Alice Stanley ONLINE, MBACP Dip.CPCAB
Hello and welcome here. I'm Here To Help
If you are looking for help, for yourself or someone else, to better understand or cope with a difficult life situation or experience, you are in the right place.
At times, life can be tough and tricky and bring us more or less serious challenges. Just when we thought we worked something out, whether regarding relationships, job, family, financial situation, health or any other issue, we find ourselves in a spot when we feel that there is more to “sort out.” Those challenges can feel overwhelming and it can be difficult or not much of help to talk to family and friends about your struggles.
There might be situations in life when you’re struggling to make sense of things, when e.g. a relationship may have ended, during transitions when we changed job or experienced redundancy, when we are coping with the bereavement, when someone became a parent or maybe left home for the first time, when there was a negative health diagnosis, or maybe we have lost our identity, our trust or our hope.
You might feel something like the following: - depressed; not knowing how to make you feel better - lost & confused; not knowing which way to turn
- anxious, stressed and life feels overwhelming
- never feel ‘good enough,' unworthy - trapped, afraid & misunderstood
- low, tearful, with no motivation
- lonely and / or not heard, sad
Counselling can be one of the ways to help and support people during such moments and times. Counselling gives you the chance to tell your story, without needing to hold back. When we feel safe, supported and heard, we can reach a place of greater self-understanding and feel empowered.
We then can become more confident in making better, more informed choices in our lives. Anyone can benefit from the opportunity to take some time-out and explore their thoughts and feelings, discover greater confidence and feelings of peace and content they perhaps once knew or hoped for.
As a qualified counsellor, I am here to offer you a space to listen, understand, explore and work with your feelings and emotions, accepting you as you are, away from expectations or judgment. I can provide a listening ear and support, helping you to reach a place of greater peace and a way to move forward in life.
At present, I work solely via online counselling as many people find it most practical in nowadays busy lives. I usually have sessions with my clients via Zoom or Skype, or other video calls. Some might be sceptical at first about doing therapy online, nevertheless, research of the last decade has consistently come to the conclusion that it is equally effective as face-to-face therapy. How does it work? We connect through a safe wifi connection and video calls (Skype, Zoom or other apps), which allows easy access and continuity in therapy. Online counselling is also particularly helpful nowadays when there are various health concerns and social distancing is encouraged.
When online counselling first started several years ago, it was especially convenient for those who lived a busy life and found it hard to commit to weekly sessions (whether this is due to work commitments or raising up family), for those who frequently travelled abroad, those who were from some reason house bound or with limited mobility, or for those who lived in a different country but would still like to be able to receive therapy in their own mother tongue. However, because of its convenience and high approachability from anywhere, the online counselling is quickly becoming a very popular way of therapy for everyone.
Last 4 years I have been living with my family in Loughton but as I practise mainly ONLINE counselling, the location doesn't matter.
I will help you explore your feelings and emotions and support you in getting to the root of the problem and finding your own solutions; sometimes it can be a case of looking at something from a different perspective.
My counselling sessions can help you with e.g. the following (although there is so much more):
Greater sense of self-worth and self-awareness
Increased confidence and self-esteem
Feeling calmer and more relaxed
Better communication skills
More intimate and satisfying relationships
Develop healthier patterns of relating to others
I am fully insured, have ongoing clinical supervision and regularly attend courses and further training to enhance my knowledge and professionalism with Continued Professional Development (CPD).
I work mainly with person-centred approach in a warm, safe, confidential and non-judgemental manner. My approach is very personal and every counselling therapy is tailored according to the needs of the client. When I find it helpful, I at times use tools from other modalities of counselling. As to the speed, we can move in the pace that is just comfortable for you and discuss only things you want to bring up in the sessions, there is no push at all. By us working together, I would like to support you to find more understanding and meaning in your life, to help you move forward with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully. I believe that each person has the ability to take responsibility for themselves and to change and grow towards their own, full potential. I am privileged to be a facilitator of such growth, which is, for me, fascinating to watch.
How I deliver therapy
Long-term or short-term online counselling (via Zoom, WhatsApp or Skype), Telephone counselling, and could possibly agree on some limited, irregular face-to-face sessions if wanted.
Most of my experience consists of working with the adults, in different settings. Previously working in the agency, I have my own practise now and through the years I worked with all kinds of issues, as listed below, always supporting and promoting higher confidence and good mental health and well being, and generally happier way of life. I also worked at schools with children and young people of all ages from diverse cultural backgrounds, working through their relational, teenage issues and anxieties relating to difficult family circumstances or exam stress. I have been DBS checked as a school counsellor.
Areas of counselling the adults I am particularly experienced in:
•Stress (work related or other), and Anxiety
•Redundancy, Career and life choices
•Addiction or Eating disorders
•Panic attacks and OCD
•Bereavement & loss
•Depression and Feeling sad & low
•Family concerns and Relationship issues
I carry out various CPD training courses (CPD – Continued Professional Development) on a regular basis to keep my skills and knowledge up to date.
HOW IT WORKS?
HOW DO I MAKE MY FIRST APPOINTMENT?
You can contact me by phone, email or by using the contact form on the next page. I will usually respond within 24 hours to book your first appointment.
HOW MANY SESSIONS WILL I NEED?
The number of sessions varies enormously and depends on the issues you bring, and on your needs and wants. We will discuss this at your first session.
After an initial contact by email or phone, we will arrange an online appointment, through the agreed media, usually within a week. Prior to the appointment, I will send you a short assessment form, to learn more facts about you. Alternatively, we can fill in this form in our first session.
LENGTH OF COUNSELLING
As to the length of your counselling therapy, we may initially contract to meet for 8 weeks to see how that works out. As we move towards the end of our sessions, you may decide whether this was sufficient to you or you want to continue. The sessions can be agreed on an open-ended basis. We can always review and discuss this issue later.
The first session is an opportunity to meet online where we can get to know each other a bit more. It will be a space where you can talk about what brings you to counselling and ask questions you may have about the therapy process. You can then decide whether you want to work together and continue with further sessions, although you may want to think it over for a few days.
Once the decision is made to continue, we will establish a ‘contract’ that we both feel comfortable with. This will make clear the confidential nature of the sessions, the cancellation policy and establish our commitment to working together in regular weekly sessions.
People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right-hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. Carl Rogers
If you would like to find out more, you can contact me directly via phone or email, and we can book an appointment to discuss things of your concern. I can usually see clients within one or two weeks of their enquiry.
Training, qualifications & experience
- CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
- CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Counselling Children
- BACP Certificate of Proficiency
- MBACP member
What I can help you with - my experience covers:
Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Child related issues, Depression, Eating disorders, Family concerns, Infertility, Loss, Obsessions, OCD, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Pregnancy related issues, Redundancy, Relationships, Self-esteem, Self-harm, Sex-related issues, Stress, Trauma, Women's issues, Work related issues, and more
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Besides my vast experience in helping people with depression, anxiety, feeling low, low self esteem, bereavement etc. I also have long experience with
Asperger's syndrome - these are very helpful sessions for those affected as well as their partners, relatives, carers and close friends
We will discuss this personally before the sessions start.
Generally my fees are £40 - £60 per 50 minute session, depending on the income (can be agreed on 60 minutes)
Concessionary rates can be negotiated for those with low income/unemployed, students, people on retirement etc.
Concessions offered for
My sessions can be extended to 60 minutes, if needed and suitable.