About me
When something in your life needs to change
Perhaps anxiety has begun taking up too much space in your life. You may be experiencing panic attacks, health anxiety, overthinking or feeling constantly on alert. Maybe you're exhausted from appearing okay when inside you feel overwhelmed, disconnected or unable to switch off.
Or perhaps something in your relationships keeps repeating. You might understand quite a lot about yourself already yet still find yourself responding in ways you wish you could change.
Maybe you're usually the one supporting everybody else while quietly wondering: Who is there for me?
Knowing something needs to change isn't always the same as knowing how to change it.
I am an attachment-focused relational therapist working with individuals and couples, particularly around anxiety, emotional overwhelm and relationship difficulties.
Understanding your story
You don't need to know why you feel or respond as you do before coming to therapy. We can become curious about that together.
My work is influenced by attachment-based psychotherapy and how our experiences and relationships can shape the way we experience ourselves and others. We may explore what happens inside you when something feels difficult and the patterns you find yourself returning to.
Sometimes the question shifts from 'Why am I like this? ' to 'What is happening inside me right now?'
Anxiety doesn't only happen in your thoughts. It can show up in a racing heart, tight chest, disturbed sleep or a body that never seems to switch off. Sometimes the sensations themselves become frightening, leading to checking, reassurance-seeking or health anxiety. Hypervigilance can leave you constantly watching for signs that something is wrong.
Where useful, we can pay attention to what is happening in your body alongside your thoughts and emotions.
What would it be like to work with me?
I see therapy as something co-created between us. My way of working is warm, relational, conversational and active.
I won't just listen and sit in silence while you try to work everything out alone. I may ask questions, share something I have noticed, help you make connections or gently challenge something when I think it may be helpful. There are also times when saying less is more helpful. There is room for reflection and challenge, words and silence, seriousness and sometimes humour.
Therapy can be exploratory and practical. We might work on:
- coping with anxiety, distress and overwhelm
- recognising triggers and finding ways to manage intense emotions
- understanding recurring emotional and relationship patterns
- communicating your needs and boundaries
- finding different ways of responding when familiar reactions take over
You may also be experiencing OCD and intrusive thoughts, dissociation, masking, difficulties with identity, body image, food or eating, or exploring how ADHD, autism/ASD or other forms of neurodivergence shape your emotions, relationships or daily life.
I am interested in the person experiencing the difficulty, not simply the label attached to it.
And sometimes something important happens between us. You might worry that I am judging you, agree when part of you disagrees, or pull back after sharing something vulnerable. We don't have to brush those moments aside. They may help us understand something that happens in your other relationships too.
Therapy has to make sense in your world
Culture, family, faith, migration, gender, identity, belonging and family expectations can shape how we understand ourselves and our relationships. Historical and intergenerational trauma may also be part of your story.
I don't assume there is one "correct" psychological way to live.
If faith or spirituality matters to you, it can have a place in our work too - whether it brings comfort, meaning, questions or conflict.
We don't only grieve people
We can grieve a relationship, the childhood we wish had been different, a parent who was physically present but never really emotionally available, leaving a country or community, changes in health, estrangement - or the life we thought we were going to have.
There can also be grief for something we never had.
Grief doesn't have to follow a timetable, and therapy doesn't have to be about 'moving on'.
When the relationship becomes the battleground
Most couples don't come to counselling because they've stopped loving each other - they come because something's getting in the way. Maybe it's repeated arguments, silence or a loss of closeness that neither of you quite knows how to change.
My advanced attachment-focused couples training draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), PACT and Gottman-informed approaches.
Couples can become caught in patterns where one reaches harder for connection while the other pulls away. The more one tries to be heard, the more overwhelmed or distant the other may become.
My role isn't to take sides but to understand both of you and what is happening between you.
Often both partners are fighting for the relationship in completely different ways - and neither experiences what the other is doing as love.
Therapy gives us space to slow that pattern down and begin hearing what has become difficult to say.
Clinical supervision
I provide clinical supervision to both trainee and qualified counsellors and psychotherapists, as well as supervision for counselling and psychotherapy supervisors. My approach includes attention to client work, relational processes, parallel processes, ethical practice and professional development.
My training
My professional training includes a Diploma in Integrative Counselling (covering psychodynamic and humanistic approaches), specialist Level 5 training in Attachment-Based Psychotherapy, and advanced Level 7 postgraduate training in attachment-focused psychotherapeutic practice, including advanced trauma work, couples work, clinical supervision and research.
If we work together
I want to understand your world from the inside - what life feels like for you, not simply how it looks from the outside.
You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what to say or with everything worked out.
We can start with what is happening for you now and see whether working together feels right.
Training, qualifications & experience
My professional training includes a Diploma in Integrative Counselling (covering psychodynamic and humanistic approaches), specialist Level 5 training in Attachment-Based Psychotherapy, and advanced Level 7 postgraduate training in attachment-focused psychotherapeutic practice, including advanced trauma work, couples work, clinical supervision and research.
I am registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Attachment difficulties and attachment styles, including how they may shape repeating patterns in behaviour, relationships and the way you experience yourself and others.
- Emotional regulation and emotional overwhelm.
- Self-confidence, self-worth and self-esteem.
- Shame and feelings of not being good enough.
- Rejection and fear of rejection.
- Fears around closeness, abandonment, judgement and loss.
- Emotional awareness, emotional communication and expressing needs.
- Historical and intergenerational trauma.
- Hypervigilance, dissociation and masking.
- Identity and belonging.
- Body image and difficulties around food and eating.
- Health anxiety, intrusive thoughts and reassurance-seeking.
- Grief and loss, including losses beyond bereavement.
- Cultural identity, migration, faith and spirituality.
- Communication, boundaries and conflict within relationships.
Therapies offered
Fees
£75.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
£75 per 50-minute session
£20 for 30-minute initial assessment
Concessionary rate offered; please enquire
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Further information
I provide a secure, and encouraging environment to allow my clients to challenge their established ways of thinking without any fear of being judged.
