Pam Henderson, Relationship & Psychosexual Therapist, MSc, PGDip, UKCP (Acc)
Most relationships run into difficulties at some point, and relationship therapy can be an effective way to bring about positive change. Common difficulties include:
Feeling stuck. You get on, kind of, but the relationship feels dull and a bit stale.
Pointless arguments. Persistent bickering and contempt make it hard to see a way forward.
Affairs (sexual or emotional). Rebuilding trust can feel like climbing Everest.
Bad or no sex. It can be hard to feel close when sexual difficulties get in the way.
Children/families/money/work/illness/bereavement. The list of life pressures can seem endless.
Separating. Relationship therapy is not about persuading you to stay together, regardless.
So whether you are single, or in a relationship; living together, living apart, married or in a civil partnership; relationship therapy offers a space to explore and resolve difficulties that affect you.
I start with an initial appointment. It's a chance for you to meet me and see how you feel about working with me. It's an opportunity for me to find out more about what is going on for you, and whether I might be an appropriate therapist for you. At the end of this first appointment, we will make a decision together about whether on-going therapy might be useful. I will often suggest that I see you once or twice separately (if you are attending with a partner). This helps us build a detailed understanding of what is going on, and often makes the focus of our work more useful.
I won't tell you what to do, but I am an active therapist. By this, I mean that I work hard at engaging with you, and will make specific suggestions when you feel this is helpful.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold Relates Certificate in Marital and Couple Counselling (Theory and Practice) and their Postgraduate Diploma in Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy), accredited by the University of Hull. I also have an MSc in Relationship Therapy from the Relate Institute, accredited by the University of Hull.
I am an accredited member of the UKCP and the College for Sexual and Relationship Therapists (number 2240) www.cosrt.org.uk.
I worked at Cambridge Relate for ten years, and two years at Addenbrookes Hospital, Cambridge. I taught on Relate's Postgraduate Diploma for three years and have been in private practice since 2010.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am also a psychosexual therapist, working with sexual difficulties such as:
• loss of desire or a discrepancy of desire
• erectile difficulties
• early (premature) or inhibited (delayed) ejaculation
• orgasmic difficulties
• penetration difficulties (vaginismus and vulval pain)
• sexual addiction
• sexual phobias
* managing the impact of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault or sexual trauma
• impact of illness or disability
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
£80 per appointment (individual or couple) for daytime appointments ending before 5pm.
£100 per appointment (individual or couple) for appointments starting from 5pm.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Monday to Friday 8.30am - 4.00pm and Mondays at 5.30pm.
Types of client