About me
I am trained in a range of evidence-based psychological therapies, to offer you an approach specific to you and your needs, such as:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for anxiety and depression
Attachment-based therapy for those struggling in relationships
Exposure therapy for panic, social anxiety and general anxiety
Solution-focused brief therapy
We will get to the heart of the issues causing you problems from session one, and I will suggest practical solutions for your distress. I won’t waste your time with new fads, or techniques that are not backed by research.
I'm quite an active therapist compared to many others: I will step in to help you see your thought patterns and repetitive behaviours, and offer ideas for ways for you to change. I'll suggest readings and things you can practice between sessions. After all, there are 168 hours in a week; you usually only spend one in therapy. How you spend the other 167 matters. I'm not the expert on how you should live your life; but I can help and guide you towards feeling better and living the life you want.
I will help you challenge the way you think about your life, and to behave in new ways. We won’t just talk about the causes of your problems, like a lot of therapy.
I have a particular expertise and interest in the science of attachment, which explains how previous relationships can shape unhelpful responses in future relationships.
This is particularly helpful in working with couples – understanding why each partner acts in the ways they do – and helping them respond in new ways.
I've also co-written the book on what the evidence shows makes up the best therapy – A Straight Talking Introduction to Therapy: what is it, how it works, how to get it. So, you can be re-assured I am focusing on what will work for you.
Before training as a therapist, I worked for two decades at the centre of government, solving some of the most complex problems facing the country, and shaping decisions that affected millions of people.
I left to retrain, and set up The London Centre for Applied Psychotherapy which provides evidence-based training to mental health professionals, and consults to business on mental health and wellbeing at work. I have an MBA from Imperial College, London.
Who I see
I offer help to individuals, couples and parents. I tend to work with people that – despite their problems – are doing well in their lives. It might seem from the outside that they’re doing fine, but underneath, maybe in a specific part of their life, they’re really struggling.
Typically, this is people who work in highly pressured jobs ranging from senior executives to professional sport. My previous professional background helps me understand their challenges.
Often, people come to me, whether as individuals or couples, because they’re struggling to make their relationships work – at work, at home with their partners and children.
What I can help with
I have over a decade of experience improving the lives of those interested in making positive changes – whether they have depression, anxiety, addictions or relationship challenges. I love what I do, and that drives me to ensure that you’re not wasting your time and money. If I don’t think I’m best placed to help, I’ll let you know straight away and provide you with some recommendations for someone who will be well-placed to help.
I work online
I’ve been working solely online for more than two years. The vast majority of people who come to me for help appreciate how convenient it is for them. They don’t have to travel to someone’s office or house, and can fit it in during the working day when an in-person session simply wouldn’t be feasible. The evidence suggests it makes no difference to whether you’ll find our work beneficial.
Training, qualifications & experience
I’m Graham Johnston, a Therapist & Relationship Expert. I work with individuals and couples, with a particular focus on relationships and on helping successful, capable people who find that their usual ways of coping aren’t working as well as they usually do.
People come to me with a wide range of difficulties: recurring arguments, relationship breakdown, disconnection or problems with intimacy; anxiety, low mood and stress; or simply a sense that they’re stuck and don’t know how to move forward.
I’m a relationship expert on ITV’s My Mum, Your Dad, co-host of the relationship podcast Crazy in Love, a Psychology Today writer and author of A Straight Talking Introduction to Therapy.
I believe therapy should be useful. My aim is to help you understand what is really going on, identify what is keeping you stuck and work out what you can actually do differently.
My approach is practical, active and evidence-informed. I’ll listen carefully and take the time to understand what is happening, but therapy shouldn’t simply involve talking about the same problems over and over again.
I’m interested in the patterns that keep difficulties going — whether that’s the way you and your partner respond to each other during conflict, assumptions you’ve developed about yourself or other people, or behaviours that may once have helped but are no longer working.
I’ll help you make sense of these patterns and, importantly, work out what needs to change. That might involve challenging unhelpful assumptions, trying different ways of responding, improving communication, or making changes outside the therapy room.
My style is warm, straightforward and collaborative. I won’t simply tell you what to do, but I also won’t sit back and leave you to work everything out for yourself. I’ll ask questions, offer perspectives and challenge you when I think it could be useful.
You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what you need from therapy. We can start with what is happening now and work out together what would make the biggest difference.
I work online with clients across the UK and internationally. Whether you’re coming as an individual or a couple, the starting point is the same: understanding what is happening, what you want to change, and what is getting in the way.
If you’re used to being capable and dealing with things yourself, asking for help can feel like a significant step. You don’t need to have everything figured out before you get in touch. We can start from wherever you are and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) is a leading professional body for the education, training and regulation of psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors. Its register is accredited by the government's Professional Standards Authority.
As part of its commitment to protect the public, it works to improve access to psychotherapy, to support and disseminate research, to improve standards and to respond effectively to complaints against its members.
UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Fees
£100.00 per session
Free initial online session