Chris Gaylon

Welcome

Overwhelmed or struggling to cope with anxiety or worry around relationship difficulties or work stress? I can help. I have spent more than 13 years working with people and carers when their lives have become unmanageable.

We are all relational people

Life is about relationships and how we make sense of them – primarily ourselves and others (either at home or work), or with our past, current, and future experiences. Relationships can be nurturing and rewarding...

But

Sometimes life events, such as betrayal/affairs- separation and divorce, workplace stress/ job loss or bereavement can be difficult to successfully handle alone. We may disconnect from ourselves or others to avoid facing a situation or turn to alcohol and other forms of addictive behaviours when we feel hurt and wounded or betrayed in our relationships.

Your most important relationship is with yourself . It sets the tone for ever relationship you have.

So how do you feel about it ?

I am an experienced integrative counselling psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach. I can work with you to help find a nurturing way through.

You are not alone.

How can I help?

I work face-to-face with adults, like you, who are ready to embrace change in their lives, or who are currently experiencing anxiety or worry or feeling down with life’s challenges.

I offer sessions online, by phone and in person to safely support people.

I focus on the practicalities and the emotional side of behaviours in all aspects of emotional relating, interpersonal awareness and effectiveness beginning with knowledge of oneself.

How I work

My key purpose is to facilitate, encourage and support your self-examination and self-reflection within The Caring Conditions. This often allows individuals to  safely explore and understand how past events and relationships can influence their current feelings and behaviours.

Your choice and the counselling process

If you choose to work with me, our weekly sessions will be held in a safe and confidential place. The Caring Conditions means you will be empathetically heard and understood, and I will support you in gaining new perspectives, greater insight, and self-awareness. You will then have a greater understanding of the way you connect in relationships.

At your pace, and by trusting the process, we can explore any unresolved conflicts or previous traumas and their consequences. I encourage the genuine expression and validation of painful feelings which you might have unsuccessfully been trying to solve, ignore or avoid through destructive behaviours for some time. Together we can create a space for growth, assisting you to make new and positive nourishing choices and giving you back greater control of daily life.

As an integrative psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach, I draw on several different therapeutic approaches, finding the best combination which works for you.

What to expect from our first meeting

The decision to start counselling is an important one and requires your commitment and consistency. Our first session is a time to ask any questions and an opportunity to talk openly about what brings you to therapy. It is also an opportunity to see if working with me will be helpful and how we can work together. During this session, I will clarify practicalities such as the time of sessions and fees.

I work with people and carers affected by others substance misuse and behavioural and cognitive addictions including; Adult Children of Alcoholics/ Partners of Addicts and family /friends.

Some people I see have a diagnosis of ADHD/ ASD/AuHD or describe themselves as neurodivergent.

Short-term and long-term therapy and coaching is available

Sessions take 50 minutes and are charged as follows:

•       Individuals £70
•       Couples £90

I require at least 48 hours’ notice should you need to cancel an appointment.

I offer a limited number of concessionary sessions at a reduced daytime rate of £45 for those on low income or students.

I practice mindfulness with people to manage their thoughts, feelings and mental health.

Please leave your name and preferred time for me to call you back if I am unavailable to take your call.

I practice from two locations in Surbiton. One of which is 5 minutes from Surbiton Station.