Sam Berey MBACP, anxiety, trauma and bereavement specialist
I am currently working both face-to-face and online via Zoom. In response to the financial impact of Covid-19, I am also offering reduced cost places for those in financial need. Please get in touch if you wish to discuss fees.
However you may feel in this moment, I hope you can recognise that you are already making steps towards healing, simply by looking into getting some support. I understand it might not feel like this now, as you may be struggling with anxiety or feeling depressed; you may feel overwhelmed and confused or stuck, as if you’re going round in circles. You might even feel that things won’t get any better.
As hard as it seems, try to remember that looking for help is a big step towards deciding that things can be different.
And things really can be different. Over 6 years of practicing I have supported many people as they have made positive changes to live their lives differently. In my own life, I have experienced the transformational effects that counselling has had, as I have worked through my own experiences of loss, bereavement, and trauma.
I have chosen to focus my support for people who are experiencing loss, bereavement, and trauma. This may be loss through separation or divorce; transitions such as mid-life and aging or the loss of meaning or purpose in life. It may be ‘Big T’ Trauma, such as a shocking and overwhelming event, or a prolonged series of damaging life experiences. It may be the ‘little t’ trauma of everyday life, such as relationship or family issues or stress around work or career.
I have completed specialist training for grief and bereavement including working with complex bereavement such as suicide or sudden bereavement. I have completed several specialist trauma-working courses.
Things can be different
There is a part of you that believes things can be different. That you are reading now is evidence of this. I understand it may be hard to recognise this part right now, as you may feel overwhelmed by parts that feel anxious or desperate or angry or self-destructive or helpless. But this part of you is there.
Our work together
The focus of our work is on supporting you to reconnect with your powerful internal resources. By gently paying attention to those parts that are overwhelming you currently and understanding why they are active now, we will be able to quieten the confusion and soothe your emotional distress. I work within a Gestalt framework and integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS). Both these models believe that we are fundamentally ‘okay as we are’, and that healing occurs through unlocking our inner capacity to support ourselves.
A glass of water
I believe the hurt we experience gets locked away and we spend lots of energy trying to keep this hurt out of view. We do a good job at this. You may be very good at keeping your pain hidden, even from yourself. But it is there, and it weighs on you, even if you are not in direct contact with it.
Think of carrying a glass of water upstairs, one that you feel is precious and you must not spill. How you climb the stairs is directly affected by this glass of water. You will likely climb slowly and carefully, trying hard not to stumble. And yet sometimes the water spills over. Then, how do you respond? Perhaps by treading even more carefully. Or feeling angry and frustrated. Or being hard on yourself. Perhaps you’ll feel disappointed or sad or feel that you can never get anything right.
It is these responses that we will focus on in our work. By paying attention to how you react to the different situations you face, we will understand how you have oriented yourself in response to the hurt you have experienced. We will understand how you carry yourself to protect against your pain.
And you will be able to connect with your inner capacity to heal as you realise that these responses are understandable considering the hurt you have suffered.
This way of working is safe because you don’t have to revisit the painful experiences themselves. You don’t need to focus on the loss or bereavement or trauma, whether ‘Big T’ Trauma or ‘little t’ trauma.
This may sound too simple. And that is because as a concept it is: we are okay as we are and healing comes through accepting ourselves for who we are. And yet, although the concept is simple, it isn’t always easy to do. But it is always possible and it is very effective.
This is what some of the people I have worked with have said:
“I have been able to make peace with traumatised parts of myself and begin to show compassion and kindness to myself for the first time” - P
“Understanding, accepting and ultimately embracing myself has been the most difficult and the most freeing experience in my life” - M
“Through working with Sam, I am now able to approach challenges I may face through a different lens, allowing me more balance and peace of mind” – N
“In the months after our sessions had ended I realised that I had become more awake to my emotions within relationships. I now feel better equipped and more relaxed engaging fully with others” – K
Where I work.
I work on Church Road in Hove, near the Hove Tesco's, George Street and Hove Library. My counselling rooms are disability accessible.
I also work at the Brighton Therapy Practice, located in the centre of Brighton, near the Brighton Pavilion. My rooms are easily accessible by public transport and parking is available nearby.
Training, qualifications & experience
I graduated with a Post Graduate Diploma in Humanistic Psychotherapeutic Counselling from the University of Brighton and I have a Certificate in Counselling from the University of Chichester.
I am also trained as a bereavement counsellor and am ASIST trained (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training). I have undergone specialist trauma training with Dr Janina Fisher, a leading expert on working with and integrating trauma. I have also completed trauma focused training with Dr Frank Anderson on integrating Internal Family Systems into trauma work.
I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). I hold full, professional liability insurance.
I have worked with CRI (now CGL) supporting homeless people in Brighton and Hove. I have also worked in a variety of commercial roles, in sales and marketing, management and business consultancy. This has given me a wide experience working with work and career, such as successfully achieving career changes and work - life balance.
In accordance with BACP guidelines, I am committed to continuous professional development through training courses, workshops, personal therapy and supervision.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
I offer an initial 50 minute assessment session at £10 as an opportunity for you to explore what you wish to gain from counselling and so that you can get an experience of me and how we might work together.
Following this, I charge £50 per-session. Sessions are typically weekly and last for 50 minutes.
I believe strongly that counselling should be accessible to all and so I offer a limited number of low-cost, concessionary spaces within my practice. Please contact me to enquire about current availability for these.
Please contact me by either phone or email and I will respond as soon as I am able and certainly within 24 hours. As I am often with clients please leave an answerphone message.
Concessions offered for
My counselling rooms are disability accessible.
Located on Church Road in Hove, near the Hove Tesco's, George Street and Hove Library. This is around 10 minutes walk from Hove train station.
Bus routes 1, 1A, 6, 49 and 60 stop outside. Routes 7, 21, 21A and the Coastliner 700 all stop nearby.
Street parking is available outside at £1 for an hour.
I work at the Brighton Therapy Practice, located in the centre of Brighton, near the Brighton Pavilion. My rooms are easily accessible by public transport and parking is available nearby.