My name is Amelie Lavan and I am a qualified, experienced counsellor offering counselling to individuals, groups and to children in school settings. I also offer supervision to other therapists. I have ten years counselling experience and a further four years experience as a voluntary counsellor with Cruse Bereavement Care. I was also a secondary and university teacher for many years and have post graduate qualifications in education. I’m a qualified group and family constellations facilitator. For me, the goal of counselling is to help people reclaim or find for the first time a sense of peace and purpose in their lives; lives which currently feel ‘hi-jacked’ by anxiety, fear, depression, or loss of any kind. Our work together will explore your internal set up so that you can recognise what works well and what needs refiguring. We will find tools which will help liberate you from what keeps you stuck. In this unprecedented year of loss imposed by COVID restrictions, I’m offering a discounted rate for people on low incomes. My private practice is in Warley, West Yorkshire which is a few minutes drive from Halifax, Hebden Bridge or Huddersfield. We are also able to work effectively on line via Zoom or Skype.
What is counselling?
At times, all of us feel afraid, anxious, lost, depressed or frustrated. It’s our psyche’s way of telling us something important needs our attention. When we understand these feelings and find the courage to face them, we can then heal ourselves or make positive changes. It’s very hard to do this by ourselves because we’re too close to the problem so this is where counselling comes in. With me as your counsellor, we start a process together to help you discover what your present problem is trying to tell you. When we have clarity on the real nature of the problem, then we can work out strategies to deal with it. Why is this so hard to work out, you might ask? We have conscious and unconscious or hidden ways of behaving and responding to events, which are unique to us. This is a result of our life’s experiences, especially our early childhood ones and how we interpreted or made sense of them at the time. Some parts of us are healthy and respond appropriately to whatever is going on inside and outside ourselves. However, all of us have aspects which do not respond in appropriate ways. They come to the fore when we feel stressed or are experiencing difficult events. Inevitably, our relationship both to ourselves and to others is affected. Counselling is a process where we increase our awareness of our own patterns of behaviour and identify which ones are limiting us in some way. We start noticing things which we haven’t seen before, and start to see how they are holding us back. The more self aware we become of our patterns, the more we are able to assess which ones need to be challenged or changed in some way. We also need to acknowledge our healthy aspects and give them space so they can be nurtured. If you’re reading this website, this process has already begun. You are on the first step to changing your awareness so that you can have a better, more rewarding life.
How can counselling help me?
Counselling is a subtle process and is probably unlike anything else you’ve ever done. If you feel relaxed and safe enough, you will share things which you may not have shared with anyone else. The work can be demanding and challenging at times, but it is deeply rewarding and the benefits can be positively life changing. You will not be alone as you go on this inward journey. I will be with you as your counsellor. The work will be done in a confidential, empathic and respectful way. We will also go at a pace and to a depth which feels right for you now.
You may want to look at issues such as
- bereavement or loss of any kind
- panic attacks
- low self esteem
- anger and irritation
- relationship difficulties
- spiritual concerns
- sexuality issues
- sexual/emotional/physical abuse
How long will it take?
Counselling just takes the time it takes and it’s hard to predict how long that might be for you. You may find that you only need three or four sessions and that this is enough to relieve your current concerns. Some people, though, recognise that their patterns are deep seated and have built up over a long period of time. These patterns can’t be challenged or changed quickly because our defence systems kick in. We need to go slowly and with great respect for the self who really just wants to keep you safe. In this case, we need to work for a longer period of time. Whatever you decide, our work together will aim to support changes you want to make so that you are able to manage better all the challenges that life brings.
Therapeutic Carers Group.
This group is for carers and partners of seriously or terminally ill relatives. Join other carers for a weekly two hour meeting, facilitated by Amelie who is a trained group therapist. The group offers support to carers who are supporting loved ones in very challenging circumstances. We share our experiences, discuss common themes and coping strategies. We find different ways of dealing with what feels like an impossibly difficult situation. We use the group as a safe resource and a place of acceptance and friendship. The group number is limited to eight so that we can get to know each other and everyone has time to speak.
The groups runs for eight weeks and then has a break before a new set of eight weeks starts. Unfortunately, due to Covid and lockdown restrictions, this group has been temporarily put on hold. If you'd like to go on the waiting list for when we can meet again, please get in touch.
Bereavement Support Group
This group offers support to people bereaved by loss of any kind; it could be loss through a relative's alzheimers, disabilty or through death. The loss may be recent or may have been some time ago. We give space to honour and accept our individual experiences. The group supports us in this process as we ourselves support others with our listening presense. So often, we have felt alone in this journey but for two hours a week, we feel the togetherness of the group, who have all experienced something similar. We also explore strategies for coping and for rebuilding our lives. Like the above group, the numbers in this group are limited to eight so that we can get to know each other well. We also run in a cohort of eight sessions, followed by a break and then another eight sessions. Unfortunately, due to Covid and lockdown restrictions, this group has been temporarily put on hold. If you'd like to go on the waiting list for when we can meet again, please get in touch.
Training, qualifications & experience
Post qualification, I have been counselling for ten years and in total, including voluntary work, I’ve been counselling for fourteen years. My training is in integrative counselling (Leeds University 2008-2011). I have a counselling certificate and a post-graduate diploma in integrative counselling (Psychotherapy and Counselling). I am a qualified family constellation facilitator. Before that I was in secondary and adult education, so I have a degree and other post graduate qualifications relevant to education and teaching.
For many years I was an accredited bereavement counsellor, supervisor and group facilitator with Cruse Bereavement Care. Cruse is a national bereavement charity.
I am a supervisor which means I offer supervision to other counsellors. All counsellors (in recognised counselling bodies in the U.K.) agree to be supervised as it is a mandatory requirement if we want to be accepted into a professional body. My supervisees come from a variety of counselling modalities and work settings.
I am a member of BACP (The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and abide by their code of ethics. This code includes aspects of working such as confidentiality, working within my qualifications and experience and having regular supervision.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Concessions offered for
How much do you charge?
A one hour appointment usually costs between £45 and £50 depending on your financial circumstances. However, for this difficult year 2021 I’m offering a discounted rate of £40 for those on low incomes. The sessions are usually weekly. Internet and telephone sessions are available. Supervision costs £60 an hour. Group attendance is £20 for a two hour session.
- I offer concessions for low income groups
- I offer concessions for key workers
Tuesdays - Thursdays during the day.