Mrs Kay Wnekowski
Website: www.surreycounselling.co.uk or www.wiltshirecounsellingservice.co.uk
Are you looking for someone you can trust completely, who can support you and guide you through difficult times?
I'm a warm, friendly, straight talking, dependable and competent counsellor. I work both short term and long term for those clients who want to engage on a more deeply therapeutic level. My approach to life is youthful and combined with the benefit of much rich life experience and a broad and varied toolkit, I have succeeded in helping many satisfied clients over my career in counselling. People tell me I'm a strong woman who is dependable, reliable and above all compassionate.
I am a member of the BACP and hold a Degree and Diploma in Transactional Analysis Counselling and have attended many other trainings to boot. Over the last 12 years I have accrued experience working both within private practice and within an NHS setting, working with a variety of issues including:
- Unhappiness and lack of satisfaction
- health challenges
- in need of anger management support
- or relationship issues.-affairs/betrayals/poor communication/detachment/conflict resolution etc.
Some clients, want to know how to change their situation, achieve more satisfaction, are interested in their own personal development, or just need support to help them achieve their goals or improve the quality of their lives.
So, are you experiencing a problem in your life right now, no matter how difficult, hopeless or frustrating it feels, that I could support you with?
Or, perhaps you aspire to be on track to achieving your goals?
Perhaps you are facing a relationship issues or relationship breakdown, have been thrown by a major life event or other significant challenge?
Maybe you realise that something doesn't feel right and you are not sure why? You want to be happy but just don't know where to begin?
I would describe myself as an Integrative and pragmatic counsellor, implementing the latest cutting edge skills and therapeutic tools with genuine warmth and compassion. My aim is always to help you resolve your issues and get your life back on track as quickly as possible and at a pace that feels right for you. My tool kit comprises of Transactional Analysis (a fantastic tool that will rapidly increase self awareness, help you to make sense of things in a whole new way, improve relationships in your life, enhance your communication skills and gently change the way you think, feel, behave and relate).I have also qualified
in Life coaching and NLP. and draw on all my additional training's including CBT.
Whatever issue you are coping with right now, you can be assured that I will be with you every - step - of - the - way.
I am based in Bagshot and in Aldbourne, Wiltshire.
If you want my help, please give me a cal or email now. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
Contact me at www.surreycounsellingservice.co.uk or www.wiltshirecounsellingservice.co.uk
Training, qualifications & experience
BA Hons Degree in Counselling using Transactional Analysis
Diploma (Metanoia Institute) in Counselling
Diploma in NLP, Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching
Certified Practitioner of NLP
Certified NLP Coach Practitioner
Diploma in CBT
CBT (for counsellors already trained within another modality)
Lightning Process practitioner
Practitioner training skills for Eating disorders
Breaking the Cycle of Depression
Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Understanding Male and female difference
Motivational Enhancement therapy
How to lift Low Self Esteem and Build Confidence
Working with Personality Disorder
Working with Dual Diagnosis
Couples therapy - a practical masterclass
Couples therapy -mananging conflict
Also attended training on Schema Therapy andAl Pasoe therapy.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Lack of Motivation
Relationship Break up /Break down- I provide a space to explore your loss/ make sense of what happened /take the learnings positively forward when you are ready
Coping with an elderly parent
Feelings of being out of control /not in control
Changing and growing the way we think about ourselves
Stress related health issues
Parent conflict/ Parenting support
Breaking negative patterns
Avoidance / Passivity
Same sex relationships
Family politics and conflict
Learning to love again, dating / being single again
Relationship break ups /divorce /separation
Healthy eating /weight management
Personal Development - Discover your identity
Lack or avoidance of intimacy
Workplace issues/work related stress and anxiety
Getting back to work
Feelings of emptiness /Lacking motivation
Face to Face Counselling:Current Daytime /Evening Rate: £50 (50 mins) Aldbourne or Bagshot
Skype- £50 (50 mins)
Couples Counselling £70 (1 hr)
I am based in Bagshot, Surrey, where I practise in a lovely 16th Century office with easy free parking behind the Co-op.The Integral Life Centre has a secure, warm, cosy feeling to it.
I also practise from my home in Aldbourne. The village is only 15-20 minutes from Swindon, Marlborough and Hungerford and less than 25 minutes from Newbury. I would describe my consulting room as characterful, clean, light, bright, warm and very comfortable. There is plenty of parking in the road.
To help you decide whether to take the next step or not, why not read what other people have gained from their experience with me?
And then, take the first small step by emailing me with brief details of your situation or by picking up the phone to arrange an initial appointment.
Testimonials (printed with kind permission)
"Thank you Kay for all your help and support. Attending counselling has made me learn about myself and has given me the confidence to make positive changes in my life."
" CL J
"You have been the most positive person I have ever met. Words can never be enough to show how thankful I am to you for everything you have done for me. No one has ever believed in me or understood me like you have"
"Thankyou for putting the sunshine back in my life."
"Thankyou from my heart for your guidance and wisdom. My time spent with you has given me a totally new and wholly positive outlook on my life."
"Kay tapped into my needs straight away. With her guidance and help I have taken back control of my life. I have learned to be strong, confident and assertive and I use the life skills I learned every day."
"From the first conversation with Kay I felt immediately at ease. I heard a caring, warm and confident person that I could connect with, something I find quite difficult to do on a private level. After 6months of attending counselling my belief that 'life is hard' has now changed to 'life is a challenge and you can only embrace it !' I now find that I have more realistic goals both short and long term, so thank you Kay for coaching me back onto the road of life!'
"Thank you again for all your support, kindness and generosity over the last year and months. You went way beyond the call of duty and I really appreciate everything."
"I feel extremely lucky to have found Kay. When we first met, I hated the word "counselling." But, over a period of time, Kay helped me to develop my inner confidence and re-write my negative beliefs created in my childhood. Not only that; Kay helped me to become much healthier by advising on better eating. Now, I get up earlier, eat well, exercise regularly and have much more energy to work harder at my job. Thank you Kay."
"I found Kay to be an extremely positive person with an enthusiasm for life which rubs off. After my sessions with her, I felt better equipped with lasting advice and techniques to cope with events and feelings."
"Having benefited from counselling in the past, I was confident that it would work again for me. The difference this time was Kay's approach- right from the start she provided me with a huge support structure and the tools to work through my problems but most importantly she made me feel that what I was feeling was important, she listened and respected me, never patronised me and has helped me move forward far quicker than I imagined. With Kay's help and expertise, I feel like 'me' again and I can give no greater compliment than that."
"Counselling has been a very powerful and worthwhile experience for me. I've found Kay to be extremely professional, positive, supportive, experienced and skillful. It has been hard work at times but I've learnt many skills that I can use to support myself in the future."
"Counselling can seem like the hardest thing in the world when you're not feeling at your best but by making a decision to start, you'll be making the first step to a better life.
I worked with Kay for 6 months and when I first met her, I was negative about everything and couldn't see a way through my troubled times. With Kay's help, guidance, expertise and understanding, she slowly but surely, showed me how to love and respect myself, how to be happy and not be afraid of life.
I now wake up every morning with a smile on my face, ready to face the day and my future is brighter than ever before.
If I had to recommend a counsellor/ therapist to anyone, Kay's name would be top of my list. She truly is inspirational and if you're prepared to work with her and work hard to get results, you'll be setting yourself up for a life - couldnt cope. I had lost a lot of self confidence and felt isolated and alone. As a result relationships with my husband and friends felt strained. Kay has helped me to develop strategies to manage my anxiety. She helped me to understand myself far better and to adjust my expectations of life, myself and others so that they were more realistic. I now feel as though I am able to cope with my feelings of anxiety when they arise. I feel more at ease with myself and happy with life."
"Kay, thank you so much for all your help and guidance. By pointing out the paths available and convincing me to turn around when I`d reached a dead-end you have led me on a journey of self-discovery. By pointing out stuff others close to me had not realised or did not say, you made me stand back and question the way I think. You made me realise that two of my unhelpful behaviours: gambling on the internet & doing depression were both me looking for escape routes from the situations I found myself in life whether it be looking for excitement or feeling trapped in my job. By asking me to talk in an objective manner about the past you helped me face up to the fact that I had for a long time been scared of failure. By making me write down my thoughts every day you made me realise that I can act with self-discipline. By encouraging me to break down tasks and time into smaller units you made me feel proud of my achievements. I believe in myself again. The techniques you taught me will stay with me for life. Thank you."
"Kay's a warm listener with a quizzical sense of humour. She helped me challenge my assumptions that the best times were in the past -life's fun now. Thank you for 3 years of good sense and comfort. I shall miss you."
"Whilst Kays professionalism is obvious from the outset, her caring nature ensures that one-to-one sessions are very relaxed. Sharing experiences with her is easy, sometimes sad, occasionally hilarious, but her advice always resounds long after the session. Im glad to have let Kay into my life."
"Counselling was very helpful for me as it got me through a very rough time in my life. I was going through a very difficult crisis in my relationship which was close to total breakdown. The continuous advise and support offered by you was a great help. I learnt about myself and my weaknesses and it helped me understand and value myself as I am much more. Thanks to all the hard work we achieved understanding, respect, trust and happiness again. I would strongly recommend counselling to anyone that recognises the need for it. Recognition of the need for help is the first positive step."
I underwent Couples Counselling on the brink of a complete breakdown in my relationship, over a six month period the sessions helped both myself and my partner come to terms with what had happened, recognise how much we meant to each other and how much we wanted to be together .. we are now planning our wedding and our future life together
Counselling with Kay has made a big difference to my life. Through learning new skills I have been able to control my anxiety, and take a more balanced view of my life and relationships. Ive also learned that I have the power to take positive action and make things change!
Thank you so much for your support and guidance over the past few months. I really feel that this experience has helped me in a way I never thought possible. You have helped me understand more about myself than I expected to and I would recommend your services to anyone. You're brilliant! I hope you continue to help others in the way you have helped me.
Thank you Kay for all your help and support. Attending counselling has made me learn about myself and has given me the confidence to make positive changes in my life.
" Trust is so important to me- and Kay is so worthy of it. She challenges when appropriate, knocks you off your comfort zone and as a result, positive changes occur. Kay is a professional, deeply human, resourceful and very caring counsellor. Thank you Kay. "
"I can't thank you enough for all you have done for me. I now have my sparkle back and get excited about things and am loving life - a far cry from the person who walked through your door thinking I was useless, no good and just wanted to stay in bed. Thank you for giving my sunshine back."
"I came seeking your help as a last resort and now wish it had been my first choice. Thank you for helping me see things as they are which has allowed me to move on with life and embrace the future - not fear it."
"Kay provided me with a safe environment in which to confront a few harsh realities about my life. Being able to do so has allowed me to move my life along from a particularly dark period. Her non-judgmental style, combined with a knack for asking just the right question, steered me to firstly recognise and then address, some behaviour patterns that I hadn’t appreciated had developed so insidiously within me.
With her practical and pragmatic suggestions of how to take a step at a time I was able to start changing the way I lead my life. Every time I left a session with Kay I would take time to let the experience sink in and to approach changing my life with confidence and optimism. I always left a session with something positive to do.
I can thoroughly recommend Kay to anyone who wants the circumstances of their life to change – she will be a great guide to help you move forwards."
"Thank you very much for everything you have done for me.
Coming to counselling was not an easy decision and I did not really know what to expect from the sessions but thanks to Kay’s warm and friendly approach everything seemed to be going fine from day one. She has helped me to understand more about myself, my feelings and emotions and I felt positively challenged by her to think and look for answers. She has enabled me to explore my identity, motivated and inspired me throughout my journey.
Thank you, Kay for being there for me in the darkest moment of my life. Thank you for all your support and advice. Your help made me realise that I should hold on and I am still here today.
"Kay, thank you for everything you have done for me. You have been my lifeline and have become more than I could have ever wished for. The lessons that you have helped me learn have turned my life around and will stay with me always. You will remain with me, my inner voice continuing to keep me on the right track."
Kay has had an extremely positive effect on my life. She managed to turn me from a nervous, depressed and angry man into someone who can face the future with confidence and enthusiasm. Kay is very easy to talk to and extremely patient. After each session I would feel that I was making progress with my problems - she helped me see everything differently.
I would recommend her and her services to any of my loved ones, friends or complete strangers
huge hug kay x
"I am so glad I went to see Kay. Making contact for the first time was the hardest part but definitely worth it. Changing my underlying Core belief about myself is a massive thing and has had an effect on all areas of my life. Each change seems difficult to pin down but added together they have definitely set me on a more positive and enjoyable path through life, so thank you. Counselling is a big commitment but I would do it again in a flash and would recommend anyone considering meeting with Kay to do so too. I thoroughly enjoyed our sessions together and would have kept coming forever if I could have afforded to!!"
"Kay’s practical, objective yet ultimately caring approach helped me tremendously in dealing with the most painful period of my life. She is direct, open and extremely honest as well as highly skilled in encouraging you to look at issues from a different perspective.
"My sessions with her were at times emotional, often fascinating but always constructive. Whilst I hope to never be in a place where I need such services again, if I am I would return to her without hesitation."
"I have thoroughly enjoyed my counselling sessions with Kay! She has made me feel at ease and comfortable and has been extremely patient, listening to my worries and supporting me in dealing with my anxieties. I am a happier person for it! Thank you Kay !"
"Thank you so much Kay for your guidance, your energy, your wisdom and your kindness.You have shown me the way to embrace and enjoy life and helped me gain life skills that will stay with me forever. Thank you so much."
Therapy with Kay has really helped me get the balance I needed back into my life
"I really cannot emphasis how much you have helped me and I am so grateful as without you I would not be as happy and content as I am. I will keep everything that you have taught me on board and I really do miss our sessions! Thank you for everything that you have done for me,"
"This card shows just one of the many lessons I have learnt in our time together. You have been so patient, caring and inspiring. You are amazing at what you do and I feel so lucky to have found you. Many, many thanks for helping me to become the person I always wanted to be."
Kay is an excellent therapist. From the start I felt she understood where I needed help to make the small steps to move forward in my life. I found her knowledge and techniques very thorough. The most useful tools were the homework/visual sheets that really stuck in my mind when making the decisions I needed to change my ways and stop repetitive patterns occurring. This aided me to move forward in my personal, work and marriage areas of my life. Thank you Kay for showing me the light and building confidence back into me. I look forward to reporting to you in the near future.
I have really enjoyed working with Kay and I have found that our counselling sessions were invaluable. Kay creates a welcoming and comfortable atmosphere; providing supportive, patient and non-judgmental assistance. Her sessions are incredibly engaging and informative, using a fantastic mixture of conversation and activities to explore and challenge my anxiety and panic.
Kay explored both the science of anxiety and my personal triggers; helping me to deconstruct and rationalise what had previously felt very overwhelming. Kay then taught me how to challenge my fear using a variety of tools and techniques. These effectively tackle the different elements of anxiety - from the initial thoughts through to the physical symptoms of panic.
As a result, I have a fantastic understanding of how important perception is: allowing me to re-frame my anxiety and beliefs in a new and constructive way. I now have a far richer and more positive understanding of both myself and the wider world; allowing me to reclaim control over my life and to be far more independent. My confidence in my personal, professional and social life has grown immeasurably. I am delighted to have gained invaluable skills and tools for life!
I have thoroughly enjoyed Kay’s counselling and would absolutely recommend it to others!
I came across Kay when my life was at it's lowest point to date. I was on a downward spiral with health scares coupled with severe anxiety which was affecting my quality of life, relationships and work.
Counselling was always something that didn't seem to fit with my beliefs, in that I couldn't see how just talking things through and using techniques could be of any benefit to myself.
I had also heard from numerous people that only the perceived 'crazy' should see a shrink. I had the belief that if I couldn't sort myself out, then no one could.
From the moment Kay opened the door and welcomed me in, I felt a connection and a rapport that I knew would be of huge benefit to me. I was quickly over my concerns and at all times I felt completely confident and relaxed about opening up and dealing with the subjects we discussed (which occasionally were quite painful). I was made to feel at ease, made to feel welcome and I found the whole experience a life changer.The balance was just right in our discussions and the techniques - although not obvious at first became so relevant and important that I will always take them with me. I was finally at a place where I had someone to help me, really listen and at the end of each session I was completely engaged and refocused for the week ahead.
I felt I was getting a friendly and helpful listener who knew how to offer help in a very professional manner and someone who made me think about what I was experiencing in a different way and from a different perspective. This encouraged me to challenge my thought processes and see things from different perspectives and not just focus on the negatives.
I wouldn't say this lightly but in the short time I have known Kay I feel she has changed my life, turned it around and put me back together. I feel I have a different outlook, am a better person and the demons are locked away.
I would just like to end this by saying a massive thank you to Kay on behalf of myself and my family and my loved ones!
"Kay has helped me realise a life I love. With issues of grief, my relationship and general low self worth - she provided a supportive, empowering and insightful framework from which I could heal at my pace.
Kay is very open to using various methods of therapy from traditional counselling to values analysis to hypnosis. All of which I benefited from.
Kay has a very compassionate, nurturing and positive approach And I would recommend Kay as a therapist if you need some extra support to guide you through a difficult time."
"I did it! It is a small step for some, but a giant leap for me! I feel very proud of myself. However, I could n't have done this without your guidance and support. Thank you so much for showing me another path through life. I know that this is a work in progress for me, however I have taken that vital first step on the road of my journey and I can see a way forward. THANK YOU!"
I wish to express my gratitude for your warmth, sensitivity, humour and the insightful teaching you have shared with me over my course of therapy sessions.
This was the second time in my life I have come to you for support and direction and on both occasions I have left you with a much deeper knowledge of myself.
You gave me the tools to live my life as I want to not as a little boat getting thrown around by life’s tsunami. You were a joy to work with and your lessons are with me
Many many thanks
My time I spent with my Kay was always comfortable and I felt I could always tell her everything, I got honest replies back, not always what I wanted to hear, but I knew I needed to know or understand these things to be able to move forward.
I would not hesitate to recommend Kay and although for now my sessions have finished, I will book a catch up one in the not too distant future.
Kay has enabled me to change my path through life. She has a huge depth of understanding and an enormous range of strategies to support deep and lasting change for which I will always be grateful. Her natural warmth and humour also contribute to the process and as with everything in life the more you are prepared to put in the more you will benefit. Kay goes the extra mile to ensure she offers a very high quality of support. I cannot praise her highly enough.
"I have been overwhelmed with how much this experience has changed my life for the better – I strongly believe people should treat their mental health in the same way that they do their physical health. Kay has been truly wonderful and I would recommend her to anyone."
"Thank you Kay for being so insightful and understanding and giving me so many new positive perspectives on life. I really feel like I can make the changes I need to make now."
"Kay resonated with me the second I read her testimonials from clients. No other counsellor has this and I thought “wow” this is so nice and refreshing to read. I had spent the morning looking through potential counsellors on the internet and when I found her it was a ‘yes’ immediately. She quickly replied to my enquiry. Kay’s environment is warm and comforting just what you need when you initially feel like your life is in a vortex. After working with her she gave me the tools to find my ‘voice’ something I only kept inside. This has profoundly changed me for the better in every aspect of my life and I am so grateful for her guidance. It’s challenging to go through counselling it forces you to push through the fear but with her help and your own work you come out the other side. We joked like it’s a Phoenix rising from the ashes. I see life differently, more at ease with what happens, how I react to it, knowing my limitations, having boundaries. She has a great quality of bolstering you up and being honest. She also gives great hugs after a session. Thank you Kay so much for all you made me achieve. I have huge respect for your passion and commitment to your job."
Kay was a great help to me 15 years ago when I was recovering from an unexpected separation: at that time I needed a lot of emotional first aid. Kay helped me regain confidence and learn from that difficult experience. Recently I have been back again, and our discussions have helped me find a calm perspective on life now that children have grown up and partners have gone their separate ways.
Working with Kay was a true eye opener in that she made it so easy to say anything and divulge all that was worrying me. Life is always full of problems but I feel thanks to her. I can now embrace my future in a much better way. I would highly recommend Kay to anyone who needs counselling. She is exceptional.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday to Friday 9am to 8 p.m
Types of client