Paul Moulding
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About me
As a Relate trained couples counsellor, I have trained in a range of different ways of working which include focusing on how a couple communicates, and also how a couple and their wider family works as a system.
How does couples counselling work?
The two of you in the room with me, we work on understanding what went wrong and why. And what to do to improve the situation. Much of this is about communication; how people communicate with each other, or don’t.
Sometimes one person will speak, sometimes the other, I may ask you to do an exercise or volunteer for homework.
Playing the blame game and continuing the arguments in the counselling room aren't part of the therapy, and I won’t take sides.
We’ll examine how your personal histories are affecting your relationship.
I have helped couples to communicate better and understand each other better. Also, I’ve helped couples to reach the difficult decision to separate. I consider both a success, as a lifetime can be a long time to be unhappy.
I’m a Relate-trained couples counsellor, not a sex-therapist. I look for emotional/relationship problems that can lead to sex being unsatisfying or absent, but sex is not the only focus. And, it’s ok to say it out loud!
I don’t specialise in working with gay couples, but my training did include this, and I’m happy to work with you. I’ve worked well with gay clients in solo work. I don’t assume that being gay is why you want counselling.
II believe in being straightforward as a Counsellor, not in trying to dazzle clients with long words and fancy theories. I believe that counselling works because of the skill and experience of the Counsellor, and their ability to build rapport, and the clients’ commitment to and willingness to change. My office, which used to be a bedroom, is in a very ordinary house; I believe that as long as the environment is satisfactory then it is the quality of the work that matters most.
My interests include cycling, hiking, history and reading and writing poetry.
Training, qualifications & experience
I’ve worked in retail, customer service, manufacturing, driving, charities, the NHS and the military. Divorced, bereaved, a Father and Step-Father, I’ve got over my own depression and anxiety. So whilst I’ve trained as a counsellor, I remain very down to earth, and I draw on my experience if it useful.
Qualifications:
CPCAB Level 5 Post-Qualifying
Certificate in Relational Counselling (Relate) 2023
Foundation Certificate in Transactional Analysis 2022.
Online Counselling; Audio & Webcam (2020)
Introduction to Art Therapy (2020).
Working with Survivors of Adult Rape and Sexual Assault (2020).
Introduction to Transactional Analysis (2019).
BACP online modules; sex & porn addiction, identity and masculinity (2019).
Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (2018).
Level 3 Certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapies (CBT) (2009).
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Theories (2009).
Level 4 qualification in Information, Advice and Guidance (2008).
Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills (2008).
Experience:
Now in my eighth year as a Counsellor, including working at Mind in Barnsley and private practice. I also have 13 years experience working with adults with mental health problems at Mind and Richmond Fellowship as a Mental Health Employment Specialist, Trainer and Manager.
I am insured and registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, and I follow their code of ethics which is available on their website.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).
Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.
Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.
All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
My experience of working with a diverse range of people has included working with feelings of depression, loneliness, grief, anxiety, hopelessness, anger, existential problems and difficulties at work.
You will be accepted for who you are: I welcome the opportunity to work with people of all sexual orientations, genders and ethnicities.
I recognise that identifying as LGBTQ, doesn’t mean that’s the reason you want counselling. Whatever a person’s sexual identity, life still throws stuff at us.
I am straight, but open minded and I offer judgment and assumption-free counselling. As individuals, what makes us unique is often a vital clue to unlocking our potential and becoming the best version of ourselves that we can.
Therapies offered
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Fees
£60.00 per session
Free initial telephone or online session
Additional information
My couples rate is £60 per session.
Taking the first step can be the hardest thing you will do. If you would like to find out a bit more about what I can offer you, please call or email me to book a free 15 minute telephone discussion to enable you to decide if I am the right counsellor for you.
I work in Honley face to face and I also offer zoom sessions.
Payment methods: Cash / paypal / bank transfer.
When I work
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My first morning appointment starts at 10.00 am.
My last evening appointment starts at 7pm.
Further information
In addition to counselling, it is essential that people take care of their physical and mental wellbeing in other ways, including physical activity, eating healthily, relaxation, having fun and spending time in nature. It is a core part of my practice to support and encourage clients to take care of their wellbeing. Many people I have worked with have made positive changes in these areas and felt the benefit.
It is my belief that although the bad things that may have happened to us in the past will perhaps never be okay, we can integrate them into our life stories and come to terms with them. Also I feel that in many situations we have the power of choice, although often we don’t see it, or the choices are unattractive.
As individuals, what makes us unique is often a vital clue to unlocking our problems. I believe finding our own path to contentment lies in celebrating our difference; being honest with ourselves and others and liberating ourselves from the expectations of other people and society.
