About me


Overwhelmed or struggling to cope with anxiety or worry around relationship difficulties or work stress? I can help. I have spent more than 10 years working with people and carers when their lives have become unmanageable.

We are all relational people

Life is about relationships – with ourselves and others (either at home or work), or with our past, current, and future experiences. Relationships can be nurturing and rewarding.


Sometimes life events, such as separation and divorce, workplace stress, or job loss, can be difficult to successfully handle alone. We may disconnect from ourselves or others to avoid a situation or turn to alcohol and other forms of addictive behaviours when we feel hurt and wounded or betrayed in our relationships.

I am an experienced integrative counselling psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach. I can work with you to help find a nurturing way through.

How can I help?

I work face-to-face with adults, like you, who are ready to embrace change in their lives, or who are currently experiencing anxiety or worry with life’s challenges.

I am presently offering sessions online and by phone to safely support clients through this troubling time.

I focus on the practicalities and the emotional side of behaviours in all aspects of relating.

How I work

My key purpose is to facilitate, encourage and support your self-examination and self-reflection within The Caring Conditions. This often allows individuals to  safely explore and understand how past events and relationships can influence their current feelings and behaviours.

Your choice and the counselling process

If you choose to work with me, our weekly sessions will be held in a safe and confidential place. The Caring Conditions means you will be empathetically heard and understood, and I will support you in gaining new perspectives, greater insight, and self-awareness. You will then have a greater understanding of the way you connect in relationships.

At your pace, and by trusting the process, we can explore any unresolved conflicts or previous traumas and their consequences. I encourage the genuine expression and validation of painful feelings which you might have unsuccessfully been trying to solve, ignore or avoid through destructive behaviours for some time. Together we can create a space for growth, assisting you to make new and positive nourishing choices and giving you back greater control of daily life.

As an integrative psychotherapist and relationship well‑being coach, I draw on several different therapeutic approaches, finding the best combination which works for you.

What to expect from our first meeting

The decision to start counselling is an important one and requires your commitment and consistency. Our first session is a time to ask any questions and an opportunity to talk openly about what brings you to therapy. It is also an opportunity to see if working with me will be helpful and how we can work together. During this session, I will clarify practicalities such as the time of sessions and fees.

Training, qualifications & experience

My qualifications

·         BTEC Professional Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling

·         NCFE Level 3 Award in Counselling Skills and Theory

·         BTEC HNC Graphic Design

·         NCFE Diploma in Sports Psychology

·         B Ed (Hons)

Additional training

.        Working with Anxiety in the Counselling Relationship

·         Management of Stimulants / Club Drugs among LGBT+ Community

·         New Psychoactive Substances Training and Medical Cannabis

·         Abuse, Trauma, and Attachment

·         Couples Therapy

·         Mindfulness  and Training

·         Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD (PODS)

·         Motivational Interviewing Training

·         Post Traumatic Growth and Addiction

·         Alcohol Concern Family Training

·         Working with Clients with Co-morbid Substance Misuse and Mental Health Issues

·         Sex Addiction and Couples

·         12 Steps and Sex Addiction

·         Understanding Co-dependency

·         Understanding and Recognising Sex Addiction, Working with Sex Addiction, Training in Trauma, Sex and Love Addiction

·         Understanding the Assessment, Treatment, and Diagnosis of Sex Addiction (Hypersexual Disorders) in the Digital Age

·         Cruise Control: The Assessment and Treatment of Gay Male Sex Addicts

My experience

In addition to my private practice, I have previously volunteered for the Addiction Support and Care Agency (ASCA) Counselling Service, Kingston, for those suffering from alcoholism, substance misuse, and behavioural addictions, and people who are caring for, or coming to terms with, somebody else's drug or alcohol abuse. I have also worked with people attending Catalyst Drug & Alcohol Services.I have experience of counselling clients who are following The Sinclair Method (TMS).

I have previously worked as a 1-2-1 wellness coach at a Elmbridge mental health charity, Wellness with a Goal (WWAG), which bases its services on six pillars of well‑being: people, movement, mindfulness, giving, learning, and flow.

I have worked with people around issues such as:

·         Anxiety and depression

·         Job loss, stress, and redundancy

·         Relationship issues, including many forms of abuse and domestic violence, separation, and divorce

·         Being a carer

Member of the BACP and FDAP

I am a registered member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and the Federation of Drug and Alcohol Practitioners (FDAP). I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework and the FDAP Code of Practice. I receive regular supervision .

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I also work with people and carers affected by others substance misuse and behavioural addictions including; Adult Children of Alcoholics and Partners of Addicts.


Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

Short-term and long-term therapy and coaching is available

Sessions take 50 minutes and are charged as follows:

  •       Individuals £60
  •       Couples £80

I require at least 48 hours’ notice should you need to cancel an appointment.

I offer a limited number of concessionary sessions at a reduced daytime rate of £45 for those on low income or students.


Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

Monday - Friday Daytime and Evenings appointments ( last appointment 9 pm)

Further information

I practice mindfulness with people to manage their thoughts, feelings and mental health.

Please leave your name and preferred time for me to call you back if I am unavailable to take your call.

I practice from two locations in Surbiton. One of which is 5 minutes from Surbiton Station.



Type of session

In person

Types of client

Older adults

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Chris Gaylon

Chris Gaylon