Dr Ranjana Mitra MBACP, MA, Ph.D (Psy) Relationship Counsellor
I am an experienced Counsellor specialising in relationship issues. I offer a warm and supportive space for individuals and couples and individuals to find a way through conflict, loss, and life changes; and to feel good about themselves and happy in their relationships.
I understand how hard it is to take the first step to seek professional help for an issue that you feel sad or angry about, or perhaps embarrassed to discuss. However, talking about it sets in motion the wheels of change, and you may be surprised to discover your capacity for resilience and your ability to transform how you feel.
How I can help couples
Counselling can offer an opportunity to find a way through in a relationship that has perhaps become stuck in the rut, or mired in hopelessness, negativity, and mistrust. It is not uncommon for couples to suddenly find themselves with no shared understanding, no hopes for the future, and bogged down in disappointments and conflict. It can be pretty hard to figure out when and how a relationship changed from a loving and companionable one to one of repeated misunderstandings, heated arguments or frosty silence.
Sometimes it is a stressful life event that has brought about the difficulty, sometimes physical or mental ill health such as anxiety or depression. Perhaps you or your partner are on the autistic spectrum and communication is difficult. It is well established that miscommunication is the single biggest thing that brings about relationship difficulties.
Even for couples who have decided to separate, counselling offers the chance to remain on amicable terms and to parent well. This is hugely beneficial for the future of their children and wider families.
How I can help individuals
Your relationship with yourself is very important, and influences every other relationship you have in life. Counselling can offer a chance to free yourself from nagging feelings of self- doubt, blame, guilt or shame. Many people need help to cope with their depression and anxiety – which is far more common than we like to believe. Some have suffered loss, or are living with anger and resentment. Some doubt their ability to sustain meaningful relationships with their families, friends or colleagues.
Finding a way to manage - and change - how you feel about yourself and your situation is a skill that can be learnt.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have a Masters degree in Relationship Therapy and have gained experience at Relate over the past 10 years, where I continue to work.
I have a Doctoral degree in Psychology which provides me with a very good understanding of human behaviour.
I am trained in Couples Therapy for Depression, which is recognised and used in the NHS for helping couple where one or both partners are living with depression and anxiety.
I am a Registered member of BACP which means that you can be assured that I work within recognised ethical guidelines.
How I work
You can talk to me in the knowledge that you will be listened to without judgment, and all conversations will feel safe and supported. I have trained in, and use an integrative approach which means combining a variety of models and techniques to arrive at solutions that suit you and your particular issues, rather than force you to fit a model.
If you are interested in some of the approaches I combine, read on…
Attachment based – which tells us that how we relate to people or events as adults is influenced by templates formed early in life; and that our early social environment and relationship with caregivers have a powerful effect on our well-being.
Systemic – which tells us that how we think and behave is largely dependant on how other around us are thinking and behaving. These interlocking patterns of communication can sometimes lead to repetitive cycles of disappointment and hurt. Understanding this allows people to make choices about and change their behaviours.
Behavioural – which tells us that the habitual ways in which we think about things or respond to events are learnt over a period of time, and like most habits they can be changed.
Psychodynamic – which tells us that the root cause of some of our ways of thinking and behaving lie in unconscious longings and conflict, and becoming alert to these forces makes for the possibility of change
Compassion focussed - which is based on a basic belief in human kindness, caring, and compassion for the self and others. Developing compassion for the self is a great way to challenge the inner critic and gain happiness and well being.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Free initial telephone or online session
£45 for 50 mins session
Evening and weekend appointments available
Free assessment session with no obligation to sign up.
Daytime, evening, and weekend appointments available
You helped me find the light in a very dark place and I can’t thank you enough - James Feb 2021