Gemma White

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BA, Dip, MBACP (registered)
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Oxted, Surrey, RH8
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About me

Hi there 👋 I’m Gemma and I understand you are not where you want to be. You may know what’s wrong or you may just have a sense that you’re struggling and would like life to feel easier. If something is troubling you, or you’re feeling lost or stuck, working with me is a way to give yourself extra support and to work on feeling better.

We all go through hard seasons in our lives. Bereavement, loss or any unwanted change make day to day life difficult. You may have suffered the death of a loved one, or it could be the loss of a friendship or the end of a romantic relationship. It could be aging and/or menopause meaning multiple losses, including the loss of our younger selves. It could also be the loss of a job and the identity it gave you.

A lot of us are living with loss, a lot of the time, but it can be hard to find somewhere to talk without fear of judgement or the impact our feelings may have on the other person. We may notice that we edit ourselves and can never truly say how we feel. I think we need to better support those who are grieving. 

Loss and grief can cause a lot of thoughts and feelings, we may feel consumed by worries or dulled by depression. We might feel as though we’re not coping or moving on as we should be, as though everyone else is living and we are being left behind and alone. We may feel as though something is wrong with us and we may be tired of pretending we are okay.

Telling our story may feel important, and we may need to examine parts of it in detail, but we can find there isn’t time or capacity for this with friends or family.

I see therapy as a way to invest in taking care of ourselves, a space where we are truly heard and we can find our voice. I believe we all have a story that deserves to be told and I am fascinated by our stories. I see us all having the capacity to heal, grow and create lasting change. We can still thrive and flourish, even when not living the life we hoped for. We can experience joy and pleasure and find a way to live with our loss.

I work with folks living with all kinds of loss, grief and unwanted change. Also, as a childless woman, I have an additional special interest in working with those who are childless not by choice.

I offer weekly, 50 minute, online sessions, where you choose what feels most important to talk about. I tend to work long term with folks and you decide when you wish to end working together.

How I work

I am a Person-Centred counsellor, and my style is gentle and sensitive. I will strive to offer you understanding and acceptance, and for you to feel welcomed, respected and valued, just as you are.

Working with me gives you meaningful time to work on what is causing you difficulty with a fully trained professional, dedicated to understanding you. In my experience, it can be hugely helpful to say how we feel and feel fully understood by another, to realise our thoughts, our pain and our difficulties make sense. It can be a chance to get to know ourselves in deeper ways, developing our self-trust and our capacity to be our authentic selves. In this unique space, it is possible to find new opportunities, solutions and ways of being that are right for us.

I love how life-changing therapy can be and work hard to be a sturdy presence who can be with you in whatever you need support with.

My experience of childlessness after infertility, has given me an additional passion for working with others who wanted to have children but were not able to. I understand the nuance and sensitivity of this position, and that this loss can be misunderstood by others. Knowledgeable support can help us explore our unique experience and perspective. Recognising the loss of a future with children can leave us with a lot to make sense of, the journey we have navigated to get to this point and the new, unexpected path ahead. I offer a safe space to work on all of this. 

Whatever you are facing, we can work with it together, we will make sense of your experience with sensitivity and gently work out how you might want to move forward. 


I work online with clients based anywhere in the UK.

Getting in touch

If you’re interested in working together, go ahead and book a free, informal, 20 minute introductory call on here. Alternatively, head to my website and Instagram to learn more about me and how I work. I understand it can be hard to make initial contact, I’ll do my best to make it as comfortable as I can. I’m ready when you are. 

Training, qualifications & experience

BA in Person-Centred Counselling, (2022), Metanoia Institute, Ealing, London.

Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling, (2022), Metanoia Institute, Ealing, London

Continuing Professional Development

I attend to my ongoing learning and development with fortnightly individual supervision, trainings, reading and accessing peer support groups. Recent topics include Shame, Menopause and working within diversity.

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Specialising in working with those who are childfree or childless not by choice.

Therapies offered


£60.00 per session
Free initial telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Keyworkers
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed
  • Refugees

Additional information

Limited concessionary rate sessions available at £40. I offer a free, 20 minute video call/phone call to potential clients. It's an opportunity to meet and see if we would like to work together. If we decide together that I am not the right therapist for you, I am happy to make suggestions of ways to find alternatives. 

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

I currently offer four slots on a Tuesday daytime, 11:00, 12:00, 13:00 and 14:00 and some weekday evening slots at 18:00 and 19:00. Please contact me for my latest availability. 

Further information

I am a registered member of the BACP and I abide by their Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions (2018).

Oxted, Surrey, RH8

Type of session


Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)

Online platforms

Google Meet


Gemma White
Gemma White