Sumeet Grover

Introduction
I am a UKCP registered psychotherapist, offering therapy to individuals, couples and adult family members. I am also a UKCP Recognised Supervisor (RS), offering psychodynamic clinical supervision to psychotherapists.

You can read more about my work with individuals and couples below.

What brings you to therapy?
People usually come to therapy because something in their life has become difficult to understand or change. Sometimes there is an obvious crisis. At other times, life may look perfectly functional from the outside, whilst underneath there is anxiety, loneliness, relationship difficulty, shame, trauma, exhaustion, feeling unseen, or a sense of being caught in ways of relating to others that repeatedly leave you feeling hurt or upset, rather than building lasting and fulfilling connections.

We are relational beings at our core. We become emotionally wounded within relationships, and psychotherapy offers a very different kind of relational experience, within which we can begin to rediscover the depths of ourselves and learn to relate to others differently.

How I work
My approach is relational psychodynamic, which means that I am interested not only in what is happening now, but also in what may lie underneath it: the relationships that have shaped you, the ways you learned to protect yourself, and the difficult or unprocessed emotions and experiences, from both the present and the past, that may continue to influence your life without being fully conscious. I also pay attention to how the groups we belong to, including our families, communities and wider society, shape how we see ourselves and relate to others.

Therapy with me is not about being told what to do, or being given a set of techniques to follow. It is a space to think honestly about your experiences, thoughts, needs and feelings; about your relationships and the parts of your experience which may be unthinkable or unspeakable. Over time, we can begin to notice the connections between past and present, and understand why certain feelings, relationships or situations affect you in the way they do.

I believe that the wisdom to heal or repair resides within you, however frustrating it can sometimes be to discover it. The process of therapy is to help you come in touch with this, so that you can find your own unique way of dealing with life's challenges.

The difficulties I work with
I work with anxiety, trauma, interpersonal relationship difficulties, low self-worth, shame, intimacy, sexuality, identity, workplace pressures and major periods of change. I also work with people who are used to functioning at a high level professionally, but who may privately feel anxious, stuck, lonely, overwhelmed or disconnected from themselves.

Who I Work With
I work with professionals and people from corporate backgrounds, as well as actors, public figures and creative people. I also offer a warm and welcoming space for lesbian, gay and bisexual clients.

As a multilingual person, I welcome working with people whose lived experience is informed by different cultures, languages and ways of belonging, including those navigating questions around identity, family expectations or cultural difference.

For trauma survivors, where words or stories may not be accessible, or may feel too frightening to approach directly, I also offer sandplay therapy and spontaneous drawing, informed by Jungian thinking.

Couples and relationship difficulties
I work with couples who may find themselves repeating the same arguments, becoming distant from one another, or struggling after betrayal, loss or change. Although helping you to communicate more openly and transparently is an important part of therapy with me, I am also interested in what remains unspeakable within the couple, how each person’s individual history has shaped them, and how the life they have lived together may have been marked by emotional and relational difficulties that are hard to make sense of, yet continue to affect their relationship in the present.

Psychiatric Conditions Not Covered

At present, I do not offer psychotherapy for new clients with a diagnosis of, or signs of, personality disorders at my private practice.

More About Me
Before training as a psychotherapist, I had a varied professional and creative life. I studied for a master’s degree in engineering, worked in financial services for a decade, authored three books of poetry, and wrote art and book reviews. I have also been involved with several international organisations working in the fields of arts and conflict transformation, and have read Buddhist philosophy for around fifteen years.

My poetry has won a prize, and has also been shortlisted and longlisted for other poetry awards.

I speak English, Hindi and Dutch, and have a keen interest in Dutch art and culture, as well as European arthouse cinema.

• Individual (1:1) Psychotherapy: Fees range from £75 to £95, based on what feels most affordable and sustainable for you. Each session lasts for exactly 50 minutes. I offer both online and in-person sessions. Online Sessions only for Marlborough Clients. 

• Couples Therapy: £104 for a 50 minute appointment. £125 for a 60 minute appointment. Online sessions only for Couples Counselling.

Clinical Supervision, Timings & Fees

I offer clinical supervision from a psychodynamic perspective, having trained at the Institute of Group Analysis (IGA), London. I am a UKCP Recognised Supervisor (RS). Supervision with me will cover you for your work with individuals, couples and groups.

Individual Supervision: Charged at £70 for 50 minutes.

Online Group Clinical Supervision: There are spaces available in two online supervision groups that run fortnightly. Please get in touch to enquire. There are a maximum of 4 therapists in an online supervision group. £45 per participant.

Open to: UKCP reg. Psychotherapists and Trainees

Fortnightly Commitment to Group Supervision

By seeking Group Supervision with me, you would be committing to attending fortnightly supervision each month. Just like in therapy, it is the continuity and consistency that help us to go into depth, and therefore, this commitment is to ensure just that.

First Session & Subsequent Appointments

Couples Psychotherapy: Sessions last for 50 or 60 minutes, depending on your preference. Before our first appointment, I will send both of you a detailed relationship therapy questionnaire to fill in, which will give me a deeper understanding of what has brought you to therapy. Online sessions only for couples therapy.

Individual Psychotherapy: Initial Assessment Session lasts for 55 minutes, and is a structured appointment with a set of questions that I go through with you in order to understand you and your life history at a deeper level. All subsequent sessions last for exactly 50 minutes. Both in-person and online sessions are offered.

PUBLICATIONS

Below is a list of some psychotherapy articles that I have written:

• Understanding Childhood Trauma - https://www.transcend.org/tms/2022/09/understanding-childhood-trauma/ - Transcend Media Service (TMS)
• The Role of Artmaking and Symbolism in Trauma Therapy - https://www.transcend.org/tms/2023/07/the-role-of-artmaking-and-symbolism-in-trauma-therapy/ - Transcend Media Service (TMS)
• Surviving Childhood Trauma: The Impact of Domestic Violence - https://www.transcend.org/tms/2023/08/surviving-childhood-trauma-the-impact-of-domestic-violence/ - Transcend Media Service (TMS)
• Recovering from Childhood Trauma: Exploring Rage as the Missing Piece - https://www.transcend.org/tms/2023/11/recovering-from-complex-trauma-exploring-rage-as-the-missing-piece/ - Transcend Media Service (TMS)
• Book Review: Building a Life Worth Living by Marsha M. Linehan - https://www.transcend.org/tms/2022/01/building-a-life-worth-living/ - Transcend Media Service (TMS)