Pam Henderson, Relationship & Psychosexual Therapist, MSc, PGDip, UKCP (Acc)
Most relationships run into difficulties at some point. The last year has placed many relationships under enormous strain. Relationship therapy can be an effective way to bring about positive change. Common difficulties include:
Feeling stuck. You get on, kind of, but the relationship feels dull and a bit stale.
Pointless arguments. Persistent bickering and contempt make it hard to see a way forward. The last year has been particularly hard for many couples.
Affairs (sexual or emotional). Rebuilding trust can feel like climbing Everest.
Bad or no sex. It can be hard to feel close when sexual difficulties get in the way.
Lock down/Covid/children/families/money/WFH/illness/bereavement. The list of life pressures can seem endless.
Separating. Relationship therapy is not about persuading you to stay together, regardless.
So whether you are single, or in a relationship; living together, living apart, married or in a civil partnership; relationship therapy offers a space to explore and resolve difficulties that affect you.
I start with an initial appointment. It's a chance for you to meet me and see how you feel about working with me. It's an opportunity for me to find out more about what is going on for you, and whether I might be an appropriate therapist for you. At the end of this first appointment, we will make a decision together about whether on-going therapy might be useful. I will often suggest that I see you once or twice separately (if you are attending with a partner). This helps us build a detailed understanding of what is going on, and often makes the focus of our work more useful.
I won't tell you what to do, but I am an active therapist. By this, I mean that I work hard at engaging with you, and will make specific suggestions when you feel this is helpful.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold Relate's Certificate in Marital and Couple Counselling (Theory and Practice) and their Postgraduate Diploma in Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy), accredited by the University of Hull. I also have an MSc in Relationship Therapy from the Relate Institute, accredited by the University of Hull.
I am an accredited member of the UKCP and the College for Sexual and Relationship Therapists (number 2240) www.cosrt.org.uk.
I worked at Cambridge Relate for ten years, and two years at Addenbrookes Hospital, Cambridge. I taught on Relate's Postgraduate Diploma for three years and have been in private practice since 2010.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists
COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.
All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.
UK Council for Psychotherapy
The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) is a leading professional body for the education, training and regulation of psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors. Its register is accredited by the government's Professional Standards Authority.
As part of its commitment to protect the public, it works to improve access to psychotherapy, to support and disseminate research, to improve standards and to respond effectively to complaints against its members.
UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am also a psychosexual therapist, working with sexual difficulties such as:
• loss of desire or a discrepancy of desire
• erectile difficulties
• early (premature) or inhibited (delayed) ejaculation
• orgasmic difficulties
• penetration difficulties (vaginismus and vulval pain)
• sexual addiction
• sexual phobias
* managing the impact of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault or sexual trauma
• impact of illness or disability
£80 per appointment (individual or couple) for daytime appointments ending before 5pm.
£100 per appointment (individual or couple) for appointments starting from 5pm. (No evening availability until September 2021.)