Completed 4 Year training in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy. TA therapist.
MA Social Work
Diploma in community based guidance and support studies
I am a member of the United kingdom Association for Transactional Analysis and the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists and abide by their code of ethics and professional conduct. I attend regular professional supervision and undertake regular Continuous Professional Development courses and training events to enhance my practice.
The therapy service I provide is fully insured and I posess an up to date enhanced DBS.
I'm a social worker registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC).
I have delivered safeguarding training to multi agency professionals and volunteers working with children and young people. I've also delivered bespoke safeguarding training to counsellors and psychotherapists.
In addition, I've been a counsellor with the LGBT Foundation in Manchester for a few years and have and have vast experience of working with sexually diverse clients.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
I offer an initial consultation session (without commitment).This initial appointment is an opportunity for you to tell me what you’re looking for, ask me any questions you may have and for me to explain how I work as a therapist and together we can make a decision about working together going forward.
I offer a free 15min telephone discussion should you wish to chat prior to making an appointment.
My fees are between £45 - £55 (50mins) for individual therapy and £75 for couples therapy (60min duration).
If you would like to make an appointment or seek clarification on anything feel free to ring, email or text and I will get back to you. Please note I am not always available to answer the phone so please ensure you leave a voice message or email me to ensure that you get a swift response.
Evening appointments in Didsbury are from 5pm to 10pm on Monday and Tuesday and from 6pm to 10pm in Wilmslow on Wednesdays.
I offer telephone or Skype sessions where flexibility is required.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Tuesday and Thursday from 5pm to 10pm in Didsbury. Wednesday 6pm to 10pm in Wilmslow
Types of client