Mary Lim (MNCS Accred, Reg. MBACP) Person-Centred Counsellor and Psychotherapist
During the current situation of social distancing measures due to coronavirus, I am offering both online counselling (via VSee, or doxy.me) and telephone counselling sessions.
I'm an experienced person-centred counsellor and psychotherapist, and I work with individuals over the age of 16.
I work with both men and women.
I work with a wide range of issues, but I'm particularly good at working with:
Difficult family relationships:
- Have you had a falling out or disagreement in the family?
- Are you having difficulties in your relationship with your partner?
- Did/do you have a difficult relationship with your parents? Is this affecting your relationships now?
- Do you hate your job?
- Are you burnt out?
- Do you want to change direction but don't know how to or where to go?
- Are you worried about your children?
- Do you have post-natal depression (women or men)?
- Are you having a difficult and stressful pregnancy?
- Are you finding it hard to cope after someone has died?
- Do you feel like your grief is "blocked"?
- Has someone you know committed suicide?
What I do:
I will provide a confidential space for you, in a safe and welcoming environment, in which we will talk together about what's bothering you. We'll go at your pace, in your time. I will help you to unpick and to work out how you really feel about things, as well as the possible reasons behind it.
I will ask the questions that nobody else is asking, and I will be honest with you throughout. This can lead to new thoughts and ideas, and new ways of looking at things. Sometimes, these new thoughts and ideas can make everything suddenly click into place.
Together, we'll work out what's going on. Together, we'll find ways in which you can move forwards, in a way that makes sense to you.
I listen to you, and when I do, I use all of my skills to try and understand how things feel for you. People say that I'm easy to talk to.
I'm curious. I ask questions, I want to know more, and I want to really understand how things feel. This can lead to a greater understanding for both of us.
I don't have all the answers. You play an active role in counselling, as you're the individual we're learning about. No two people are the same, and it's what is true for you that matters. We will find the answers together, if there are answers to be found.
I speak plainly. I try to translate any relevant theory into plain English. I swear at times, and don't mind in the slightest if you do.
I'm honest. I will always tell you the truth.
I won't judge you, no matter what issue you bring to counselling.
It can be daunting to make an appointment to go and speak to a complete stranger about things that really hurt, or that you're ashamed of, so I will also tell you a bit about me as a human being:
I'm a mum, and I've got two young children.
I used to be a doctor, and I left medicine when I got pretty burnt out. I worked out that the bit of being a doctor that I enjoyed the most was listening to people, hearing their stories, and trying to work out what was going on.
I also had counselling myself at the time, which was pretty amazing. Suddenly, someone was interested in me, and cared about me, what I did and how I felt.
This, along with the process of understanding more about people, which I find frankly fascinating, is what made me retrain as a counsellor. I love what I do, and I feel privileged that my clients let me into their worlds each day in the therapy room.
If I'm not counselling, I'm usually running around after my children. I'm a big believer in the healing power of exercise and being out in nature, so whenever possible I can be found in a forest, or up a hill somewhere.
If you want to learn a bit more about me, and how I work, then please visit my website, marylim.co.uk, call me on 07473 459100, or email me using the button below. I will aim to get back to you within 24 hours (excluding weekends or bank holidays) or the next working day.
If there is a good time for me to contact you, then please let me know in your message.
I will offer to meet with you for an assessment session, where we go through some paperwork, talk about what you want to get out of counselling, and start to talk about what's been going on and how you're feeling.
If, after this, you feel you would like to continue counselling with me (and we both agree about this), then we will arrange further sessions. If not, there's absolutely no obligation to continue.
Where am I?
I work at The Wishing Well, in Bromsgrove Town Centre. I chose The Wishing Well because it's centrally located, you can either drive there or get there by public transport, but mostly because there's a staffed reception area, and somewhere for you to wait for your session if you arrive early.
There's also a cafe, with excellent coffee and cakes. It's friendly, and welcoming, and most of all, it's safe. You don't have to go to someone's house that you don't know.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Person-Centred Counselling and Psychotherapy. 1st Class.
University of Warwick.
FdA Person-Centred Counselling and Psychotherapy.
University of Warwick.
Training and Selected CPD
Moving Your Practice Online: Online Therapy Institute
Level 1 Certificate: Person-Centred Expressive Arts Therapy.
Applications of the Person-Centred Expressive Arts Therapy Model to One-to-One Counselling.
Animal-Assisted Therapy in Counselling.
"The Systems Effect": Systemic Therapy-Family Therapy.
As a Registered Member of the BACP, and an accredited member of the NCS, I undertake at least 30 hours of continuing professional development each year. Please ask if you would like further details.
Alongside my private practice, I have most recently worked as a counsellor in two primary schools in Coventry. Prior to this, I worked at a general counselling agency, seeing a wide range of clients and dealing with problems from addictions to affairs to eating disorders to bereavements. I have also spent 3 years working as a counsellor at a bereavement support agency.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
National Counselling Society
The National Counselling Society
This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations.
In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
50-minute online or telephone counselling session: £45
Payment is required 24 hours prior to the session for online and telephone counselling sessions.
50-minute counselling session at The Wishing Well: £45
90-minute counselling session at The Wishing Well: £70
2-hour counselling session at The Wishing Well: £90
50-minute home visit, within a 10-mile radius of The Wishing Well: £60
I take payment on the day, via card (I have my own card machine), cash or cheque.
I am an accredited member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I work in accordance with their Ethical Frameworks for Good Practice.
My practice is monitored by a fully-qualified clinical supervisor.
I hold an enhanced DBS certificate (previously known as Criminal Records Bureau - CRB)
I am registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO).