Pam Henderson

I work primarily with couples who have relationship and/or sexual difficulties and want to explore what positive change is possible.  Common difficulties include:
Feeling stuck. You get on, kind of, but the relationship feels dull and a bit stale.
Pointless arguments.  Persistent bickering and contempt make it hard to see a way forward.                                                                                                 Affairs (sexual or emotional).  Rebuilding trust can feel like climbing Everest.
Bad or no sex.  It can be hard to feel close when sexual difficulties get in the way.
Work/children/families/money/mental or physical health problems/bereavement.  The list of life pressures can seem endless.
Separating.  Relationship therapy is not about persuading you to stay together, regardless.                                                                                          Consensual non-monogamy.  Polyamory, ethical non-monogamy.  It's got a few different names, and some couples choose therapy as a place to discuss this.

So whether you are single, or in a relationship; living together, living apart, married or in a civil partnership; relationship therapy offers a space to explore and resolve difficulties that affect you.
I start with an initial appointment. It's a chance for you to meet me and see how you feel about working with me. It's an opportunity for me to find out more about what is going on for you, and whether I might be an appropriate therapist for you. At the end of this first appointment, we will make a decision together about whether on-going therapy might be useful. I will often suggest that I see you once or twice separately (if you are attending with a partner). This helps us build a detailed understanding of what is going on, and often makes the focus of our work more useful.
I won't tell you what to do, but I am an active therapist. By this, I mean that I work hard at engaging with you, and will make specific suggestions when you feel this is helpful.  I am neuro-diverse aware and am experienced in working with couples where one or both partners may be autistic and/or have ADHD.  

A significant part of my practice includes using EMDR (reprocessing therapy) with individuals who have experienced trauma or adverse life experiences.

I am also a psychosexual therapist, working with sexual difficulties such as:

• loss of desire or a discrepancy of desire
• erectile difficulties
• early (premature) or inhibited (delayed) ejaculation
• orgasmic difficulties
• penetration difficulties (vaginismus and vulval pain)
• sexual addiction
• sexual phobias
* managing the impact of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault or sexual trauma
• impact of illness or disability

www.cambridgesextherapy.co,uk

£90 per appointment (individual or couple) for daytime appointments ending before 5pm.

£120 per appointment (individual or couple) for appointments starting from 5pm. (No availability at the moment.)