Relationships! Any couple know that there can be intense challenges to openly loving and respecting or even understanding each other. We are conditioned to believe in the happy-ever-after of romantic love, and can end up disillusioned by the reality of how our partner actually feels, communicates, behaves and thinks. Relationship difficulties can evoke such painful feelings of being alone, unappreciated, betrayed, worthless and hopeless. Healthy relationships are challenged, through life’s knocks such as illness, caring for family members, work pressures, or retirement to name a few; or simply the passing of time leads to the relationship being neglected.
I am trained in Dr. Sue Johnson's (author of “Hold Me Tight”) Emotionally Focussed Therapy which provides a warm and supportive yet clear and direct approach. There is encouragement to address what happens between you without attributing blame or getting caught in all the detail. I will help you both to express, understand and empathise with your own and each other's feelings and needs, underneath the arguments or silences. Although arguments and silences create disconnection and pain, they are usually either an attempt to reach each other, or to protect oneself and keep the peace in the relationship. As this becomes understood between you, a greater security and trust in your importance to each other and the value of your relationship can then begin to take shape and strengthen your bond.
This may renew hope, and a loving appreciation of your relationship and partner with depth, maturity and a sense of humour.
It takes courage to talk about relationship difficulties, and I promise a professional and confidential approach.
Training, qualifications & experience
Current and Previous Experience
- Couples Counselling, Psychotherapy and Supervision Private Practice in Totnes
- Counselling Trainer and Supervisor at the Dartmoor Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy
- Sandtray Therapy Trainer at Heartwood Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Training
- Counsellor at the Margaret Jackson Centre, Exeter
- Dramatherapist in the NHS, social services and prisons, work with individuals and groups of: children with emotional and behavioural difficulties, children and adults with learning difficulties, children and adults with physical disabilities, young men on remand in prison, older people in residential settings.
- Movement Therapist facilitating residential courses
- Men's personal development group facilitator
- Plenty of personal development and training through:
- In-depth experience as a counselling/therapy client
- 18 years practice of movement therapy in group workshops
- Attendance of meditation and mindfulness retreats
- I am 52 and have been married for 21 years, and a father for 17 years
- Advanced Diploma in Integrative and Humanistic Counselling
- Diploma in Clinical and Creative Supervision
- Advanced Diploma in the use of Drama and Movement in Therapy
- BA Hons Humanities
- Current Enhanced CRB Certificate
- "Working with Shame" (Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors)
- Emotionally Focussed Therapy for Couples (EFT) Externship
- Emotionally Focussed Therapy for Couples (EFT) Core Skills Training Parts 1, 2 and 3.
- Year long modular training in GroupWork and Conflict Resolution using Process Orientated Psychology (CFOR, London).
- Trauma with Dartington Trust Therapists' Meeting.
- Borderline Personality Disorder with Dartington Trust Therapists' Meeting.
- "Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery" (Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors)
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Training (Kelly Wilson, co-creator A.C.T.)
- Ongoing Clinical Supervision with Core Process Psychotherapist and Trauma Specialist.
- Ongoing Peer Supervision with Cognitive Analytical Psychotherapist.
- Ongoing Consultancy Supervision with EFT Couple Counsellor and UK EFT Trainer.
- Ongoing Peer Supervision with EFT couple counsellor
- Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy.
- Registered Member of International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focussed Therapy.
- Registered Member of British Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Supervision - individual and group
Couples: £75 for 75 minute sessions, £65 for 60 minute sessions.
Professional Supervision for Therapists and Mentors: £50 for 60 mins. (group supervision also available).