Chris Gaylon

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AP Addiction Professional MBACP Counselling Psychotherapist
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Surbiton KT6
Available for new clients
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This professional is available for new clients.

About me


Overwhelmed or struggling to cope with anxiety or worry around relationship difficulties or work stress? I can help. I have spent more than 13 years working with people and carers when their lives have become unmanageable.

We are all relational people

Life is about relationships and how we make sense of them – primarily ourselves and others (either at home or work), or with our past, current, and future experiences. Relationships can be nurturing and rewarding...


Sometimes life events, such as betrayal/affairs- separation and divorce, workplace stress/ job loss or bereavement can be difficult to successfully handle alone. We may disconnect from ourselves or others to avoid facing a situation or turn to alcohol and other forms of addictive behaviours when we feel hurt and wounded or betrayed in our relationships.

Your most important relationship is with yourself . It sets the tone for ever relationship you have.

So how do you feel about it ?

I am an experienced integrative counselling psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach. I can work with you to help find a nurturing way through.

You are not alone.

How can I help?

I work face-to-face with adults, like you, who are ready to embrace change in their lives, or who are currently experiencing anxiety or worry or feeling down with life’s challenges.

I offer sessions online, by phone and in person to safely support people.

I focus on the practicalities and the emotional side of behaviours in all aspects of emotional relating, interpersonal awareness and effectiveness beginning with knowledge of oneself.

How I work

My key purpose is to facilitate, encourage and support your self-examination and self-reflection within The Caring Conditions. This often allows individuals to  safely explore and understand how past events and relationships can influence their current feelings and behaviours.

Your choice and the counselling process

If you choose to work with me, our weekly sessions will be held in a safe and confidential place. The Caring Conditions means you will be empathetically heard and understood, and I will support you in gaining new perspectives, greater insight, and self-awareness. You will then have a greater understanding of the way you connect in relationships.

At your pace, and by trusting the process, we can explore any unresolved conflicts or previous traumas and their consequences. I encourage the genuine expression and validation of painful feelings which you might have unsuccessfully been trying to solve, ignore or avoid through destructive behaviours for some time. Together we can create a space for growth, assisting you to make new and positive nourishing choices and giving you back greater control of daily life.

As an integrative psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach, I draw on several different therapeutic approaches, finding the best combination which works for you.

What to expect from our first meeting

The decision to start counselling is an important one and requires your commitment and consistency. Our first session is a time to ask any questions and an opportunity to talk openly about what brings you to therapy. It is also an opportunity to see if working with me will be helpful and how we can work together. During this session, I will clarify practicalities such as the time of sessions and fees.

Training, qualifications & experience

My qualifications

·         BTEC Professional Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling

·         NCFE Level 3 Award in Counselling Skills and Theory

·         BTEC HNC Graphic Design

·         NCFE Diploma in Sports Psychology

·         B Ed (Hons)

Additional training

.        Working with Anxiety and Depression in the Counselling Relationship

·         Management of Stimulants / Club Drugs among LGBT+ Community

·         New Psychoactive Substances Training and Medical Cannabis

·         Abuse, Trauma, and Attachment 

·         Couples Therapy

·         Mindfulness Training

·         Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD (PODS)

·         Motivational Interviewing Training

·         Post Traumatic Growth and Addiction

·         Alcohol Concern Family Training

·         Working with Clients with Co-morbid Substance Misuse and Mental Health Issues

·         Sex Addiction and Couples

·         12 Steps and Sex/Love Addiction

·         Understanding Co-dependency and Pro-dependency

·         Understanding and Recognising Sex Addiction, Working with Sex Addiction, Training in Trauma, Sex and Love Addiction

·         Understanding the Assessment, Treatment, and Diagnosis of Sex Addiction (Hypersexual Disorders) in the Digital Age

·         Cruise Control: The Assessment and Treatment of Gay Male Sex Addicts

.         ASD (Autism), ADHD, AuDHD Neurodiversity and Addiction

.       Working and understanding Neurotypical and Neurodiverse Relationships and Partnerships 

My experience

In addition to my private practice, I have previously volunteered for the Addiction Support and Care Agency (ASCA) Counselling Service, Kingston, for those suffering from alcoholism, substance misuse, and behavioural addictions, and people who are caring for, or coming to terms with, somebody else's drug or alcohol abuse. I have also worked with people attending Catalyst Drug & Alcohol Services.I have experience of counselling clients who are following The Sinclair Method (TMS).

I have previously worked as a 1-2-1 wellness coach at a Elmbridge mental health charity, Wellness with a Goal (WWAG), which bases its services on six pillars of well‑being: people, movement, mindfulness, giving, learning, and flow.

I have worked with people around issues such as:

·         Anxiety and depression

·         Job loss, stress/ burnout , redundancy and life transitions 

·         Relationship issues, including many forms of abuse and domestic violence, betrayal/affairs, separation, and divorce

·         Being a carer, partner or family member effected by loved ones behaviour 

Member of the BACP and Addiction Professionals (AP) 

I am a registered member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and the Addiction Professionals (AP) . I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework and the AP Code of Practice. I receive regular supervision .

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I work with people and carers affected by others substance misuse and behavioural and cognitive addictions including; Adult Children of Alcoholics/ Partners of Addicts and family /friends.

Some people I see have a diagnosis of ADHD/ ASD/AuHD or describe themselves as neurodivergent.


£70.00 per session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

Short-term and long-term therapy and coaching is available

Sessions take 50 minutes and are charged as follows:

  •       Individuals £70
  •       Couples £90

I require at least 48 hours’ notice should you need to cancel an appointment.

I offer a limited number of concessionary sessions at a reduced daytime rate of £45 for those on low income or students.

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

Monday - Friday Daytime and Evenings appointments (last appointment 9 pm)

Further information

I practice mindfulness with people to manage their thoughts, feelings and mental health.

Please leave your name and preferred time for me to call you back if I am unavailable to take your call.

I practice from two locations in Surbiton. One of which is 5 minutes from Surbiton Station.

Surbiton, Surrey, KT6

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)

Online platforms

Google Meet
Chris Gaylon
Chris Gaylon