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About me

I am comfortable working with difficult life stories and complex family dynamics.  I will  listen to you deeply, with curiosity. Maybe you hide parts of you from others for fear you will be misunderstood. All parts of you are welcome to therapy.  I work well with people feel stuck and those who have a hard time identifying how they are feeling. Perhaps you have been told you are 'too much' or 'too sensitive' or find yourself ending up in relationships that become stale or even abusive. Together we will consider what is important to you and thoughtfully explore the story of your life so you can move forward.  Visit my website for further information.


There could be many reasons why you are seeking therapy. Maybe you feel overwhelmed or are dealing with anxious thoughts, trauma, grief,  guilt, shame or feel pressured to meet the needs of others before your own. Perhaps you feel sad, lonely, stuck or feel trapped in your current life? I help people recover from difficult experiences such as bereavement, abuse, menopause, family conflict, complex trauma, derealisation, religious trauma and creative blocks.


I have interest and experience in supporting clients who have experienced all manner of emotional distress, some examples...


Trauma is not reserved to military personnel; trauma also happens in families and within relationships. Sadly, growing up with an alcoholic or abusive parent, experiencing sexual assault or witnessing domestic violence in the family all leave traumatic traces in our lives. Developmental trauma, that is trauma experienced in our childhoods often impacts us later in life. Research shows that trauma impacts our ability to manage emotions, reducing the capacity to manage relationships and enjoy life. Perhaps something has happened recently that has triggered old feelings. Therapy can help support you as you work through your feelings at a pace that is manageable. I am comfortable hearing about, and working with distressing histories and difficult experiences; helping you feel supported without worrying your story is too much.


We all dissociate sometimes, perhaps you took a journey from A to B and don’t recall all of the journey. Sometimes dissociation is more problematic. Our sense of self, our thoughts, feelings and memories can become disconnected, so it becomes hard to access memories or feel grounded in our identity. Perhaps you don't have many memories of childhood or other important points in your life.  This might be caused by trauma where we have disconnected from the situation in order to survive. here are five types of dissociation- Depersonalisation, Derealisation, Amnesia, Identity confusion and Identity alteration. Therapy helps you understand your experience and make sense of your life.

Sexual or domestic violence

Sexual abuse is defined as any type of sexual activity which is unwanted. Sexual abuse includes rape, being touched sexually without your permission, being coerced or exploited into sexual activity, it also includes having intimate images of yourself shared or posted online without your permission or receiving unsolicited explicit images (sexting). People who have experienced sexual abuse often feel unable to share their experiences with others. Are you starting to feel you are in a relationship that is abusive? Does your partner put you down, hurt you or withdraw their affection on their terms? Perhaps you worry the situation isn’t bad enough to leave, or that you are in some way to blame. Being able to talk, perhaps for the first time about painful experiences is possible in counselling. Whether a recent event or something that happened a long time ago counselling will provide a space place for you to talk through your experience without judgement.


Grief and loss is inevitable for all of us as we progress through life. Dealing with the death of a loved one can bring up feelings of deep sadness, confusion and even anger. Sometimes grief lifts over time and sometimes it can still cause upset many years later. Grief is not linear; it affects us all in different ways and can resurface when we least expect it. I will help you to work through the grieving process, whether you have lost a parent, a child, a good friend or even a pet. I also offer support for sudden death including sudden illness, accident, suicide or violence.

End of life Counselling

Coming to terms with a life limiting or terminal diagnosis, either your own, a family member or friend can bring up all sorts of difficult and unexpected emotions. Therapy can support you in working through your feelings.


Bullying behaviour might include being teased in a manner that is hurtful, being humiliated or put down without thought for your feelings, being ignored, intimidated or threatened whether explicitly or implicitly. Bullying might occur in your workplace, in your relationships or in other areas of our life, such as online via social media (cyberbullying). Bullying can leave us feeling isolated and alone. Perhaps you experienced bullying in childhood and the experience still remains with you, or you are supporting your own child through a bullying experience. Speaking out about your experience gives you the opportunity to feel supported and heard so that you can process your feelings. 


The added challenges of peri-menopause, menopause, and early menopause on women is very often underestimated. Symptoms and their impact seem to vary between women with many feeling deeply debilitated whilst others seem to sail through the transition. Perhaps you are mourning the loss of your childbearing years, find the lack of sleep affecting your working life or your moods difficult to manage. This sometimes-brutal reminder of ageing can be difficult to manage, and women are notorious for not talking about it with their friends and family. Experiencing an early menopause adds its own difficulties, including the loss of possible motherhood. Counselling can help you work through the frustrations and feelings menopause has brought up and support you to get through the transition.

Difficulty relating to others

Human beings experience all sorts of relationships through life, from parents, partners, the wider family, friends and work colleagues to the supermarket cashier. The quality of our relationships affects our lives. Counselling helps people understand their roles in relationships and recognise any unhelpful patterns that might be present. The therapy provides a safe space to consider other ways to relate.


How I work

You may wish to talk about something in your session that is currently happening in your life, your relationships, work, feelings, or dreams. Sessions are yours to explore whatever emerges. The process may find links to your past that illuminate your present. Therapy is a space where you come to understand yourself better.

I am a trained psychodynamic therapist, this means I am alert to possible unconscious processes which manifest in your behaviour. Psychodynamic counselling endeavours to get to the root cause of your problems and address the symptoms and emotions they bring up for you now. It gives you a safe space to consider how formative experiences might be influencing your relating patterns now, giving you opportunities to consider ways to adapt and change.

It is my job to listen and support you whether you bring an issue located in the here and now or rooted in your past. 

I offer weekly therapy sessions via video call or telephone.
Or face to face in Bromley or Sidcup. 

Personal Therapy

Therapists undergo their own in depth personal psychotherapy as part of their training. This means I have personal experience of what it feels like to be a client, which helps me understand how the right support can be deeply helpful.

How do I know you are the right therapist for me?

Book a free initial 15-20 minute meeting to help you decide. This is a chance for us to see if you feel we could work together, it is important that you feel safe and comfortable with your therapist. There will be time to ask any questions or raise any concerns you may have. Perhaps you will find being listened to really helpful and will want to continue. If you don't that is also OK. You are never obligated to continue if you don't feel I'm quite right for you. This can be done over the telephone, through a Skype or Zoom meeting.

I offer long-term therapy and which can be especially helpful for deeper seated issues with more time to work in depth.

I also offer short-term counselling which usually provides support for a particular issue or situation, perhaps a job loss, a relationship breakdown or a bereavement. Typically, this would be 12-24 sessions.

What do I do next?

Send me a message to arrange a free 15 minute initial phone call or video session. Please give me an idea of your availability and location. I will reply within 48 hours on week days. 

Training, qualifications & experience

Training and Qualifications

Post Graduate Diploma Psychodynamic Psychotherapeutic Counselling

Masters Psychoanalytic Studies

Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust Certificate theory and treatment of Trauma

Tavistock Relationships - Certificate Couple Relationships

BA (Hons) Therapeutic Psychology 

Complex Trauma Certification Training Level 1 and 2 Janina Fisher

Understanding and Working with Complex Traumatic Dissociation- European Society for Trauma and Dissociation

Foundation in Group Analysis

Certificate in Counselling and Psychotherapy

Certificate in online and telephone counselling

Foundation Certificate in Coaching


Registered Member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

Member of the European Society for Trauma and Dissociation

Member of Lapidus, the national organisation devoted to the promotion of writing and creativity for personal development.

Further training and professional development

It is a requirement for registered members of the British Association for counselling and psychotherapy (BACP) to undertake continuous professional development to keep skills up to date and relevant. Below is a list of some additional training and workshops taken.

  • Sex and Relationship Diversity in the therapy Room - Dr Meg-John Barker
  • Certificate in Supporting Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse- NAPAC
  • Healing the traumatised mind, brain and body with Dr Bessel Van der Kolk
  • Healing traumatic stress: helping mind, brain and body - Dr Bessel Van der Kolk
  • Therapeutic conversations to change lives - Dr Margot Sunderland
    2nd Annual PTSD International Conference – Nscience
  • Safeguarding for domestic abuse
  • Trauma, Dissociation & Recovery - PODS (for Dissociative Survivors)
  • PTSD and Working with dissociative disorders - PODS
  • Attachment and Traumatic Bonding – Christiane Sanderson
  • Managing Power, Control, Boundary and Attachment Dynamics with Survivors of Abuse
  • Online Therapy: Characteristics, Opportunities and Limitations - Tavistock
  • Online Therapy: Technology in the Therapeutic Frame - Tavistock
  • Online Therapy: Therapeutic Intervention - Tavistock
  • Online therapy for mental health professionals -PESI
  • Building Relationships In Online Therapy
  • Telehealth - practicing therapy online
  • Certificate in Online and Telephone counselling
  • Accredited Counselling for pregnancy, stillbirth and infant loss
  • Bereavement counselling – Accredited Foundation Course
  • Approaching Bereavement counselling in a hospice setting
  • Working with end of Life narratives
  • Working with suicide
  • Working with Metaphor
  • Working with puppets and sandplay - Place2be
  • Children's Emotional Wellbeing -Place2be
  • Making Endings with Children – Place2be
  • Facilitating Support groups
  • Working with online therapy groups

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Difficult childhood experiences: abuse, trauma and neglect
  • PTSD, Complex trauma, Dissociation,  Derealisation
  • End of Life therapy
  • Sudden bereavement including accident, sudden illness, violence or suicide

Therapies offered

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£75.00 per session
Free initial in-person, telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

  • Standard 50 minute sessions £75

I currently have availability for new clients face to face  Tuesday morning or Wednesday afternoon in my Bromley Office.  Online sessions available Monday-Thursday daytimes. I have no evening availability at present.  

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

Office Hours Monday - Thursday 8am-7pm

Further information

Other areas of therapy I work with

  • Absent fathers and mothers
  • Sibling abuse
  • Painful childhood or school experiences
  • Family breakdown
  • Religious trauma

Fat Positive - Fat acceptance is the recognition that bodies of all shapes and sizes, including larger ones, are inherently worthy. Body size is neutral.  The systemic oppression people receive day to day life, in healthcare,  employment and even fashion due to body size is deeply harmful. 

Bromley, Kent, BR1

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Older adults

Key details

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Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair user access

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Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

London office is fully wheelchair accessible Bromley office is on the 2nd floor without a lift.

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