Tony Sabey UKCP MBACP
I am an attachment based psychoanalytic psychotherapist practicing in Crouch End & Muswell Hill. Beginning with a free 'getting to know you' session I offer a warm, pragmatic, open and human approach to both individuals and couples and have twenty years experience working with a wide range of clinical issues.
I draw on a range of approaches which means I adapt the way I work to suit you and your particular problem and stage of life. As a teacher I work at the Bowlby Centre and the College of North East London lecturing on childhood abuse trauma and dissociation, and person centred and attachment based psychodynamic counselling.I am registered with the UKCP [United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapists] and a fully accredited member of the BACP [British Association of Counsellors & Psychotherapists]. I provide clinical supervision to qualified counsellors and psychotherapists and students in training.
Training, qualifications & experience
After a lengthy involvement with humanistic approaches I trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy in 1997, followed by a further degree in transpersonal approaches, and a professional involvement in the International and European Societies for the study of trauma and dissociation. I am particularly interested in working with depression, dissociation, generalised anxiety disorder, and intimacy and relationship problems. Sometimes these are related to childhood sexual or physical abuse, alternatively they may be connected to an emotionally absent father, a depressed mother or simply to caretaking miss-attunements in the early years, even by otherwise loving parents.
Other consequences of sub-optimal childhood experiences can include: a fragile sense of self and meaning of life issues; recurrent feelings of lonelyness; emotional numbness; a sense of being different to others; a sense of being on the outside of life looking in; a sense of there being something wrong but can’t work out what it is; uncertainty about ones interests and talents; feelings of suppressed shame and/or guilt; difficulties being angry; experience of strong feelings or no feelings, but no middle ground; tendency to feel that when you do express yourself you come across as childish; a fear of being seen or thought of as selfish; a tendency to feel others are more grown up than you; experience of difficulty keeping “normal” conversations going; a tendency to put others needs before your own; difficulties initiating friendships; experience of people coming to you for practical advice but not emotiomal support; a sense of being a fake; a dislike of feeling needy; frequently being uncertain what you feel, or understanding what others feel; difficulties with authority and deadlines, sometimes even those imposed by yourself. Many or just some of these experiences can be indicative of inner wounds unresolved and in need of repair, and unmet emotional needs requiring recognition, empathy and understanding to become the emotional resources necessary for a fully functioning adult life.
In addition to a private practice in North London working with individuals and couples, I lecture on childhood abuse trauma and dissociation, and psychodynamic and person centred counselling, in a variety of settings including the Bowlby Centre and the College of North East London. I am clinical director of Counselling Initiatives which provides low cost open-ended counselling in the community, and I work with addictions through my involvement with the Sporting Chance Clinic where I run the equine psychotherapy program.
I am a member of the International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis & Psychotherapy [IARPP] and the European Society for Traumatic Stress Studies [ESTSS]. I am currently undertaking doctoral research on complex post traumatic stress arising from attachment trauma in childhood.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Child related issues
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am interested in mindfulness and recent neuroscience and include both in my understanding of human development, disorder and change. If appropriate I will talk through and encourage the use of relational change and self support practices outside sessions, emphasising the role of focused attention in identifying and releasing emotional distress and unresolved traumas, and exploring new aspects and configurations of self.
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Couples counselling
- Equine therapy
- Existential therapy
- Gestalt therapy
- Humanistic therapies
- Interpersonal therapy
- Jungian therapy
- Other therapies
Standard fee is £50 per 50-minute hour for individuals, £75 for couples. Some reduced rates for students, low income, redundancy, marital break-up: Other concessions may be available, contact me for details. I do not charge for an initial exploratory meeting.
Supervision £45, concessionary rate for students subject to availability. Group supervision £10-£15 dependent on numbers – max 4.
I also offer mentoring for student counsellors and psychotherapists up to Masters level by arrangement. Bespoke arrangements can include counselling by telephone, email or online [Skype].
I offer short to medium term supportive/explorative or solution focused counselling for current problems or distress including bereavement, unemployment, stage-of-life issues, recovery from addictions, relationships, depression, anxiety states. For deeper more intractable issues I offer open ended attachment based psychodynamic psychotherapy. In both cases I draw on a wide range of traditions including psychoanalytic, attachment, humanistic, existential, Jungian, Schema and Trauma/Dissociation based therapies.
In addition to the main therapeutic approaches, when appropriate I work with the inner child who can be carrying complex post traumatic stress arising from adversity in childhood. Separable from overt neglect or physical or sexual abuse - though often an accompaniment, this type of stress can arise from trauma in a lower key that children have had to 'get over' in their own way. For example divorce, death of a loved one, long term illness or infidelity of a parent; or simply the cumulative effects of harshness or general lack of empathy or support within the family.
If you would like to phone or email me we can arrange an initial conversation at no cost to give you space to reflect on current issues, consider how you might go forward, and for us to meet each other. After our first meeting we can decide on further sessions, or you might like to go away and think about this experience before coming to a decision.
Having decided on a course of counselling, sessions are usually arranged at weekly intervals and last for 50 minutes, or one hour for couples.
I work in Crouch End in North London.
You can phone me on 07889 161634 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Everything that takes place within the counselling relationship is treated with respect and discretion. An agreement on confidentiality, duration and cost is made at the outset.
I abide by the code of ethics and Practice of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and the United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapists.
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