Frances Lazarus

How are you feeling today?  I imagine that if you are reading this you may have come to a place where you feel you might need some help, either for yourself or for you and your partner.  If you would like to talk to somebody, I am here for you.  I genuinely feel that the relationships we have are the root to how well we manage and cope on a day to day basis.  It all leads back to that, whether the struggle is depression, anxiety, loneliness or loss.  We are all born with the resources to carry us through the trials and tribulations of life, our experiences from our earliest days can see those resources become entangled, confused and depleted which can lead to less helpful patterns of behaviour, serving us poorly in our relationships in our adult lives. 

The threads of this entanglement can weave their way through all aspects of your life and work, your relationships with family, friends and loved ones. I believe that the unique bond that will be created between us can provide a reflective space for you to find and trust yourself.  Through our work together you will come to realise what enriches you allowing the start of your journey to reach a place where you are in charge of your life and your decisions.  If you are feeling overwhelmed, sad or anxious, allow me to walk alongside you, no matter the terrain, to reach a destination where you are better able to cope with life, feel happier and calmer.  If you are struggling with loss and grief I will provide the time and space for you to process all those emotions that can weigh so heavily, regardless of the nature of the loss or how long ago it may have been. 

We can also explore in an atmosphere of acceptance and without judgement, issues that may bring feelings of guilt and shame, thereby reducing the toxicity of both those often difficult and sometimes unhelpful emotions.

I offer a warm, welcoming room that provides a confidential space in the centre of Hampton.  I believe in the benefits of a long term therapeutic relationship, our first assessment session will provide an opportunity for us to get to know each other, decide how we are going to work and for you to ask me any questions you may have about the therapy I offer.  I can also provide shorter term therapy, over eight or twelve weeks depending on your requirements and where the need is more pressing.  The weekly sessions last fifty minutes for individuals and one hour for couples.

As well as working with individuals I also offer Couple's Therapy.  If you and your partner are struggling with relationship issues it can be helpful to speak to a therapist to sort out what might have happened and how you might have drifted away from the close, loving relationship you remember from when you first met.  Emotional distance from those that you love can create uncomfortable feelings of abandonment or unlovability which can then lead to further feelings of fear, anger or depression, the more isolated you might start to feel, the more you might draw apart to protect yourself.

As your therapist, I would be able to take an unbiased 'outside view' of what might be happening for both of you.  Together we can look at issues such as poor communication, low sexual intimacy, affairs, jealousy and insecurity by gently exploring patterns of behaviour that may be familiar from previous relatiobships or even childhood and your own parents relationships.  We can look at ways to change the shape of those patterns to lead you both into a happier, closer and more satisfying relationship and co-create a new scaffolding on which to build a stronger and more resilient relationship.

If you think you would like, or need some support, please dont hesitate to get in touch.  We can have a preliminary 20-30 minute zoom or telephone call to see if you would like to work with me and if I feel I can be of assistance to you.

"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." Carl Jung

I charge £60 for a 50 minute session with individuals and £100 for a couples session of 60 minutes.  I am able to operate a sliding scale for those on a low income and students, by negotiation, where needed.

I offer an initial phone call or zoom session, usually about 10-15 minutes, without charge, where we can discuss your needs and how I might help, we can then arrange a time for the first session.  Free on-road parking is available at my premises and there is usally plenty of space in the surrounding roads. I am a five minute walk from a mainline station with links to London, Richmond and the surrounding area. and a 5-10 minute walk from three bus routes; R70,  111 and the 216.  The R68 and 285 are also accessible.  I offer weekly sessions as I feel this is the most effective way to maintain momentum within the work.