Rebeca Paiva (MBACP) Dip. Therapeutic Counselling
"I aim to assist you in exploring the possibilities available to help you to bring positive change to your life, promoting long-lasting emotional wellbeing and conscious change."
All too often in life, we find ourselves unsettled, unable to understand why we are not our “usual” selves, not able to function as we once did. These may feel scary, confusing and daunting. My role is to help you make that change and realise that you are not alone and that lasting change is achievable. This feeling of overwhelm can often lead to depression, anxiety and anger. We often find ourselves reacting and coping in harmful or counter-productive ways, such as seeking external approval, seeking escape or oblivion in substances, isolating yourself from others or just simply ignoring it and trying “to get on with life”.
What I offer is a non-judgmental and supportive space, combined with several years of extensive experience to help you achieve this. In that space, together, we will focus on you and find the most suitable approach to understand you, your needs and then use this understanding to promote change in your mental and emotional wellbeing.
I work with adults and adolescents, offering both short and long term treatment.
In our first session, we will discuss the circumstances that brought you to counselling, your hopes for the future and how we are going to make they achievable. I will suggest the most suitable way to work together that will be tailored depending on your motivation, learning and receiving information style, your emotional and mental present state and the time that you have available to address it.
I am a fully qualified experienced counsellor. I am also an MBACP member, I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework for Counselling Professional and a hold full insurance policy for my private practice.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am fully insured at my private practice and I'm a registered member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), you can find me on their register of counsellors. https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Register.
I am also a member of The British Psychological Association (BPS)
I am originally trained as a Humanistic Person-Centred Counsellor, and it is part of my core practice to always approach every client with empathy, unconditional positive regard and congruence. I believe that each one of us knows best what we need, and how we can achieve it. I have successfully used my skills and knowledge to help others to find this and become self-empowered and I believe that each and every one of us has innate capabilities of achieving the best version of ourselves and in my practice I always thrive for my clients to achieve the best of themselves and to overcome mental and emotional issues, to gain an improved self-steam and self-worth and to learn effective coping mechanism that will lead you to realise that you indeed can be in control of your wellbeing.
During my career, I have extensively expanded my counselling approaches, skills and knowledge and am now also highly experienced in CBT, Brief Solution Focus Therapy, Interpersonal Therapy, Transactional Analyses, Compassion Focus Therapy and NLP.
In my practice, I will always thrive for my clients to achieve the best of themselves. To overcome mental and emotional issues, and when is the case, accepting and managing the issues that can’t be overcome by therapeutic or any treatment, like chronic conditions, e.g. diabetes itself can’t be helped therapeutically, you will need to carry on with the medical treatment but complementary to it is possible to look at how your diagnosis made you feel, how the condition itself impacted on your capabilities to conduct a normal life, what are your fears and how it is hindering your emotional wellbeing, how has it impacted on your self-steam, self-believe and self-worth? Addressing such aspects will have a great impact on your mental and emotional wellbeing.
I work with adolescents and adults that have issues brought by broke-down relationships, loss, grief, mental health issues, personality disorders, learning difficulties and disabilities, depression, anxiety, anger, lack of motivation, substances misuse, peer pressure, bullying, academic pressure, parent’s divorce or separation amongst others.
Together we will explore each feeling and emotion event and behaviour, we find the core issue, the core challenge, and the hopes. We identify strengths already available and areas that the client believes that they could benefit from enhancing.
The aim is for the children and adults, to feel self-empowered and in control. That is achieved by understanding and self-acceptance. Understanding our personal needs and limitations, discerning between limitations and self-limiting believes, understanding pain and development and believing and accepting that we are perfect as we are with no need for comparison is a good place to start. Once this is achieved change will start to take place and we will naturally drift towards a more positive and proactive future.
In an educational setting, I worked with children covering all aspects of their therapeutic needs. I also with teachers that needed support in all the mental and emotional issues of life plus the ones related to their pupils and the impact they have on their overall mental wellbeing.
I have also worked with parents that were supported by children services. I was able to help parents to understand their primal needs as human beings, spouses, parents and professionals. Often they felt conflicted and unsure on how to fulfil each role. We explored how to find understanding and acceptance of these roles and take positive and assertive steps to ensure a balance that will promote a healthy emotional and mental state by addressing all and any condition bred by this conflicting and challenging time.
In the prison service, I worked in substance misuse recovery where I had the opportunity to gain insight in what it is like to feel that you need the change but feel unable and incapable of promoting this. I was able to work with aspects of motivation, learned behaviours, chemical dependency, use of substances as a coping mechanism and anger management, belief of powerlessness over addiction, shame, guilt, trauma, and consequences. I am very experienced in working with addictive behaviour and have extensive knowledge and therapeutic skills and approaches that can help most people to stabilise and adopt a way of living free of substances.
I aim to provide a treatment that, in the end, the client will be able to accept the consequences of the past, while learning to cope with feelings that were often suppressed by substances misuse. Clients will have the opportunity to learn how to identify triggers and behaviours. Identifying which needs need to be fulfilled. We achieve this by looking into underlying issues, by addressing the trauma that led to addiction or caused by it, by challenging maladapted thought process, etc. I have also extensive knowledge of relapse prevention that can be incorporated in our sessions.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£35 per session