Over my working life as a Counsellor I have come to the conclusion that the most important part of what is called the Therapeutic Relationship is just that – the Relationship between me as the Counsellor and you as the Client.
I see my role as a Counsellor as mostly about being your Cheerleader. Ok so on occasion I might ask you some tough questions; I might ask you to ponder some challenging thoughts; I might ask you if you feel ready to go deeper but I am never going to dictate to you where you should go or what you should do but I will endeavour to be alongside you every step forward and every step backwards. My hope is to provide you with a secure base from which you can explore your world and build your own secure base.
I am a BACP Registered Counsellor and although I trained in what is called Person Centred Counselling my work with Addictions, Substance Abuse, Trauma and Bereavement has required me to train in and integrate aspects of a number of other Therapy styles into my work.
What is Counselling
Counselling isn’t just about major life issues. Sometimes we just need someone to listen for a while; sometimes we just need to get something off our chest; sometimes we need to tell someone something we can’t say to those who are closest too us. Perhaps one session with a Counsellor will do, perhaps many more, perhaps you will find that Counselling isn’t right for your situation. Counsellors are not the answer to everything; we are not a magic wand. Perhaps we should be called Well Being Facilitators.
My desire is to sit with you, to listen to you as you explore your inner world. To reflect back to you what I am hearing of your inner world, so that you can better understand what it is that is driving your daily experience. Understanding brings choice and choice facilitates change.
About Being Human
I believe that we are complex, creative beings both fearfully and wonderfully made and that in essence we are primarily relational beings. How we have learnt to do relationships and how we have experienced relationships lead to our prime motivators; passion and pain, the stormy seas of our inner world. Relationships build us up and bring us down as we run back and forth through the whole realm of relationship building.
How we experience others and how they experience us can become the driving force behind how we experience ourselves. How we relate to ourselves and how we relate to others co-exist like bone and marrow.
If it is relationship that causes our inner turmoil, then it is relationship which can ease that turmoil. That is the core of the therapeutic relationship. My aim is to help you build a relationally secure base from which you can explore, change and develop your inner world.
The past cannot be changed, what can be changed is our connection to the past and when we change the connection to the past we can change its control of the present. Difficulties may arise because some of our connections might be unknown to us. Disconnecting from traumatic and painful events and/or their emotional content is a basic failsafe that we use to survive the event. Whilst our pain may be blocked and hidden away and the emotions denied, each is still present in the stormy sea of our inner worldview.
The thing that we most need is possibly the thing of which we are most terrified – emotional connection with another human being and emotional connection with self. Have you ever tried forgiving someone? Have you ever tried forgiving yourself?
Counselling can provide the framework to build a new view of the world and our relationship with it, by providing a secure base to explore how to rebuild the broken and reassemble the shattered aspects of who we are.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have been working as a BACP registered counsellor for five years. Prior to this, I volunteered for ten years in an organisation that provides teaching and counselling on inner healing. Most of my professional work has been in the area of Addiction and Trauma. I am also experienced in counselling for issues around Bereavement, Depression, Anxiety, Stress, Relationships.
- Registered Member of the BACP (Qualified February 2014)
- Membership Number 736249 – Registered Member 099094
- CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling.
- CPCAB Level 2 and Level 3 Qualifications in Counselling Skills, Counselling Theory.
- CPCAB Level 2 Understanding Substance Misuse.
- NOCN Level 3 Certificate in Tackling Substance Misuse
Training/CPD since February 2014:
Adult Safeguarding, Autism Awareness, Motivational Interviewing, Motivational Enhancement Therapy, Risk Management, Developing and Maintaining Professional Boundaries, Assist Trained, Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder, Domestic Violence, Attachment Therapy, Gambling Addiction, 5 Step Model, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Working with Children and Young People.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
All sessions are one hour in length
The first session will be a Free Assessment
Face to Face Session Fee is £35
Online and Telephone sessions are £35
Home Visit sessions are £45
Please note that whilst I am happy to do counselling sessions in your own home, I do have a mileage limit. I am located a few miles from Yeovil in sunny Somerset. It may be that Online sessions might be more helpful in certain circumstances but I would always look to promote Face to Face sessions. Please feel free to call me to discuss the merits of the different options.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I am currently available Fridays from 9.30am until 9pm, Saturdays from 09.30am until 6pm, Monday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings from 6pm to 9pm
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|