Wendy Capewell - Trauma and Relationship Specialist
Feelings of anxiety and stress are affecting so many people during these difficult times.
Sometimes you don't recognise them, dismissing them, telling yourself to 'get a grip'. That may work for a while. But what if they continue, or get worse and they affect both your personal relationships or your professional life?
Many people believe that Traumatic Events are only related to serving military, or a serious life threatening event. That's not true. as right now virtually every one of us is experiencing a traumatic event, even more so with COVID and the knock-on effect, which is affecting some people more than others. If you are experiencing any of the symptoms below, then it's time to take action and talk to someone.
Talk to your partner, a trusted friend or family member.
Don't suffer in silence.
The symptoms of anxiety and stress can feel really debilitating, especially if they result in panic or anxiety attacks. So it's really important to feel more in control of those feelings as much as possible. Talking to a professional like myself can be a very effective way of helping you overcome them. Especially as I can offer tools and techniques that can really make a difference.
Symptoms may include
- feeling restless
- panic attacks
- trouble concentrating
- problems sleeping
- shortness of breath
- dizziness and heart palpitations
The problem is that you may decide to carry on, telling yourself you can cope. After all, everyone else around you are managing, and you don't want to be seen as being weak.
You keep working longer hours, often late into the evening, and weekends. You reason that if you
- Just answer that email
- Write that letter
- Finish that report
- Organise your diary....................
then you will have a head start, and you won't feel so stressed tomorrow.
Or perhaps you want that promotion so badly that you want to impress your boss.
As a result, you feel exhausted, on edge and stressed. You become irritable and unable to cope and your relationships and family life are suffering.
Maybe your personal life is what's causing the anxiety and stress.
- Finding it hard to form good relationships,
- Lacking confidence to seek out healthy friendships
- You and your partner are unhappy but you don't know how to repair it
- Stuck in a cycle of abusive relationships
Romantic relationships are not always plain sailing.
Constantly affected by changes
- Starting a family
- Moving house
- New job
- Financial worries
- Blending families
- Serious illness
- Extended family
We all bring baggage from the past in our relationships. Often going way back into our childhood. Past traumas or negative life events leave emotional scars. Left unattended they can have long-lasting effects on our current life.
You tell yourself that you can work through it, and anyway, sharing problems with a complete stranger can bring feel strange, embarrassing, shaming.
Anyway you figure they won't understand.
I have more than 15 years professional experience working with men, women and couples, who experience all kinds of problems.
Added to that I've been through some pretty tough times in my life.
- An unhappy childhood with a controlling mother
- Polio when I was 4, from which I fully recovered
- Single mum
- Work related stress
- Breast cancer
- Abusive relationship
So I've worked through a lot of my own issues over the years.
This doesn’t mean I totally understand your feelings, as each of us experience things differently. It does mean I won't judge you, it also means I won't tell you what to do. I will offer a different perspective, which isn't coloured by my views, which can often help order your thoughts and give more clarity.
PROFESSIONAL EXPERTISE & QUALIFICATIONS
I qualified more than 15 years ago as an Integrative Counsellor. I am also an Accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I was a volunteer Counsellor at a Rape and Sexual Abuse centre for 5 years, which gave me experience in working with those suffering trauma.
WORKING WITH ME
I really understand how scary it can feel to make that first step, pick up the phone, send the email, and having made the appointment – to walk through the door and meet a complete stranger. So, I offer a 30 minute chat where you can get to know me, and ask any questions you may have.
All I would say is that if you don’t take that step, nothing will change. So why not take yor courage in both hands and do something about it.
I offer both daytime and evening appointments, either face to face, telephone or through Zoom,so why not contact me for a FREE Discovery call to see if we are a good fit.
Visit my website to learn more about me and find some helpful articles - https://www.wendycapewell.co.uk/
PODCAST - Love ~Listen ~Talk ~Repeat
I host a regular podcast , where I talk with invited guests on various subjects relating to the relationship with ourselves and with others.
Author of 'From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship' - available on Amazon.co.uk -http://amzn.to/2qexSvm
Training, qualifications & experience
- Certificate in Couple Counselling
- Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling & Therapy,
- Certificate in Counselling Skills
- Certificate 101 Transactional Analysis
- Member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (Accredited)
- Diploma in Hypnotherapy
- Mindfulness for Wellbeing and Peak Performance - Monash University (online course
Author of ' From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship'
I have undertaken further training in the following areas:
- Bereavement and Loss
- Introduction to Couple Interaction - (Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships)
- Drug and Alcohol dependancy
- Immediate Effects of Sexualised Trauma
- Male rape
- Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorder
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Self Harm
- Sexual abuse
- Low self esteem
- Relationship Counselling
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Please contact me to discuss.
Concessions offered for
I offer day time and evening appointments, face to face or via Skype
Why not call me for an informal chat, I look forward to hearing from you,