Wendelien McNicoll Registered Member MBACP (Snr. Accred)
Counselling and Supervision
A lot of clients come to me by word of mouth now. This is evidence of a safe and confidential Private Practice where my aim is to 'get you out of the door, and not to keep you in at all cost'.
Having counselling is making an investment into yourself and your future and is in every way less costly than trying to cope with all the symptoms. Counselling ethically, is a huge commitment which I take very seriously and you will feel that commitment from me however long or short our sessions are. I am not an expert, you are, but I am very good at listening in a way that allows deeper rooted beliefs to come to the fore. Sometimes much to your own surprise, you will tell me, "this is not what I came to me for initially".
And it turns out that by looking at these deep rooted beliefs, where somewhere along the line you got stuck, the issues you brought are understood on a level you never experienced before. But you understood it, I didn't tell you this and this is where the power of your change lies.
I am a discreet, experienced, non judgemental and compassionate counsellor, who deeply respects that first difficult step you have taken in seeking counselling. It is such a big step to take and can leave you feeling a bit vulnerable. I get that. We all are.
I counsel a wide range of issues but I have specialised in Palliative (or End of Life) and Bereavement Counselling. Mostly, I see clients at my private practice in Alton, Hampshire. But I can see you at home, in hospital, hospice or nursing home, especially where ill health prevents you from travelling. Flexibility is the key word here for both of us.
I am the co-author of Surviving the Tsunami of Grief, a visual guide to grief. tsunamiofgrief.com
I have lived and worked with people from different nationalities, religions, genders, the Armed Forces and I truly welcome and love diversity.
I am an experienced Supervisor of counsellors and a Group Supervisor, see below.
I am an experienced Skype and Telephone counsellor.
I am a Soul Midwife and use my counselling expertise to help someone who is dying in a more holistic way.
About my counselling and how it can help:
Maybe it would help if I say: "I have witnessed the healing 'Aha' moments and seen awareness come to light of something so deeply hidden. I have been witness to deep hurt, abuse, shame, guilt, sadness and anger. I have been alongside many journeys travelled through ill health, fear of dying, grief and loss. I have sat with clients in complete silence and yet was able to hear them. To be present when changes occur and a burden is lifted after years and years is truly the best feeling for both the client and the counsellor. This is also when you know that the time has come to say goodbye to our work together.
Together we will explore issues you have wanted to talk to someone about but maybe have not had the courage to do so. I respect that courage and I do not judge you or your loved ones.
Not being judged is very powerful and can lead to safe further ex exploration of why something in your life is not working. Maybe it is your wish to understand yourself better or to change something in your life or bring out that which has been deeply hidden.
Sometimes words fail and I may introduce other ways for you to express how you feel or how to say what for you has been “unsay-able”.
I offer General Counselling, Bereavement Counselling; Living-with-Illness Counselling and Palliative Counselling.
Every client is unique and whatever it is you come and see me for, depression, anxiety, relationship trouble, stress, low self-esteem, hidden sexual abuse, there is a reason why you feel the way you do. Together we can find out what that reason is behind the symptoms or issue (s) you bring. Understanding the reason lessens the symptoms. I will help you by addressing the symptoms of course, but the real healing power comes from understanding and accepting your own feelings and thoughts.
However, you may feel slightly taken aback by the intensity of feelings that can arise. This is where a non judgemental counsellor really helps. No client, I think is prepared for when they really "hear" themselves for the first time and this can feel like a relief or a shock. Strong feelings manifest themselves in your body because the body remembers even age old hurt and pain. By me being mindful of these feelings in a careful and compassionate way and bringing them to your awareness, allows you to recognise something that maybe held you back before. And in turn you learn not to judge yourself too harshly on having these feelings. Healing is a word that comes to mind here.
I have specialised in Palliative counselling and Bereavement and Loss counselling. I understand that you probably have had other, maybe unresolved, issues in your life as well as being bereaved. When you are ill or bereaved, even small things you used to do without a second thought are just so much harder and magnified. I know that everyone grieves in their own way and this is how it should be. You may feel alone and not understand what is happening to you or you may experience physical and or psychological symptoms. Being ill, can marginalise you unintentionally and you need to find a way to stay connected to your 'old' life. Together we look at adapting and keeping you in control of your life rather than be completely at the mercy of the (necessary) maelstrom of hospitals; tests and results you have arrived in.
I offer you the time and space to heal and to try and make sense of your loss in the context of your life at the moment. Research has shown that bereavement counselling is the most effective form of preventative medicine. And palliative counselling relieves physical symptoms due to anxiety reduction.
About our sessions:
I will review our sessions with you regularly. Some people need only a few sessions, others need a lot more and some people return after a long time for some “top up” sessions.
I hold sessions at my private practice based in Alton.
For those with a life limiting illness, I hold counselling sessions wherever you are, whether that is at home, in hospital, in the hospice or in a nursing home.
I have many, many years of experience in Skype and Telephone counselling. All you need is a quiet space where you will not be interrupted, with tissues and a glass of water at hand and you needn't worry if you cry or if there are long silences, I will hold that space and keep the time.
Emergency Sessions: For that time when you need or want to keep on talking, I offer a 2 hour slot. These are intensive sessions and can stand alone. Clients have found that bringing an energy snack along really helped.
The relationship between counsellor and supervisor should be based on professional and mutual respect. We are two colleagues upholding the high ethical standards of our profession and in which the welfare of the client is at the heart of our work together. Each supervision session is different depending on the client load, the counsellor’s needs; the counsellor's work towards accreditation; the ethical issues and so on. I have my own supervisor of supervision so you are reassured that my work is done competently and ethically at all times.
You may like to prepare for supervision by making a few notes on what to bring or you may have a burning issue that needs to take precedent and we will allow time for that. The idea is that we both feel comfortable and open to explore a way of working that suits and that fits in with what is appropriate at the time. I would rather you feel you can contact me in between sessions than wrestle with a problem or sit with it. In theory this does not happen often but when it does, there is always a good reason for doing so.
Group supervision is given in groups of no more than 4 - 5 people.
Supervision to me means your growth as a counsellor so you can 'grow' your clients.
Training, qualifications & experience
BACP Snr. Accredited (578121) and Registered Counsellor
I am a Person-Centred/Integrative Counsellor with a private practice in Alton, Hampshire.
I am a qualified Supervisor.
I am a Group Supervisor.
I am an experienced Skype and Telephone Counsellor.
Bereavement and Grief Training Thames Hospicecare Windsor
Diploma Person-Centred Counselling 2007
BACP Accredited and Senior Accredited
Diploma Supervision 2010
Advanced Facilitator of Groups 2011
Soul Midwife Level 1 & 2 Practitioner 2014
Published co-author of
Surviving the Tsunami of Grief
for the bereaved and those wishing to support them
My core training model is Person-Centred and over the years I have found that offering or integrating other wonderful aspects of different counselling models have only enriched my work hence being a so called Person-Centred/Integrative counsellor. For me being person centred mirrors how I would like to be treated myself. I
Person centred counselling has that extra way of connecting that feels so right when you experience it.
I have an obligation to the BACP to keep up my Personal Development. I value this learning highly.
Every counsellor has to have supervision once a month to make sure that we do the job to the best of our ability. I have also qualified as a supervisor myself.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Shame & Guilt
Living with chronic illness for instance Cancer, Parkinsons, MS, MND
Palliative Counselling or End of Life Care Counselling
I am able to offer flexible counselling sessions up to 8 pm in the evening and Saturday mornings till 12.00.
Counselling session 55 min. £50
Supervision session 90 min. £70
Group supervision session £120 for a group of 4.
An emergency session of two hours £115.
I do charge for a missed session unless your cancellation is received with at least 12 hours notice.
Payment can made by cash, bank transfer or cheque.
In the first session you will get a feel for whether we can work together, and your intuition in this, is the best guide. Some people need a few sessions whilst others may feel the need for many more but I will regularly review your progress with you and make sure we work towards a good ending because we aim to find your way of developing your inner resources. I offer emergency sessions up to 2 hours for an extra fee. These have proved of great help to those that have time constraints and wish to look at something in depth.
My counselling is based on offering you a confidential space in which to explore what is hindering you in living fully. I have the experience to help you explore issues whilst at the same time keeping you safe especially when you are facing a terminal diagnosis or have been bereaved or sexually abused.
I work from a lovely counselling room in a quiet and peaceful building, close to the high street with ample parking nearby. Alton Railway Station is only a 5 min. walk away and the M3 is 10 min. drive away.
Please call or email and feel free to ask lots of questions and look at my website.
I am as always deeply moved and intensely grateful for the words of some of my clients and I have asked these clients if I could use their words here:
"I wouldn't be here, if it wasn't for you" T.
"You do my head in, you do, but I do feel a lot calmer now and able to cope" D.
“I received counselling after the death of my husband (from cancer aged 47yrs). I know that I would not be in such a good place now, if I had not received the counselling. My counsellor encouraged me to talk about all the things that you cannot share with anyone who is too close to you, but you need to talk about – even if you don’t realise it at the time. I was also reassured that all my feelings were totally normal which assuring is when one’s life has been changed so dramatically.
I am eternally grateful for the help and support I was given over the 2 years of seeing my counsellor – I thought I would be there for ever but the end came gradually and naturally and one day it came to me that I could go on without the counsellor and our weekly meeting. I know she is there if at any time I need any more counselling and that also helps me to get through. I cannot thank her enough in getting me through the tough early days”. S.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
|Other languages:||Dutch and German|
|Wheelchair user access:||No|
To reach the counselling rooms, you will need to go up one flight of stairs.
I can offer flexible day and evening appointments up till 8 pm, as well as Saturday mornings sessions from 9-12.
Types of client
Supervision & training
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