Penney Hames

I have an MA in Child Development and an MSc and over 15 years' experience in Family and Systemic Psychotherapy - a form of relationship therapy.  I am also fully trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT helps people build stronger, more authentic relationships with all those they love. Originally designed for couples, it's now been found to work for individuals and family relationships too.

In study after study EFT has been shown to help over 65% of couples to experience deep and lasting love with their partners once again. Some couples tell me that after EFT their relationship is better than it ever was! I see couples who have recently fallen out of love and couples who have been unhappy with each other for years, sometimes decades. My sense is that it's never too late. Using a powerful theory about the nature of adult love I'll help you untangle the destructive patterns you get hooked into, talk about and let go of those painful feelings of hurt, loneliness and distrust, and be right with you as you reach out for each other in loving, open ways, reigniting the love and the safety that all great relationships contain.

EFT is a leading approach within couple therapy, couples counselling and marital therapy. I also work with separated couples to help them to separate well, to ensure their children know that they are loved and to help them to understand themselves better, making another relationship more likely to succeed.

EFT can also help you as an individual to become fully aware of the way that you process emotions and to become more at ease with expressing your true self, helping you to feel safe and secure in all your relationships. If you want to improve your relationships, experience the joy of real connection and feel secure with the people that you love, EFT can work for you. 

I work with people experiencing depression, anxiety, the effects of previous abuse, illness, trauma and death. We'll explore what goes on inside you as you experience these tough times. I'll stay right with you as you touch the pain, hurt, loneliness and sadness that may underly all these experiences, and gently and carefully help you explore how that feels, and help you as you express that to me or to other important people in your life - whether they are in the room with you or in your mind - helping you to gain the relief and sense of connection with others that that brings. 

I see children young people and adults on an individual basis as well as working with couples in comfortable and welcoming private rooms at my home in Alton, Hampshire.

If you would like to talk to me without obligation, please do get in touch. We will have an initial phone conversation which is not paid for and we can explore together how I can help. 

Session fee: Initial 75 minutes session £85, thereafter, £60 (individual 60 min session), £70 (60 minute family/couple session)

I am able to offer some flexibility in session fee to those financially unable to meet the full cost.