Deborah Williamson At One Sex Therapy and Relationship Counselling Service
My counselling service, At One, offers a safe and accepting space where you will have the freedom to be honest and explore what it is that’s troubling you.
My focus is relationship counselling where I will work with you to explore what troubles you either with the relationship you have with yourself, with a significant other or with your sexual habits.
My aim in providing the service is to help you become At One with:
When you feel At One with yourself you are in touch with your feelings and are able to experience the full spectrum of feelings from joy to sadness, anger to compassion, love to hate, all of which are natural human emotions. Feeling At One with yourself helps you make choices that are better aligned to your values and beliefs and are therefore more comfortable for you to live with.
When you feel At One within your relationship you enjoy an equitable relationship based on mutual respect. You are able to give and receive love in equal measures. You are accepting of your differences, celebrate your individual strengths and support weaknesses. You feel free to be strong and safe to be vulnerable.
Your sexual habits
When you feel At One with your sexual habits you accept your sexuality as an integral part of adult functioning. Your sexual habits do not cause harm to yourself or others. You are able to give and receive sexual pleasure free from guilt or shame.
I believe that being At One is a genuine way of living, which helps to bring purpose and fulfilment to your life. Due to the conditions and expectations placed upon us, many of us lose our way and despite our good fortune and successes we feel dissatisfied and become troubled in one way or another.
This was certainly my experience as I have had my own troubles and in the process made mistakes causing sadness, loss and hurt to those who mattered most to me. Becoming At One involved difficult decisions which had painful consequences but, in life we all have to make decisions for which there are consequences, which may be good, bad or indifferent.
In my experience most people want to be well thought of and don’t want to cause upset so they make compromises ‘for an easier life’. However, when compromise becomes the norm and to the detrement of your own wants and needs, it has an affect and you may realise that you are no longer enjoying an ‘easier life’.
The decision to enter into counselling offers the potential for change, depending what happens in the process. The most important feature of the counselling process is the quality of the relationship between you and the counsellor, described as the ‘therapeutic alliance’. Therefore, if you are thinking about counselling with me I think it’s important for you to consider the following:
Don’t seek counselling from me if:
- You want someone who assumes they know you better than you know yourself
Do seek counselling from me if:
- You want someone with life experience who understands the complexities of relationships and struggles with the internal dialogue
- You want someone genuine who takes an interest and will work sensitively with you to try and make sense of your difficulties
- You want someone who is familiar with dilemmas and will explore options for change and consider potential consequences
I imagine that if you’ve read this far that my writing resonates with you in some way. If you feel that you would like me to help you to become more At One but are unsure what to do, start by sending me an email with the heading At One followed by a brief description of the area of relationship you would like help with. Don’t be worried or put off if you think you don’t know what to say as sending the email is your first step to becoming At One.
Training, qualifications & experience
I benefit from lots of experience, drawn from my personal and professional relationships and from being a mother to two adult children. I have 27 years experience of working within the private sector and 10 years experience working as a social worker in local authority social care settings, working with children and families.
I qualified as a counsellor in 2006 and immediately began further training in couple’s counselling with Relate where I provide counselling and sex therapy to individual’s and couples.
My counselling work has always ran alongside my full-time role as a social worker. However, my passion has always been in counselling so I recently resigned from my employment to devote my time to therapeutic work.
For two days a week I offer support as a volunteer counsellor. I work with the children’s mental health charity, Place2Be using creative therapies to support children within a primary school in Murton, County Durham, and I work with adults providing counselling support at St. Teresa’s hospice in Darlington.
Additionally, I have a student placement with ABC Counselling and Family Centre in Billingham where I provide support as a Trainee Therapeutic Play Practitioner within a primary school in Teesside.
- Post Graduate Diploma in Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy)
- Qualification as a Relate Counsellor
- Diploma in Counselling
- MA in Social Work
- Professional Certificate in Sex Addiction
- Restorative Justice
- Dyadic Developmental Practice, Psychotherapy & Parenting - Levels 1&2
- Theraplay Level 1
Current Ongoing Training
Level 4 Certificate Counselling Children and Young People (Place2Be)
Level 7 Post Graduate Certificate in Therapeutic Play (Play Therapy UK)
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Dyadic Developmental Practice, Psychotherapy & Parenting (DDP)
£50 an hour
I will aim to respond to emails and phone messages within 24 hours.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Evening and daytime appointments available.
Types of client