Gillian Stanyard -Psychotherapist. Due to COVID-19,online and phone only
"We are not broken, we are just unfinished." D Markova
This being human can be both exciting and painful. Feeling stuck or frozen in our life can make it hard to make decisions and to see a different perspective. At times we all need another person to help us see that change can happen and to help us to 'thaw out.' Often this is not easy yet highly possible. It requires commitment, time, learning to trust, compassion, understanding and patience. Developing awareness is one element and recognising choice, as well as developing new skills and experimenting with new behaviours are others. What can really help at times is being heard and empowered to find the words to describe what is important to you and what hurts.
I am a registered Psychotherapist. A Psychotherapist is a clinically trained specialist counsellor, who uses an integrative approach to help people to heal. I am here to accompany you on the unique journey into the world of being you.Things may have happened in your life that have come as a shock, feel unfair or make no sense. You may struggle with low self esteem or lack of confidence and find yourself worrying a lot about the future. Maybe you have overwhelming feelings such as grief, sadness or anger. You might be anxious with a sense of feeling unable to trust and feeling unsafe or unwelcome in the world. My role is to provide you with a confidential and safe space, where you feel understood and accepted. I will travel alongside you and help you to deepen your sense of self-understanding.
Psychotherapy can help with a number of life's stresses and conflicts that can affect anyone. For example, it may help you:
Resolve conflicts with your partner or someone else in your life
Relieve anxiety, sadness or stress due to work or other situations
Cope with major life changes, such as divorce, the death of a loved person or animal or the loss of a job
Learn to manage unhealthy reactions,such as road rage or passive-aggressive behavior and overwhelm.
Come to terms with an ongoing or serious physical health problem, such as diabetes, cancer or long-term (chronic) pain
Recover and heal from physical, sexual or emotional abuse or witnessing violence
Cope with sexual problems, whether they're due to a physical or psychological cause
Sleep better, if you have trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep
Often the first step to any kind of change or healing is acknowledging that you need help.Through engaging in therapy, you will gain an awareness of your emotions, behaviours and responses and improve your self-awareness and personal responsibility. This can lead to a new connection with yourself and others that feels nurturing, respectful and positive. I offer an integrated form of therapy which enables you to
become more aware of how your negative thought patterns and behaviors are blocking your true self-awareness and empower you to be able to start living with more clarity and certainty.
Good and effective therapy comes from within a safe, trusting, empathic and truthful relationship. This is what I bring to you as a therapist, as well as a high level of psychotherapeutic training and experience. In exchange for your courageous request for help, I give you an authentic invitation to safely explore unfamiliar and unchartered emotional territory, in the hope that useful new solutions for action will emerge. Always remember, you are the expert on your life experiences.
Psychotherapy can help when life feels unbearably difficult. It can also make a decent life even better. We will work collaboratively so you feel empowered to bring about changes to increase your wellbeing and enjoyment of life.
I hold Psychotherapy sessions in confidential and private locations in Castle Douglas, Dumfries and Glasgow
Text or Email me for an appointment
Training, qualifications & experience
I trained for six years in Advanced Psychotherapeutic Counselling and became an Integrative Psychotherapist .I studied CBT, Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy and Gestalt therapy. As part of my course, I spent two years working in clinical placement, treating patients in a NHS Psychology Department. Before, I trained and worked for three years as a Course Facilitator at a specialist residential centre, facilitating growth and change in adults, through Constellation and Field theory. The process held a particular focus on the development of healthy boundaries and assertive, values-based communication.
I am qualified in Stress Management and am a registered Medical Leadership with the Faculty of Leadership and Management.
I have undertaken Internal Family Systems Training and Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM) training in working compassionately and efffectively with trauma. I hold specialist training in the spiritual and neurobiological aspects of cultivating attachment to self, when trauma has disturbed this. I hold a specialist interest in recovery from trauma and how we create the necessary elements for healing. From the ability to survive to how we thrive.'
I am a trained facilitator of Vision Quests, a powerful and challenging form of rite of passage work. I completed my training with the School of Lost Borders in the USA.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Estrangement from family
I usually charge £65 per session.
For the first session, which can last up to 1.5 hours, I request that payment is made before our session commences. This can be done via bank transfer.We can arrange all of this when contracting to work together. If we contract to work for 1.5 hours or longer, the fee will be £75 or more, pending on session length. We can talk this through.
I am committed to meeting you where you need to be met. Life can sometimes feel painful, confusing and frightening. Anxiety and negative thoughts can make even the smallest decision feel a struggle. Therapy can aid a process of how you and I meet all the different parts of you and enable healing to take place. Life can start to feel good and friendly.
I also offer phone/skype/online coaching in the areas of building self-esteem, confidence and dealing with difficult relationships. I specialise in Leadership coaching and Assertivity.
I look forward to hearing from you.