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I am comfortable working with difficult life stories and complex family dynamics. No matter what is bothering you, I will provide a warm, welcoming environment to explore your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps you hide parts of you from others for fear you will be misunderstood. All parts of you are welcome to therapy. I work well with people who have a hard time identifying how they are feeling. Together we will identify what is important for you and thoughtfully explore the story of your life. Visit my website for further information.
There could be many reasons why you are seeking psychotherapy. Maybe you feel overwhelmed or are dealing with anxious thoughts, trauma, grief, guilt, or feel pressured to meet the needs of others before your own. Perhaps you feel sad, lonely or feel trapped in your current life? I help people recover from difficult experiences such as bereavement, domestic violence, menopause, family conflict, complex trauma and PTSD.
I have interest and experience in supporting clients who have experienced all manner of emotional distress, for example -
Grief and loss is inevitable for all of us as we progress through life. Dealing with the death of a loved one can bring up feelings of deep sadness, confusion and even anger. Sometimes grief lifts over time and sometimes it can still cause upset many years later. Grief is not linear; it affects us all in different ways and can resurface when we least expect it. I will help you to work through the grieving process, whether you have lost a parent, a child, a good friend or even a pet. I also offer support for sudden death including sudden illness, accident, suicide or violence.
Trauma is not reserved to military personnel; trauma also happens in families and within relationships. Sadly, growing up with an alcoholic or abusive parent, experiencing sexual assault or witnessing domestic violence in the family all leave traumatic traces in our lives. Developmental trauma, that is trauma experienced in our childhoods often impacts us later in life. Research shows that trauma impacts our ability to manage emotions, reducing the capacity to manage relationships and enjoy life. Perhaps something has happened recently that has triggered old feelings. Therapy can help support you as you work through your feelings at a pace that is manageable. I am comfortable hearing about, and working with distressing histories and difficult experiences; helping you feel supported without worrying your story is too much.
We all dissociate sometimes, perhaps you took a journey from A to B and don’t recall all of the journey. Sometimes dissociation is more problematic. Our sense of self, our thoughts, feelings and memories can become disconnected, so it becomes hard to access memories or feel grounded in our identity. Perhaps you don't have many memories of childhood or other important points in your life. This might be caused by trauma where we have disconnected from the situation in order to survive. There are five types of dissociation- Depersonalisation, Derealisation, Amnesia, Identity confusion and Identity alteration. Therapy helps you understand your experience and make sense of your life.
Bullying behaviour might include being teased in a manner that is hurtful, being humiliated or put down without thought for your feelings, being ignored, intimidated or threatened whether explicitly or implicitly. Bullying might occur in your workplace, in your relationships or in other areas of our life, such as online via social media (cyberbullying). Bullying can leave us feeling isolated and alone. Perhaps you experienced bullying in childhood and the experience still remains with you, or you are supporting your own child through a bullying experience. Speaking out about your experience gives you the opportunity to feel supported and heard so that you can process your feelings. [Learn more]
- Sexual or domestic violence
Sexual abuse is defined as any type of sexual activity which is unwanted. Sexual abuse includes rape, being touched sexually without your permission, being coerced or exploited into sexual activity, it also includes having intimate images of yourself shared or posted online without your permission or receiving unsolicited explicit images (sexting). People who have experienced sexual abuse often feel unable to share their experiences with others. Are you starting to feel you are in a relationship that is abusive? Does your partner put you down, hurt you or withdraw their affection on their terms? Perhaps you worry the situation isn’t bad enough to leave, or that you are in some way to blame. Being able to talk, perhaps for the first time about painful experiences is possible in counselling. Whether a recent event or something that happened a long time ago counselling will provide a space place for you to talk through your experience without judgement.
- Chronic and Terminal Illness
I have an interest in the the emotional impact of chronic illnesses such as fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease), Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), Cystic Fibrosis, Parkinson's Disease and Multiple Sclerosis (MS) on both the sufferer and their families. I also have experience of supporting people with a terminal diagnosis.
The added challenges of peri-menopause, menopause, and early menopause on women is very often underestimated. Symptoms and their impact seem to vary between women with many feeling deeply debilitated whilst others seem to sail through the transition. Perhaps you are mourning the loss of your childbearing years, find the lack of sleep affecting your working life or your moods difficult to manage. This sometimes-brutal reminder of ageing can be difficult to manage, and women are notorious for not talking about it with their friends and family. Experiencing an early menopause adds its own difficulties, including the loss of possible motherhood. Counselling can help you work through the frustrations and feelings menopause has brought up and support you to get through the transition.
How I work
You may wish to talk about something in your session that is currently happening in your life, your relationships, work, feelings, or dreams. Sessions are yours to explore whatever emerges. The process may find links to your past that illuminate your present. Therapy is a space where you come to understand yourself better.
I am a trained psychodynamic therapist, this means I am alert to possible unconscious processes which manifest in your behaviour. Psychodynamic counselling endeavours to get to the root cause of your problems and address the symptoms and emotions they bring up for you now. It gives you a safe space to consider how formative experiences might be influencing your relating patterns now, giving you opportunities to consider ways to adapt and change.
It is my job to listen and support you whether you bring an issue located in the here and now or rooted in your past. I am comfortable working with gender, sexual & relationship diversity including LGBTQ+ and alternative lifestyles.
- I offer weekly therapy sessions via video call or telephone.
Therapists undergo their own in depth personal psychotherapy as part of their training. This means I have personal experience of what it feels like to be a client, which helps me understand how the right support can be deeply helpful.
How do I know you are the right therapist for me?
- Book a free initial 15-20 minute meeting to help you decide. This is a chance for us to see if you feel we could work together, it is important that you feel safe and comfortable with your therapist. There will be time to ask any questions or raise any concerns you may have. Perhaps you will find being listened to really helpful and will want to continue. If you don't that is also OK. You are never obligated to continue if you don't feel I'm quite right for you. This can be done over the telephone, through a Skype or Zoom meeting.
- I offer long-term therapy and which can be especially helpful for deeper seated issues with more time to work in depth.
- I also offer short-term counselling which usually provides support for a particular issue or situation, perhaps a job loss, a relationship breakdown or a bereavement. Typically, this would be 12-24 sessions.
What do I do next?
Send me a message to arrange a free 15 minute initial phone call or video session. Please give me an idea of your availability and location. I will reply within 48 hours on week days.
Training, qualifications & experience
Training and Qualifications
Post Graduate Diploma Psychodynamic Psychotherapeutic Counselling
MA Psychoanalytic Studies
Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust Certificate theory and treatment of Trauma
Tavistock Relationships - Certificate Couple Relationships
BA (Hons) Therapeutic Psychology and Counselling
Complex Trauma Certification Training Level 1 and 2 Janina Fisher
Understanding and Working with Complex Traumatic Dissociation- European Society for Trauma and Dissociation
Foundation in Group Analysis
Certificate in Counselling and Psychotherapy
Certificate in online and telephone counselling
Foundation Certificate in Coaching
Registered Member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
Member of the European Society for Trauma and Dissociation
Member of Lapidus, the national organisation devoted to the promotion of writing and creativity for personal development.
Further training and professional development
It is a requirement for registered members of the British Association for counselling and psychotherapy (BACP) to undertake continuous professional development to keep skills up to date and relevant. Below is a list of some additional training and workshops taken.
- Sex and Relationship Diversity - Dr Meg-John Barker
- Certificate in Supporting Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse- NAPAC
- Healing the traumatised mind, brain and body with Dr Bessel Van der Kolk
- Healing traumatic stress: helping mind, brain and body - Dr Bessel Van der Kolk
- Therapeutic conversations to change lives - Dr Margot Sunderland
2nd Annual PTSD International Conference – Nscience
- Safeguarding for domestic abuse
- Trauma, Dissociation & Recovery - PODS (for Dissociative Survivors)
- PTSD and Working with dissociative disorders - PODS
- Attachment and Traumatic Bonding – Christiane Sanderson
- Managing Power,Control, Boundary and Attachment Dynamics with Survivors of Abuse
Sex and Relationship Diversity in the therapy Room - Dr Meg-John Barker
- Online Therapy: Characteristics, Opportunities and Limitations - Tavistock
- Online Therapy:Technology in the Therapeutic Frame - Tavistock
- Online Therapy:Therapeutic Intervention - Tavistock
- Online therapy for mental health professionals -PESI
- Building Relationships In Online Therapy
- Telehealth - practicing therapy online
- Certificate in Online and Telephone counselling
- Accredited Counselling for pregnancy, stillbirth and infant loss
- Bereavement counselling – Accredited Foundation Course
- Approaching Bereavement counselling in a hospice setting
- Working with end of Life narratives
- Working with suicide
- Working with Metaphor
- Working with puppets and sandplay - Place2be
- Children's Emotional Wellbeing -Place2be
- Making Endings with Children – Place2be
- Facilitating Support groups
- Working with online therapy groups
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Difficult childhood experiences: abuse, trauma and neglect
- Complex trauma
- Dissociation, depersonalisation, derealisation
- Sudden bereavement including accident, sudden illness, violence or suicide
£65.00 per session
Free initial telephone session
Fee £65 per session (50 minutes).
Book an initial free 15 minute conversation with me to see if I am the right therapist for you, there will be time to ask any questions you have and explore how I can support you.
Appointments Monday - Thursday 10am-7pm subject to availability.
Office Hours Monday - Thursday 10am-7pm
Online phone or Zoom Video Sessions.