I am a British Chinese highly experienced Counsellor, MA Counselling Tutor, Counselling Supervisor, a Registered Member MBACP and a member of the ACC and abide by their codes of ethics and practice. I have over 13 years experience in offering therapy. I am a warm, compassionate and empathetic Therapist and I treat you with dignity and respect.
Helping you make sense of what you are going through.
How have Covid, lockdown and the various world events impacted you? Some seem to be unaffected, whilst you may be experiencing a range of things, such as anxiety, fear, worry, sadness, angry, feeling low, feeling out of control, lost, overwhelmed, dread, experiencing panic attacks, your appetite has been affected, sleep patterns have changed and/or you might be behaving and thinking things that are out of character for you.
We are living in unprecedented times where our mental health and wellbeing will be affected. I offer you a warm, supportive, compassionate, reflective and empathetic space to unpack what you are experiencing, and make sense of how things have affected you and how to move forward with resiliency and self compassion.
In addition to Covid and world events there may be issues that have been bubbling underneath the surface, but due to the hustle and bustle of daily life, it might have been difficult to find intentional time to process what is really going on.
You might be feeling tired and overwhelmed but do not understand why. Living daily with anxiety, stressed, feeling depressed or dread may have become all too familiar and you do not know how to stop the relentless cycle.
Having therapy gives you the intentional time, space and permission to look at the things you want to address. This could be yourself, your relationships, the areas, responses, attitudes and behaviours that you want to understand more deeply, amongst others, and then intentionally choose for yourself how you wish to continue to be. It is possible to break the cycles, make healthy and positive changes, and live a much fuller life.
We live in a 'quick fix' culture, wanting instantaneous results. However, lasting physical body changes take time, commitment, energy and diet changes to make it happen and to see change. So it is with your mental and emotional health. Changes in the way you think and see yourself and the issues you want to address will also take time to change and cultivate because you have spent months, years or even decades getting very adept at unhelpful cycles of thinking, feeling and behaving. The good news is that it will not take that long to learn new ways of approaching things. As we work together to exercise new mental and emotional muscles, you will build a new way of living for long lasting change, breaking old unhealthy and unhelpful cycles. Let yourself have that time today.
I am an experienced Therapist offering counselling in a number of issues, some of which include:
- Relationship and Family Problems
- Feeling Sad
- Self Harm
- Panic Attacks
- Low Self-Esteem and Confidence
- Unresolved Past Hurts and Regrets
- Life Transitions
- Stress and Work Related Issues
- Suicidal Thoughts
- Changes & Transitions
- Intergenerational trauma
- British Chinese Identity
I counsel from the following locations:
* Online using Zoom, Whatsapp Video or FaceTime
* Walk and Talk Therapy Outdoors
* In Person Therapy
As an Integrative Counsellor I work in a holistic manner with a client led approach and tailor therapy according to the needs of each person. Establishing a therapeutic relationship with you I believe, is a key for any progress to be made. Part of being integrative is offering you what I call a 'toolbox' of ways to help you tell your story, in your way, including Person Centred Therapy and various Creative Approaches as sometimes, a picture can paint a thousand words.
I also am Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 1 trained. (https://ifs-institute.com)
My Christian faith informs my views of human beings but I do not impose my own beliefs or values. I respect each person's individual right to their own beliefs. I am open to discussing issues of faith, religion and spirituality as part of the counselling process if you request it.
I offer short (up to 6 sessions) and medium (6-12 sessions) term therapy, as well as long term open ended therapy.
Outside of private practice I also work as a MA Counselling Tutor and Supervisor.
Training, qualifications & experience
Training & Qualifications
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 1 trained
- Diploma in Supervision
- MA in Integrative Psychotherapy
- Diploma in Christian Counselling
- BA Psychology
I have experience of counselling primary school aged children, secondary school aged children and adults.
In addition to my counselling experience I have worked for many years in a charity that supports people who are long term unemployed, as well as disadvantaged members of the community. I also have significant experience of working with young people who have either been excluded from school, who have been to prison or who were school refusers in a Department Manager capacity, as well as as a Young People’s Counsellor.
I also have experience of working in the public sector, supporting families who were experiencing various challenges. In particular my work focused on giving support to families during periods of transition, such as those receiving various new diagnoses for their children, and the practical and emotional complexities and impact that arise from experiencing such transitions.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Unresolved past issues and regrets
- Change and transitions
- Identity and culture (I have experience of the issues a person might face when living in a culture or ethnicity different to one's own, and the impact that can have on one's identity)
- Other addictive behaviours
From £60.00 to £90.00
Free initial telephone or online session
Complementary 20 minute Initial Session:
Choosing a Counsellor who you feel comfortable with is important. This initial session helps us find out more about each other, and for us to decide if we would be a good fit to continue working together.
£60 per 50 minute session
£90 per 75 minute session
A limited number of concessions are available. Please feel free to enquire about availability.
I offer short (up to 6 sessions) and medium (6-12 sessions) term therapy, as well as long term open ended therapy.
How Does Therapy 'Work'?
If you have never had therapy before, and even if you have, it can be a daunting experience. Telling a complete stranger your issues can feel surreal and unnatural.
Therapy is process. It is a journey of discovery for you, and for me, because I believe that everyone is individual and unique and that no two peoples experience or therapy process is the same. I respect who you are, the individual and unique experience that you bring and want to hear and understand your story, in your words.
From getting to know you I can offer different ways of helping to you to understand the issues that are concerning you and to figure out a way forward. I offer a client led approach; therefore no two peoples experience, content or time taken in therapy is comparable. It is your process, your journey, your time and I walk that with you.
Here is a flavour of what therapy with me was like for one person I worked with:
"It took me years and years to get the courage to go to my GP and tell him I believe I suffered from depression and anxiety. Years of panic attacks, dark thoughts, loneliness and denial. 5 minutes later, I was leaving with a prescription for anti-depressants and advice to go to counselling. It took me another 6 months to arrange counselling. I struggle to talk about my feelings and to ask for help generally and I was still kind of in denial.
I found Ellen through a review website and she seemed to be down to earth. Ellen's profile stood out to me but I can't now put a finger on why. We exchanged emails and then a phone call and set an appointment date. I was pleased with myself but also terrified. When I turned up I was so nervous. Ellen was so calm and relaxed and I spent the next hour throwing up negative life events that I had self diagnosed as the cause of my issues. It made little sense but Ellen listened attentively and an hour flew by. At no point did I feel judged which is a big thing for me.
I walked out and was consumed with anxiety for sharing all those things but also for my non-sensical approach. Ellen wasn't phased. Over the next 6 weeks I would come to look forward to our chats and by the last week, it was genuinely the highlight of my week. I am far from an expert about techniques but I feel the most comfortable and happy with who I am than I have ever felt in my life and I'm 31. I had the confidence to move aboard on my own a few months after our sessions and I previously didn't like doing anything on my own.
Ellen has given me a belief system, an outlook and a calmness to my life that I've never had before. A way to not be consumed and to step back and appreciate. I discovered what the panic attacks were and how to identify the feeling before they start. I now have a whole tool box of ways to deal with the black fog and can identify that also even when I'm in deep. All this and I can't say one specific thing that Ellen told me because that's not her approach. It's not a lecture, it's not listen to this and you'll be cured. I should note that I was open and willing to read what was suggested and work on the techniques. As a result, I no longer need the anti-depressants.
I feel like I've woken up to life and what Ellen has made me realise is that it was there all along, I just wasn't being present in it. I had a moment on London Bridge midway through our sessions. I'd spent years powerwalking to my office , absent-mindlessly planning my day or being grumpy about something or someone. That moment, I wasn't thinking, I was just there and I could feel the sun on my shoulders and my face and I looked around for the first time on my commute and the view was beautiful, I'd seen it a thousand times but I'd never appreciated it until that moment. It was that moment that I knew I could feel free."